The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

tea_lover

Primmer, thanks for that idea. They do offer counselling which as far as I know we're still able to access. Part of me is resisting the idea as I think I'd get really angry (not at OH, just at the situation) and I'm not sure it would be pretty. I feel like there's a lot of rage just under the surface right now!

Thinking of you today, hope you're ok x.

becca0417

Hope you're ok Primmer

Tea I hope you come to a decision. I really hope they have something positive to say at your appointment x

Part_Mouse

Primmer thinking of you.

Becca ouch, sorry to hear your hsg was so painful.

Xx

claire16c

tea_lover wrote: »

That's the million dollar question. OH is totally against trying ICSI again. I think he'd be ok with clomid or something like that (tbh he wouldn't necessarily even notice clomid!) I have no idea whether we'll be offered anything else. Obviously we could try ICSI again if we paid.

I was trying my best to get my head around not doing anything and trying to think of the positives (there are a lot - holidays, alcohol, etc lol) But I just can't stop thinking about it. I don't feel ready to give up on this - but I'm not ready to give up on my relationship either so we're pretty much at stalemate. It would help if we able to talk about it without it degenerating into a slanging match but we haven't managed that yet.

Will see what tomorrow brings....

Tea what is your OHs main reason for not wanting to do it again? Incase it goes wrong?

lucyloo77

Congraulations Birdie and Team Lowe - that's lovely news and I'm really pleased for you both xx

Tea, I really hope you and OH can reach a decision / compromise you're both ok with, so you know where you're at and can look forward to the future one way or another. It's still really soon for you both so maybe it just needs a little more time. xx

AFM: I've been signed off work for 2 weeks by my GP. I tried to work yesterday morning (I was working from home, not at the office, thankfully) and I started to cry and I just couldn't stop. I cried literally all day. I feel physically shattered. Living in a horrible limbo at the moment, still bleeding, and waiting to test again on Friday and see what the clinic says.

tea_lover

Lucy, big hugs xx. Really hope Friday brings better news. Know what you mean about the crying, it's like actual floodgates!

claire16c wrote: »

Tea what is your OHs main reason for not wanting to do it again? Incase it goes wrong?

He's completely convinced that it wouldn't work, so he just sees it as a massive waste of money. He's got it in his head that ivf never works, for anyone.

claire16c

Lucy I wish I could make it ok for you x

Tea, I see. Was your first try nhs or did you have to pay? Would you be able to do iui to save costs or is that not appropriate for you?

becca0417

Sorry this is weird but I take it I can't use my mooncup after hsg today? Wearing towels is irritating me!

tea_lover

Claire, our first try was nhs. We've just managed to have a conversation about it and he's now saying he wouldn't rule it out but not straight away. I've pointed out that our best odds come from doing this as soon as possible, as the odds are going down all the time. We've left it at that for now. Better than the last time we spoke about it when he nearly packed his bags.

Afaik iui isn't an option for us as we have severe male factor issues. Which I think is one of oh's main problems with the idea of trying again - he sees it as his fault. Obviously i don't, but I can't get that through to him.

Part_Mouse

So many hugs needed on this thread, group hug for all.

Lucy I hope Friday brings better news for you.

Tea I hope your oh can find it in him to try again.

Afm just waiting for Fridays scan to see if I will ov on my last go at tamoxafin.

Xx