oi what you doing here

savingholmes

Hi El - you have to stand firm! What I have been doing recently is batch cooking meals - so today I cooked 3 lots of meals for today and later in the week. That helps avoid the temptation of takeaways or supermarket convenience food as I have already prepared it in portion sized tubs.

I have had homemade chicken fried rice a few times recently - and bought one large portion of chippy chips to go with it. So it feels a bit like we've had a takeaway but with less cost and fewer calories....

It might be worth keeping a little diary of when the temptation for takeaways hits - and then set up a strategy of pre-cooking to remove the urge... Just a thought...

taxi73

I agree stick to your guns..it's the only way that he can learn and that you can stop the cycle!!

KEEP STRONG

elantan

There seems to be a slight thaw in the elantan household .... Today I have been asked what I would like for breakfast .. now however he has went out to buy it ( I just asked for egg on toast) cause apparently we have no eggs left ( I saw over half a dozen on Monday ... Wonder where they went to) don't get me wrong I can still tell by the way he is talking that he isn't happy .... But it's slightly less chilly

Karmacat

You've been sticking to your guns - good for you - I guess what it boils down to is that if you're a rescuer in one area of your life, you do it in others - and you've been rescuing your OH, maybe?

You've stopped now, so he's going to throw a paddy, of course - but get through this, and get him communicating back to you (we can hope, y'know?) then things will look a lot, lot brighter.
xxx

taxi73

Keep on hanging in there..things will go right eventually xx

elantan

yes i have deff been rescuing my oh kc .... its funny how i managed to stop rescuing him when it came to his drinking ...and sometimes am called a whole host of names because of it from other people (funnily enough not hubby ...he knows what i put up with) ...so i spose i am just going to have to suck it up for this bit as well lol ...i found the eggs in the fridge ...we now have more eggs than we know what to do with

Karmacat

Oh dear! Well, um, you could make cake, and cake freezes :rolleyes: sort of..........

:mad: to other people criticising on whats between you and OH - no way. Support or leave, but people have a lot of emotional energy invested in the status quo, very often.

Good luck with it all.

savingholmes

Hi el - glad the atmosphere is improving!

boredofbeingathome

Hope things are improving for you El. x

elantan

did my scratchies today 10p there ...

we are down to our last £5 from the £40 well actually not we have £20 but mr el has informed me he is going to the sauna at the weekend while i am working and it will cost £15 to which i said yeah no worries you know how much we have so if you think we can afford it fire away ...i aint gonna be accused of not letting him go out so i reckon i should just let him figure out how we are gonna manage ....

i can see a huge arguement on the horizon but am prepared for it