MSE Pregnancy Club XIV

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got-it-spend-it

Oh my gosh, Harley, that is dreadful! I really hope you get to speak to someone with some clout tomorrow, and that you get some serious compensation.

I feel like a right old saddo tonight- I keep checking Facebook to see what my friends are up to, but of course it's Friday night so I expect they are out, getting !!!!!!! Not that I would choose to be anywhere but at home, lounging around with no bra on.

jennynoo

BettyDebt wrote: »

Quick recap of my first posts here.
3 weeks ago was told had miscarriage - didn't know I pregnant nor were hubby and I trying.
2 weeks on was getting increasingly nauseous and dizzy. Went to A&E who said I was still pregnant, had scan to check for ectopic. Scan showed bean with a heartbeat and they said I was 5-6mm and around 5/6 weeks. Drs said it was likely I miscarried a twin.

Then on Tuesday I was in the bath and suddenly bath looked like a horror story. Started freaking out that I was miscarrying, got out bath tried and just waited a bit to see if water had exagerrated it. But no I was bleeding A LOT!! A&E trip and 3hrs later I had a very condesending Dr who basically never listened to my story and said that any uncomfortableness or slight pain is pyschological being my first pregnancy. Wont scan me today because if I bleed tomorrow I will want another scan!! ggggrrr well of course I would - its scary especially as I have supposedly already miscarried one within the same pregnancy!

Next morning I call epu & ultra sound and they wont scan me for a week because Dr put on my notes only to scan in a week!! Nothing they could do unless it was an emergency and I came into A&E again. Obviously now I am really stressed about not knowing and been given no information or help and also had no midwife yet because my appointment wasnt for a while because I was only 5 weeks (though I kept saying I was further along as I knew conception date but no one would listen). My last notes also said I had a cyst on ovary but no one explained what it was.

Anyway instead of going insane I found a private place who had no appointments but listened to my story and said they would fit me in because I had had such a rough time. What an amazing lady we saw, she told me everything to look out for, answered any concerns. Generally gave me time and concern.

Scan was fine and heard heartbeat and I am definitely 8 weeks along and bean is 16mm long!! She said all looks fine and cant see a reason for the bleed but the quantity is worrying and I should go in to the Dr the minute that happens again. Said that pains and uncomfortable feelings are NOT pyschological as first baby and body is changing and uterus pushing things aside and making room. Said cyst was luteal and obviously necessary. Shew! I feel 100% more relaxed about it.

I know people can have periods right throughout pregnancy but I have to say the amount I have bleed was very scary and it happens over 4-5hrs and then stops.
Sorry for the long post! Its just so frustrating when Drs wont listen to you! I have a midwife appointment next week now so at least will have someone (hopefully) to advise me.

Anyone have any experience/ advice on bleeding?

Hi BettyDebt I can't believe how badly you were treated. I went to the epu loads of times with my mc and had a little bit of bleeding with this pregnancy and went in (went straight to the epu with no need to book) and they gave me a scan at 6 weeks. They were all very nice and reasurring - at that stage you really don't need any stress as it's so easy to loose the baby. If you have any more bleeding can you just go straight to the epu? Mine allows drop ins.

Quite a few of us have had bleeding during pregnancy on here. Personally I have cervical erosion so no sex and random bleeds but it's worth it to be pregnant and it doesn't cause any long term damage. Hope everything goes well for you.

Squishy

Evening all,

*hugs* to tink - hope they move your induction if you want them to
Hello to all newbies
Labour vibes for those who need them!

Hope you're all doing as well as possible! It is absolutely pouring down here, and not showing much sign of stopping :eek: Hope I don't have to go out too much this weekend if it stays like this...

Things have been fine here since I last posted: bump and hips still a bit sore, but I guess bubs is growing and stretching out She managed to give me a shock this afternoon as I was going down the stairs in work - I felt a definate 'clunk' as something dropped to the bottom of my stomach! I think she managed to frighten herself a bit too as she went quiet for a couple of hours, but has picked up since we got home and is squidging away again Today is also a good day as my HiPG was paid - I'm well impressed, as I only posted the form last friday afternoon.

We've basically cleared the room that is going to be the nursery, so this weekend will be spent tidying up the paintwork a bit and putting together furniture. I'll also have to go shopping - not that I've cooked a lot recently as hubby has been spoiling me: we went out for dinner last night and had chinese takeaway tonight I'm now trying to decide if I really want a mint mini feast, or maybe some hot chocolate: have discovered that bubs loves hot chocolate and always has a dance about after I drink it

Ohyes - next time someone is adjusting the list, can I have a little pink sign by my name? I don't want to fill the page reposting the list just for that

*hugs* to all...

harley1

Thanks GISI.

