Trying For a Baby III

twinklie

OOOOh Gena how have you missed any posts from me about the bathroom! I go on about it enough!!! Nope, it's no where near finished. Still got to sort the bath, other wall for tiles, sink, papering the other walls and sorting the ceiling (it's all wooden panels that need plastering over - false ceiling).

Bathroom was aborted because we had to start out the back of the house to fit in with when the builders could come. So the last week or so has been demolishing and digging! Foundations were laid for our brick built shed/utility room. I don't care though....I've got a toilet and a shower cubicle so I'm :j

Natalie6999

I never forget how lucky I am to have my son who took nearly 3 years & 2 m/cs to conceive, but both myself & my OH are so desperate for another child it is maybe harder than wanting a child when you don't already have one.

When my son comes home from school & asks why he doesn't have a brother or sister or says he wants one it's heartbreaking trying to explain to a 5 year old that he may never have one.

There are no rights or wrongs in the way anyone deals with this emotive subject but we all have our own ways of dealing with it,

No one is trying to drive anyone away, if anything we need to stick together & support each other in any way we can.

Gena

Sorry Twinklie I must have skimmed over it:o:D Sometimes I don't have time to read properly, or I try to watch tele at the same time - like now - and I should know better cos I can't do either properly when I try to do both at the same time:D Shower and toilet, don't blame you for being :j:D

Nikabella

I'm really sad to see this evenings posts - I can see everyones point of view, sadly TTC is a very difficult journey that can be different for everyone. The majority of the time I think this thread and the 12month+ one are an incredibly important resource for a lot of posters and the level of support is amazing.

I truely believe that everybody who posts on the two threads hearts are in the right place. At times the TTC journey can make us all more emotional and I completely agree that the written word can sometimes be misinterpreted. I don't think there was anything inflammatory about LL's post and understand about Nunny wanting to take a break, I really, really hope that no-one will feel that they cannot return to either thread because of this evening. Becs, please do not leave us, your wisdom is always appreciated and I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it is for any of you ladies that have been trying for so long regardless of whether you already have a child or not.

I haven't been around much lately to post but I do try & read everyday - I could never express enough how much I appreciated the support of both of these threads during my latest journey. We are all different but you are all wonderful and I really hope things won't change.

Love,
A.xxx

bitzer_maloney

*runs in*
scotsgirl just wanted to say twinklie was right, I read your reply to me earlier but didn't have time to reply. Sending superglue thoughts your way!

As for everything else, hell, to me these boards are all about support. I know SS is not helpful, its as useful as worrying, but I'm guilty of it as I'm still relatively new to ttc. I'm finding I do it less and less as each month goes by though.I don't want anyone to feel they have to leave a thread or that they're not welcome, I wouldn't want to be part of a thread like that.

I don't know what the answer is, I wish I did. We all deal with stuff in different ways, I can't imagine how the IVFers cope and I hope I never have to go through that myself.

Equally when I'm feeling particularly blue and down about it all, sometimes I feel annoyed that some people get so het up trying for DD/DS2 when all I want is to know that I *can* get pregnant in the first place. Hell, I'd be happy enough with 2 lines on a stick somedays! <Please don't any of you take offence, I'm not thinking of anyone specifically here, you know how the dark thoughts can get at times>

So, maybe Nikabella's right, maybe its a combination of the written word being hard to interpret, the high emotional component of the journey and stuff. We all have the same aim, we just take different paths. Hopefully there's space and understanding enough for us to help each other along the way.

scotsgirl_3

You're allowed dark thoughts bitzer!

bitzer_maloney

scotsgirl wrote: »

You're allowed dark thoughts bitzer!

I know, I just try to limit them to people that pee me off at work

snugglepants

Woah, woah, WOAH!! I think this has been taken out of context just a tad, don't you?! I've read the messages, and unfortunately I think smartie's post was read wrong by most of the girls over there. I don't think anyone is saying that the "old-timers" are in the wrong to not like ss'ing, or that people ccan't take breaks from the forum! The "issue" as it were, I think, is that someone/some people were making us feel like ss'ing is pathetic. As has been highlighted by a few of us, ss'ing is all part of the journey - not something to be ridiculed. When you're first starting out you're bound to SS somewhat - it's natural. LL said she needed a break from this forum because of the SS'ing going on, which is understandable. It is a good thing that there is a forum for the long-term TTC'ers, they need support too, in maybe some ways that we who are just starting out on our journey cannot help them with. That's kind of the point of TTC/TTC 12+/Pregnancy/MSE Parents etc, so that things don't get overlapped so people feel more comfortable. Please don't take that as "you belong here/there" as that's not what I'm saying - there are specific threads for people, but we all are welcome everywhere. And I know that most if not ALL of us here really love having the more "experienced" ones around - it helps to hold the thread together, and it's like having resident experts

I think what I'm trying to say is that this has totally been blown out of proportion, with some people getting touchy about the issue raised, and then taken out of context! We have a lovely bunch of ladies on here - wherever they post - and I don't think anyone wants ANYBODY to feel uncomfortable or pushed out in any way. We have new people coming in all the time, and when I get sick of the anticipation of the 2ww etc I'll gladly support the newbies (who come in all the time - ss'ing is going to happen on this thread forever!) without getting their hopes up if I can once I'm more experienced and have gotten to know my body better.

Sorry for the long winded post.....I hope I've not talked nonsense

Goodnight ladies, and see you tomorrow for a large dose of PMA!!

elliebobs

Well said Snugglepants and others! I started reading and catching up, as I do every night even though I may not post, and wondered what the blazes had gone on!!!!!

Suffice to say TTC is bloody hard work; it saps you (and our poor OH's) of all your emotional energy and feelings run high. Sometimes the truth hurts and if someone is upset then they are entitled to their opinion; for me the SS'ing is an integral part of the TTC journey and you would have to be a robot not to do it. If you don't want others to 'convince' you that you are PG then perhaps the wisest thing to do is not to mention your symptoms on an internet TTC forum!. Just my opinion though and no offence is intended.

At the end of the day we are all aiming for the same thing (regardless if some posters already have children) and we all need the support; personally I would be lost without this thread as only me and OH know that we are TTC and it breaks my heart every month when AF turns up yet I don't want to upset him and it's not fair to rant at him either. I therefore would like to thank you all for your posts;if nothing else I know now that I'm not the only one unable to get PG just by apparently looking at a bloke!

Thanks again; I think you're all great!!!!!

E

xx

Gena

Good morning all hope everyone is well.
Blue sky outside here, not sure how long it will last so I'll enjoy it whilst I can.
My OH's DDs will be with us quite a bit more over the next few weeks, and we're off "down south" on sunday for the funeral, so I won't be in here as much. I'll try to catch up (probably more skimming, sorry!) and post when I can. It's just not as easy to get access to a laptop, let alone post on a ttc thread when there's anyone other than me and OH here!
Have a good day everyone:D xx