MSE Pregnancy Club XIV

Glamazon

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

Yeah I said to him that we'd have to see about that cos I wasn't sure I wanted anyone here so quick. We're in Leeds and she's up near Dundee and this will be first grandchild etc so I know she's really excited and probably thinks she'll miss out on a lot being so far away. But I did try to explain last night that it's not so simple that she can just set off as soon as she gets the call to say baby's here!!

I'm sure he'll realise soon enough that it's not such a great idea!

Everyone lives about 4 hours away - that's my mum, my dad and In laws.

I had visions of in laws driving up the minute OH told them I was in labour and pacing the corridors - as much as I love them, I can only do short bursts at a time and knowing they were outside would make me feel awful. I'd feel like I was keeping them waiting. Recently they have said they will wait a week or so but part of me thinks wait longer cos I know they will do my head in when they do come!

My mum is coming up in Oct half term so a good 4 weeks after and as for my dad - who knows

I don't have any pets (unless u count OH :rotfl:) too much hassle!!

My zebra hands are very sore today and I forgot to get some paracetamol - only take them when I'm really bad!

Sarah_Joanne

SS - Yes that's what he said, although I wasn't privvy to the conversation so it may well be that he invited her! :rolleyes:

He just doesn't "get" quite a lot of things. He was also on about people visiting us in the hospital too. I pointed out that if everything goes how I want it to then there won't be time for anyone to come to the hospital as we'll be out in a few hours!

I think he's just watched too much TV

aless02

lol, Hypno - that's true! Maybe you know something I don't?

In all likelihood, we'll probably have my dad come over from the US for an extended visit sometime after the baby is born (maybe around 1-2 months old depending on circumstances)...long story & I don't want to drag down the thread but basically my mom is dying of cancer and will likely pass away before the baby is born. We think having him come to visit will help all around & he's under strict orders to spoil baby enough for the both of them . As long as he can live in a house with a newborn!! (I'm okay, before everyone gets really concerned - but if anyone's had to deal with the death of a close relative while pregnant, it would be good to hear your story if you're willing to share)

HypnoNu

I actually think that dogs are far more intuitive about the pregnancy thing than cats, even though i'm a cat person and have 2 lovely fluffy bundles.

about a week after my BFP we went to my aunts house, they have an enormous, gorgeous weimeraner who is probably the stupidest dog alive, he gets massively overexcited at everything and everyone and launches himself into the air and at whoever comes to the door, barking and wagging his tail, but when we turned up he just sidled over to me, put his head on the bottom of my tummy and stood there.....was so weird, i don;t think i've ever seen him so calm, he just knew not to jump on me! Weird!

About a week later we went to a local pub and they have this gorgeous black dog in there, he normally never spends any time with anyone, he just wanders around sniffing everyone and then moves onto the next table, well he came over to me when we sat down, sniffed me for a second and then lay down on my feet, and stayed there all night....

The animals......they know!!!!

HypnoNu

Sorry to hear about your mum Aless, i can't help with experience but it must be tough so here's a dodgy hug from me and bump:grouphug:

aless02

Hypno - I think dogs get all peaceful and cute around pregnant women, whereas cats just go nuts!!

(thanks...I didn't really know how to say what I wanted to say so it prolly came out all jumbled)

Nicki

My in laws came to look after my DS when I was in labour with my DD, and decided I was taking too long with the delivery, so my FIL phoned the delivery room to ask what was keeping me, during the pushing stage. :eek: I am amazed to be honest that the hospital switchboard put the call through, but they did!

This time round, they want to go on holiday in September, so they are demanding that we tell them when the baby will be arriving, as they don't want to miss it . They've known since March that the official due date is 3 October, so I'm not sure how much more specific they think I can get than that. Even if its a planned c section, the best I could do would be to tell them the latest date that the baby will arrive, but I can't prevent him or her arriving a bit earlier than planned. They seem to think we are refusing to give them info that we have just to annoy them, and I'm not sure that they realise just how frustrating and pushy they are being about the whole thing. As far as I am concerned, if they choose to go away in September (they are both retired so no need to choose this month), then they run a risk of missing the birth, but if they do miss it, we will cope fine without them around. I do take slight exception though to the suggestion that I am deliberately disrupting holiday plans which hadn't even been made before we told them I was pregnant. :rolleyes:

SugarSpun

Aless, I'll PM you later if I'm not trapped at the hospital, or if you have any questions send them right on over. My grandmother, who did a lot of the work in raising me, passed away when I was six months pregnant.

We're leaving in a minute - I'm also embarrassingly drippy in the underwear department and out of pads. Perhaps I'll steal a John Wayne maternity one from the toilets...

zgaze

aless02 wrote: »

lol, Hypno - that's true! Maybe you know something I don't?

In all likelihood, we'll probably have my dad come over from the US for an extended visit sometime after the baby is born (maybe around 1-2 months old depending on circumstances)...long story & I don't want to drag down the thread but basically my mom is dying of cancer and will likely pass away before the baby is born. We think having him come to visit will help all around & he's under strict orders to spoil baby enough for the both of them . As long as he can live in a house with a newborn!! (I'm okay, before everyone gets really concerned - but if anyone's had to deal with the death of a close relative while pregnant, it would be good to hear your story if you're willing to share)

Aless - my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer out of the blue when my sister was newly pregnant, and died three weeks after my niece was born. She was the first baby in the family and so his first grandchild. Looking back (its eight years ago now) the timing of it all somehow made it all more bearable if you see what I mean - the pregnancy kind of took all our minds off the horror of what was going on with him. It gave my mum a focus other than dealing with all the cancer related stuff, it gave my dad a lot of joy through those horrible months. And without sounding too hippyish the pregnancy gave us all a really strong sense that life does go on - without that I think dealing with my dads death would have been so much harder.

Anyway I could go on, but don't want to put a downer on the thread! feel free to PM me if you want to talk, I've been there and know how horrible it is xxx

mountainlioness

Hey all

Glam - where did you get the advice on arnica dosage? Was thinking of using it myself and thought I'd better look it up!

I'm worried about 'managing' the visits after Cub arrives - I can see why ppl want to come but can imagine that all I'll be up for is an hour or so. Even if ppl are willing to be helpful, not sure I want DH's whole family fussing about the house for hours on end. I really want just a few days of us bonding as a little family...

Got our home visit from the MW tonight -actually quite excited. The home birth should be on but we'll see.

Everyone at NCT class finishing work way before me - am jealous! Missing out on crucial coffee and cake sessions!