I cant even sit around without my bra on, boobs now stick underneath if I try that. Despite being 35 and a D cup they were always pert enough not to be able to hold a pencil under. Is it a bit optimistic to hope they go back to their original shape and position after BF? lol!!!

xxxxx

Nicki

Can I ask for some quick advice now that Tinkerbell, whose issue was much more important is temporarily offline sorting out her issues, and when I can see some of the wise ones are online.

As most of you know I've been having a hard time recently with flashbacks and more memories of the birth have come back than I've previously ever remembered which have put the later PND problems into more perspective.

I don't want to post a detailed birth story, as there are a couple of first-timers on here who are currently gunning for me and I'm not in an emotionally strong enough place to handle that, but basically what has come back is that I was bleeding heavily throughout the whole labour (about a pad an hour I think) and when it got to the pushing stage, I felt the first 2 or 3 contractions and pushed, but then stopped feeling any contractions. The doctor and midwife weren't telling me when to push though I asked them to and my OH didn't know how to read the monitor so he couldn't tell me either. After about an hour of this, the doctor's shirt (he was wearing civvies) was quite heavily stained with my blood, and he told me that he was worrried if I pushed any more that my recent c section scar would rupture, and he needed to get the baby out asap. He left the room to get changed into clean clothes and to get the ventouse machine. As soon as he left the room, the midwife screamed at me that I had to push the baby out immediately, as if I let the doctor come back with the ventouse he was really going to hurt me. Without warning, she knocked the bottom of the bed away or down () so I was in an almost standing position and blood was flooding onto the floor. I immediately became very light headed and faint, which I now assume was part of my first ever panic attack, and failed to push the baby out and got very disorientated. (The doctor now says the baby was completely stuck due to the head being twisted to one side and it would have been impossible for me to push it out without assistance). She put the bed back into the recline position, but by this stage I had gone into a state of total terror and was completely frozen. I couldn't speak or move, or tell anyone what I was feeling or ask for help. I can't remember a lot more than this until a feeling of extreme pain when the baby was pulled out. I didn't move or speak for a long time after the baby was born, wasn't aware of her or anyone in the room, didn't know whether she was a boy or girl or alive or dead. No one seemed aware that I was in this semi-paralysed state, and if anyone was reassuring me at the time I was unaware of it. Later that night, I haemmoredged badly, and was very ill and in hospital for 10 days after the birth, with baby being looked after and FF by nurses as I was too ill to do so, though BF was later successfully established.

When my PND manifested itself several months after the birth, one of the key symptoms was that I would suddenly start screaming in abject terror for no reason I was aware of for long periods. I couldn't remember anything at all about the birth until fairly recently, when I started to have flashbacks.

I have an ante-natal appointment next week when my husband will be in India and my DS (who has just seen a birth video and is a bit traumatised by it) is on school holidays and I'll have to bring him with me to the hospital. One of my big fears is that however the birth goes this time round (whether elective c section or some other way) that I will end up back in this state of terror completely unable to communicate, and I'd like to start talking about this with the doctor so he knows what happened and maybe we can work out a plan which might help me to cope. But should I try and do this next week (obviously not with DS in the room at the time, but he might see that I was upset afterwards) or do I try and struggle on with this until the next appointment, given that it is giving me nightmares most nights, and some on here would say making me more testy than usual :rolleyes:. The next six weeks or so are going to be very tough anyway as the kids are off school, OH is away for a week, I am feeling physically and emotionally very drained at the moment, and we were turned down for all the discretionary holiday play schemes for disabled kids for my SN child, who needs a lot of day to day care, and I am worried that I will physically not be able to cope until she goes back to school.

Sorry for the rambling, but if anyone has any useful perspectives it might help.

SugarSpun

Harley, what a nightmare - I'm so sorry you're still dealing with this!

You deserve massive compensation - and don't let them give you a low level minion to talk to - go straight to the manager.

How's the stuff, at least?

money_maker_3

nicki, I think you need to start talking about it with your doctor as soon as you can, the longer you leave it, the more anxious you will make yourself (as if your not already !!)

Just because it happened once, does not mean it will happen again, and if you have an elective section, things will be much more under control.

By all means, feel free to PM me if you want to have a chat

tiamai_d

Seeing as how I am so crabbit and sore I'm having a slice of chocolate gataeux. And !!!! what it does to the blood sugar! I don't care!

got-it-spend-it

Nicki- I think you definitely need to raise it as soon as possible. I personally think that the worst thing you could do is try and keep how you are feeling under wraps. Is there anyone you could leave DS with whiles you are at the appointment? A school friend's Mum or someone maybe?

Also have you given any thought to hypno-birthing? No idea if it's your kind of thing or not, but it might potentially help you avoid the terror that you are worrying about .


In respect of the last part of your post, is there any family or anyone who could come and stay for odd days during the holidays to give you a bit of respite? Or could you ask some of your little ones school friends' mums whether they might be able to help out a bit, particularly when your OH is away?