The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

becca0417

Oh tea I'm so so sorry for you sweetie xxx

mrsj28

tealover am so, so sorry

claire16c

Tea Im so sad for you. You were the first person in a while I was genuinely happy to see get pregnant and I dont even know you in real life! And I was really hoping when you got the lighter tests it would just be 'one of those things' that turned out to be nothing.

Nothing I can say will help but like the other ladies on here have said we are thinking of you

xx

abis21

Awww tea Lots and lots of love and hugs.

You haven't made anything worse for your mum and dad. They will be sad, of course, but they will be there to support you now too.

As for the cyclogest - I felt like that after having an ERPC. I knew the baby had physically gone, but I still wanted to protect it. I didn't want to take ibroprufen for the cramps, and I didn't want a glass of wine or anything. I had been in TTC and pregnant mode for a while that it was just 'normal' for me, and the urge to protect is so strong.

For me, I had a negative test following some slight spotting, but before any real bleeding started. It took about a day for the bleeding and cramping to start after the negative test. I was 4+3, and there weren't many clots, it was just a heavier period and more cramps than I would usually have. You don't see anything in the early stages, as its all so small.

I didn't go to work until the bleeding had started as I just wanted to be at home. Take as much time as you need from work etc. Its a horrible time. You will need to use sanitary towels rather than tampons due to risk of infection.

Take care of you and your OH and be kind to yourselves. The first few days are so hard emotionally, and you will probably feel numb, bleak, in denial, in shock, sad, angry, distraught etc. Its a grieving process, both for the loss of your babies, but also the future with them. There are no right and wrong ways of dealing with things, or how you will feel. It just all sucks so much.

Lots of love xxxxx

TeamLowe

So sorry to hear your news tea, take good care of yourself and DH x

TeamLowe

Have my FS appointment on 11 June so not much longer to wait until I don't know what. Kind of given up on nhs help. Given up on it happening naturally. Not entirely sure where that leaves me.
First baby would have been due January 2011, now I realise if anything happens it'll be 2014 at least when I have the baby.
I don't know how much of my upset at seeing the years roll by is upset that I lost my baby and how much is my infertility. Might as call it that as that's what my letter says.
I would love and care for my baby so much and so well, they'd be my whole world.

I think I need to stay in my home today, I'm not going out into a world of happy families, it's killing me inside right now x

Whattodonow

Hey teamlowe. Sorry you're feeling down. If it helps I've called in sick this morning so I don't have to leave the house. Feeling lonely, frustrated, sad, stressed and just want to avoid the world and their babies!

You deserve and need your "you-time". Hopefully tomorrow you'll feel a little better x

QQuaver

I'm so sorry Tea (((hugs))):(

Hugs to you too TeamLowe (((hugs))).

Part_Mouse

TL and wtdn thinking of you both.

xx

bigzippy

Tealover, I'm so sorry

Teamlowe, wtdn, I empathise. I've barely drawn the curtains or got dressed this week hope you're feeling better soon.

Part mouse - biopsy?


Afm, dh's scan has been postponed til tuesday :cool: they rang early this morning, but they did say something about checking for a hernia, so at least we have an idea what kind of thing they're looking for now!