The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

EverTheOptimist

Tea - I'm so sorry to hear that. I was really hopeful and feeling so positive for you. Thinking of you hun. xxx

I was 6+4 when i lost my first babba. and it started the same way with lighter test results and then a bleed, i did unfortunately have strong cramping, for which i spent 40 mins in the bath. Then i passed the embryo/ feotus, although it was more of a clot not anything recognisable. Thankfully the pain then stopped. and thankfully i had a complete miscarriage so didnt have to have any further input. Although i did have to go back to the clinic for a scan and bloods to ensure 'it' had all gone.

Primmer

TeaLover I am so sorry I know mine was different in that I started bleeding before testing day and when I had to test on the day it was negative and so I never had the positive test. However, I did still have two little embies inside me that I carried for 11 days until the bleeding began and it is such a horible thing to go through. For me the bleeding and cramps were not much worse than a normal period but it felt much worse because I had pinned all my hopes and dreams on it working and as silly as it sounds I was attached to those little embies inside and didn't want to lose them. I stopped taking the cyclogest on testing day after getting the negative as that is what the clinic told me to do but it did feel horrible to stop taking it. I really wish I could take the hurt away, be kind to yourself and take the time you need xx

Primmer

Team Lowe - sending hugs, life is so b****y unfair at times. We are all here, desperate for a child, knowing that we would love and take care of it and be the best parent we could and it is just not happening. I certainly understand the feeling of wanting to shut out the outside world.

BZ - how frustrating about the scan, how is DH coping?

Part_Mouse

BZ sorry to hear about your dh scan, what a pain for you both.

All back from the hosp now, got 4ish weeks for the result.

xx

Courgette

Tea - I'm so sorry to hear your news. I lost twins at 7 weeks and physically it wasn't painful and I didn't see anything either. So sorry that this has happened xx

mrshappy

Aw Tea, I don't know what to say So so sorry to see what's happened, thinking of you xxx
Hugs to everyone who is feeling down just now x

bigzippy

Primmer, I think that because the pain and discomfort has lessened a but he's a little less worried now. He was at level 10, when I asked him last night he was at 6 (scared-o-meter), and today on the phone they mentioned looking for signs of a hernia, so I think he's taking that as a better sign and is now at a 5. Phew.

Partmouse, I've forgotten what the biopsy was for...? Good luck tho

onestep

Sounds like we're all going through it atm.. Virtual hugs to everyone.

I'm so very sorry tea, don't worry about your parents. They'll be able to support you through the coming days & weeks. You're allowed to be angry, and it'll take time to mourn, so do be gentle with yourself (same goes for OH, how is he?). My first loss was early too, but it doesn't make it hurt any less. Don't worry about seeing anything, it'll be just like the others have said, a heavier than normal period. Sending gentle hugs x

And BZ, T2D, and to everyone else going through a rough time.. It will pass. It will. It might not seem like it but you are all coping so well in such arduous times. Give yourselves credit, & reward yourselves this w/e with a little treat. Tell your OH's that I said you had to!

Primmer

BZ - glad to hear DH is feeling better at the mention of hernia and hope scan goes ok on tues.

Part_Mouse

BZ I had an abnormal smear test last year for the second time so had to have a biopsy then as well.

Xx