MSE Pregnancy Club XIV

Triggles

aless - that's great that it works out for you like that. childcare really throws a wrench in the income calculations, that's for sure!!!

tiamai_d

Nicki wrote: »

Thanks Tia. I'm pretty sure the elective c section is the way to go too. What I need to find out though, and was way too stressed to even think of asking today, is whether there are any circumstances where I wouldn't get it - either medical reasons or because I went into labour early before t date it was booked. I suspect thinking I was having an elective c section but then being forced at the last moment to deliver normally would be far too much to cope with, and worse than going for a normal delivery with some mental preparation for it beforehand. With luck though, DH will be back in time for the next appointment and can ask any questions I can't cope with!

We did the same as you with the moses basket for our two, and it worked like a dream. We are strong advocates of the "Never wake a sleeping baby" camp, particularly when its not your first (!) and this meant we weren't unnecessarily waking eitherr when going up to bed ourselves by having to lift them from pushchair to cot.

On c section scar - yes mine did hurt a lot when I was pregnant with number 2 (though it was less than a year old then), and I'm also having some, though not so much, discomfort with it this time round. It's a hot pain which feels exactly like something has been ripped open. I also haven't found anything which helps to ease it, though to be honest I don't do meds during pregnancy unless there is no choice, so I haven't had any painkillers for anything since I got my BFP, not even the SPD which is often a lot worse than the c section pain. Sorry that's not more helpful.

I think once your booked, your booked. And given your circumstances your consultant can put in your notes that were you to go into labour prior to your section date, no pressure was to be put on you to try labour (unless you asked for that). Anything to take the stress off you.

Get a notepad and jot down all these questions for next time, give it to DH and he can ask for you?

Never wake a sleeping baby! When they get a bit older and its an afternoon nap that is lasting till dinner time, fair enough, but if you wake a sleeping baby your asking for trouble! And they aint dollies when visitors come round. Passing a baby back and forth between folk (and letting them sleep all cuddled up to Granny/Auntie) is trouble too :rotfl: I usually say 'put them down to sleep or you take them for the night!'. :rolleyes:

The scar pain is one that co-codomol won't stop so I've not even bothered taking it anyway. But yeah, a hot ripping pain. Nasty!

Ah well, will sit here with a cuppa RLT while I get some energy to go tidy up. House is a pit.

lou66_2

Aless
Thats what i am planning to do is go down to three days a week, but i am quite lucky that my mum and dad live two mins away and are planning on having the baby for me as my dad and mum work for themself and so can have the baby. However i am also returning to work a bit earlier than you from the sounds of it, Nicki i am sure your doctor did not see u as a gibbering wreck, and good luck with what ever you decided to do. Quick question is it normal that my appetite has increased quite a lot in the last few days. Also my need for english mustard

aless02

lol, lou - my DH's mom apparently went through jars of English mustard when she was pregnant with him!

Nicki

Do you think the RLT might be making the c section pain worse, Tia? I'm not sure exactly how RLT works but if it does tone the uterus and make contractions more effective, presumably it does this either by strenghtening fibres in the uterus, or by making it contract and relax more than it otherwise would to tone it up. Both of those things would have an effect on the scar tissue. Might be worth talking to the midwife or a homeopath about the pros and cons of continuing to take it if the scar pain is really bothering you?

Triggles

Nicki - I agree that it's a good idea to have the consultant put the info regarding the c/s in your notes, so there's no hassle with it if you go a little early. Only reason I say this is because our 22yo DD had to have a epidural when she had her baby, due to a medical condition that is potentially fatal if an emergency arose regarding certain types of anaesthesia, and the anaesthesiologist insisted she have the epidural. When DD went into labour, she repeatedly told the midwife to contact the anaesthesiologist and let them know she was in labour so they could make arrangements for the epidural, as he had requested. The midwife kept interrupting, telling DD "oh no, you don't want an epidural, give yourself the chance to go without it and see how you do." :mad: DD was so frustrated, I finally blew up at the midwife and told her "I'll make it clear. YOU WILL CALL THE ANAESTHESIOLOGIST NOW as HE was the one that wanted to be informed as soon as she came in!" (amongst a few other comments indicating that if she'd listened the first time DD explained it to her, we wouldn't have reached this point of aggravation!) When she called the anaesthesiologist, he came right down to the delivery room immediately, greeted DD by name saying "let's get that epidural set up!" and then outside the room we heard him say to the midwife "why didn't anyone let me know sooner - obviously she's been in here for awhile" as he had looked at her notes by then. I think if it had been in her notes, it would have been SOOOO much easier and less hassle!

tiamai_d

I don't really think so because it's been getting gradually worse since before I started the RLT. (and this is my first cup of the day but I've had the pain fro a good few hours)

Might try a few days without it and see if it makes a difference anyway.

workinmummy

Nicki wrote: »

I suspect thinking I was having an elective c section but then being forced at the last moment to deliver normally would be far too much to cope with, and worse than going for a normal delivery with some mental preparation for it beforehand. !

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Nicki, when i had an appointment with the consultant at 28 weeks and discussed possible elective section. I was told at 36 weeks if i decided to go for it, i would be given a date for the section at 39 weeks and if i did for some reason go into spontaneous labour beforehang, i was to ring the labour ward and would be taken for a semi-emergency section asap. I would not be forced to deliver by VBAC.

On the subject of section scars, mine seems to be ok, but it is 5 1/2 years old, so has had plenty healing time. May become more uncomfortable as baby drops, who knows, just one more ache and pain to add to the list.:rolleyes:

lou66_2

Aless glad it not just me then could not stand the stuff before but i must admit i even had it on my chinese last night. Just found this site not sure if it is but it looks quite good, but some of the maternity underwear made me raise my eyebrows !!! http://www.littlestuff.co.uk/

lou66_2

sorry maternity underwear on here http://www.happytinybabies.com/