Trying For a Baby III

astro_k_2

Hi B2B - congratulations - that's fantastic news! (I remember you too, but that was probably when I was still lurking, too reticent to post...) I agree with you totally, that in general the docs say paracetamol in pregnancy is okay, but aspirin not. Which is why I was quite surprised to hear that they treat this sticky blood thing with aspirin, or warfarin which is rat poison I think! Guess it must be in very low doses. Must read up on it properly...

winnie72

I pop in now again and have just now as I saw a doctor yesterday following my 2 miscarriages to get blood results.
He reckons 60% of pregnancies end in miscarriage so the testing early sets us up for heartache as a late period can be a miscarriage if you hadn't tested to know you were pregnant. I haven't got the sticky blood thing but did say if I have no side effects can take it from when I fall pregnant up to 34 weeks but is a very low dose. They will also scan regularly from 7 weeks up to 12 weeks to try and reassure you and reduce the stress.
Still waiting for chromosome tests but we can now try again and would be referred to genetics only if the chromosomes come back with a problem which is only 3-4%. Hope that helps someone out there. Feel free to PM me if you have any other queries.

Lauralou

Afternoon ladies
aww yay b2b so happy for you, hope everything goes ok
About the asprin bit my mum had three mcs after me and they told her if she fell pregnant again then asprin may help and the doctor said it to me too. A girl my sisters knows she had 5 mc (couldnt cope with 5) but they said for her next pregnancy to take half a Paracetamol a day and i think that girl has had the baby now.
rik1978 i really do hope the doctors will do some tests. suppose im quite lucky to be getting my blood tests done after two mc.
To the ballet teachers, how do i find local adult dance classes, something i want to look into and learn ballet or tap.

Courgette not long no!ooo even im feeling excited for you:D

Jenny you havnt been married for long, hope married life is going well and so glad you are feeling better.

And hope everyone is better who i have missed:D

Well nothing new with me really, me and OH dtd for the first in about a month, funnily i felt really shy and nervous about it! so starting again well im not thinking that we are trying just that we are not being safe!!:p
Hope everyone is well today and no1 worked too had

CAFCGirl

in terms of blood thinning... found this information

http://www.ctds.info/natthinners.html

rik1978

well I'm back from the docs and in a right state. what an absolute waste of time. he basically advised me to cancel my private appointment next week as it's 'money down the drain'. I countered that even if the tests come back negative then that would give me some piece of mind. he told me that two mc's were still very common (which I already knew) and that if they tested every woman after two then the hospitals would be inundated.
I got myself in an absolute state (which I'm mortified about now) and said what happens if I had another mc and I then find out that a few basic blood tests reveal that a third mc could have been avoided. I explained the traumatic events of the last mc (which I won't go into for fear of upsetting people) and that I couldn't risk going through that again without having some major reasons for mc ruled out. the doc said he understood (how?) but said that having tests was not possible. He told me that I have loads of time still to get pregnant (I'm 31) and there is no need to hurry to get answers :mad:. I then became incredibly angry - I seem to be flying off the handle constantly at the moment - and said that it was very difficult to look at things like that when you desperately want children and all of your close friends are having babies all over the place with absolutely no problems.
in the end he placated me by saying he would write a letter to the local hospital to see whether they would consider giving me some tests and if I don't hear anything after two weeks to get in touch with the doctors surgery, I'm not holding my breath!

now I'm sitting here and I'm so sad, I'm angry at the entire world, I'm upset with all of my friends who are having babies all over the place (I am happy for them most of the time), I feel lonely (even though I have my hubby) but worst of all I think the doctors right and I'm just being melodramatic. I think this is officially rock bottom - oh well the only way is up at least

sorry for bringing you all down, I just needed to vent

becs

Oh Rik, I don't know what to say.:grouphug:
I've never had a mc so I'm not able to comment from experience. I do know a lot of how you're feeling right now though. I'm 37 in January and started trying for a family 2 and a half years ago. Right now I would give absoloutely anything to have a positive test to just show that it is possible and give me the hope to cary on. I have several friends who have had mc's and 1 of them had 5 before she had her 2 children. Sadly I think even if the dr's could tell you there was something wrong it's still no guarantee that you wouldn't mc for another reason? It sounds to me that you're in desperate need of some counselling to enable you to have the strength to try again and fight your fear head on. Everyone is different and we all have to try and cope with our own situations. Catw0man has had 2 mc's and has a fabulous attitude towards trying again but I think only you can get to the same point with some help in accepting it. If only there were a pill we could all take that made us pg and nothing ever went wrong but sadly we all have issues to overcome and we have to look to others for the support and strength to help us carry on and reach our goal! I really hope I don't sound insensitive here because I am in no way trying to belittle the horrendous time that you have had. I have just taught myself over the past few years that we can't dwell on the past we have to live for the here and now and be brave enough to move forward to the future. I know if it were me wild horses would not stop me from trying again and again and again until I got there. And I know it's the experiences of others that have gone through the same that would give me that hope to keep on. I wish you all the luck and hope you can find the strength soon.

elliebobs

rik1978; really sorry to hear about your experience in the doctor's surgery. In a way I can see it from his point of view as the NHS only has limited resources but I'm in no way condoning his manner nor am I saying that I wouldnt have reacted in exactly the same way as you. Personally, and for what it's worth, I would go for the private tests and !!!!!! the money. You need to know for your own piece of mind although, and please do not take this the wrong way, if it rules out 'anything' it might not necessarily mean that you will not suffer another MC. I'm sorry if that sounds so blunt and the last thing I want to do is upset you especially now. Sometime horrible horrible things happen and for no apparant reason.

You haven't brought me down so don't worry about that; that's exactly what we're here for; the good news and the bad times.

I really really hope that things pick up for you v v soon; it's been a rough ride for you.

Take care of yourself

Elliexxx

ETA After reading back I'm still in two minds as to whether or not this needs deleting as I really don't want to upset anyone with my comments. If anyone is upset please let me know as it is honestly not my intention; I just don't know how else to phrase it.xx .

skintscotslass

(((rik))) - cant really offer any practical advise, just wanted to give you a hug xx

Lauralou

rik so sorry to hear the doctors didnt go very well. Just so werid how some doctors can be so different. To be honest i'm really surprised my doctor is letting me have a blood test as i have only had two mc's and i am still young. but i really dont know how doctors can make you wait untill you have three to go through tests, its a horrible horrible thing to go through
Is your doctors male or female? maybe try a female (my doctor is male!) you should come and see me doctor!
(hugs)
Hope you feel better soon.

portsmouthali

Rik, I can honestly say having had only m/c, this has been the lowest I've ever been, and I hope I never feel this pain again - so I can't begin to imagine how you feel having been through it twice. I too am Rh-, but was assured that was not the reason for the m/c (maybe because I already have a son?? - was too upset to ask at the time)

I was also told that I'd have to have 3 m/c's for it to be investigated further (I didn't even ask! Was too busy blubbing) so I guess it's the same in my area.

So, so sorry for your losses, hope things look up for you soon and you get the happiness that you deserve :grouphug: