MSE Pregnancy Club XIV

newmoneysaver_2

Aless - again, from direct.gov

You can take either one week or two consecutive weeks, but not odd days.

So I don't think you can spilt the two weeks, but you don't have to take the full two weeks, if that makes sense??

It's under the same rules as for smp so:

Who is eligible?

For you to qualify for Statutory Paternity Pay, all of the following must apply:

• you must be the biological father or adopter of the child or be the mother's (or adopter's) husband, partner or civil partner or have or expect to have responsibility for the child's upbringing
• you must have continued to work for the same employer without a break for at least 26 weeks by the 15th week before the baby is due, or employed up to and including the week your wife, partner or civil partner was matched with a child
• you must continue to work for that employer without a break up to the date the child is born or placed for adoption
• you must be earning an average of at least £90 a week (before tax)

newmoneysaver_2

ML - speaking of freecycle, I got an email today for some wardrobes I posted about 18 months ago :rotfl:How on earth did they find that!

jennynoo

kindofagilr wrote: »

Thanks for that, it sounds really interesting, but I dont think its something I would be interested in.

Can I ask, are you going back to work after a certain length of time?

I get 6 months maternity and I am not sure the attached parenting would work because of that.

I do know that I would like the baby to be in its own room and in its own cot.

But it is interesting to see someone doing something differnt to what I would do, you will have to keep us posted with how you are going

Are you not going to express any of your milk to freeze for any other time? (look at me talking like I know what I am talking about lol I am a total newbie at this)

I get 14 weeks full salary, 25 weeks on £123.06 a week and 13 weeks unpaid but I'm going to say I'm going back after 9 months then take a months annual leave so I will actually be off 10 months. So I wont be able to keep going with all the attachment parenting stuff but I think it's worth it to give it a try.

As for baby being in its own room they do recommend that baby is in the same room as you (either with you if you follow the advice for co-sleeping or in its own basket or cot) for at least the first couple of months as it reduces the risk of SIDS.

On the breastfeeding, I've read that if baby is in bed with me I will be able to breastfeed more during the night and will be feeding on-demand so there shouldn't be any spare milk. Although I might give in as it would be nice for OH to be able to feed Noogle.

I tried to convince my sister to do all this stuff but it wasn't for her. She did have her son in bed with her - it just worked out better for her but she wants to move him into his own room as soon as possible and she expresses her milk so she can have the afternoons off while her OH looks after baby. I told her yesterday about EC (infant potty training) but she just laughed at me!

kindofagilr

jennynoo wrote: »

I get 14 weeks full salary, 25 weeks on £123.06 a week and 13 weeks unpaid but I'm going to say I'm going back after 9 months then take a months annual leave so I will actually be off 10 months. So I wont be able to keep going with all the attachment parenting stuff but I think it's worth it to give it a try.

As for baby being in its own room they do recommend that baby is in the same room as you (either with you if you follow the advice for co-sleeping or in its own basket or cot) for at least the first couple of months as it reduces the risk of SIDS.

On the breastfeeding, I've read that if baby is in bed with me I will be able to breastfeed more during the night and will be feeding on-demand so there shouldn't be any spare milk. Although I might give in as it would be nice for OH to be able to feed Noogle.

I tried to convince my sister to do all this stuff but it wasn't for her. She did have her son in bed with her - it just worked out better for her but she wants to move him into his own room as soon as possible and she expresses her milk so she can have the afternoons off while her OH looks after baby. I told her yesterday about EC (infant potty training) but she just laughed at me!

I really dont know what to do with breastfeeding, I do feel like I want to give it a try, but I am the kind of person where if someone tells me I should do it cos its the right thing to do it just makes me not want to do it? totally stupid I know, and OH is dead for Breastfeeding cos he was breastfed, my mam tried to with me but I woudlnt latch.

But I think if I did BF then I would want to express as soon as possible so that OH can feed bean as well?

I just dont know what to do with that to be honest?

Yeah bean would be in our room deffo, we do have room for the cotbed in there, I dont think I trust myself to have bean in the bed with me, both me and OH are restless sleepers, we end up all over the bed and in weird positions and I would be terrified something would happen in the middle of the night

Ive heard something about infant potty training, but not loads, can you tell me more?

mountainlioness

We're putting the baby in its own nursery from the beginning (just to offer a different perspective). It's next door to ours and we've gone with a SIDS-reducing mattress (pur-flo) plus grobag combination... This is partly due to space (ie there isn;t much in our bedroom!) but partly to assist with the routine we're planning to follow.

Sarah_Joanne

Re BF - I definitley want to if i can. For me there seem to be several pluses - better for baby (as everyone will surely have heard!), helps you to get back to your pre-pg weight quicker, and very MSE as not having to buy milk.

There's my 2p worth anyway!!! And total respect to every mum, whatever choice is right for her.

Triggles

I tried to convince my sister to do all this stuff but it wasn't for her. She did have her son in bed with her - it just worked out better for her but she wants to move him into his own room as soon as possible and she expresses her milk so she can have the afternoons off while her OH looks after baby. I told her yesterday about EC (infant potty training) but she just laughed at me!

The thing is, you can only really give people info, and let them choose what they want to do. I personally have no interest in co-sleeping, although we will have the baby in the room with us for the first 4-6 months. We also will (once breastfeeding is comfortably established) express milk so that DH can take over a feed so I can get extra rest. And I'm not even remotely interested in the infant potty training stuff. It all comes down to what people are comfortable with and what works best for their lives and schedules.

I, too, have a tendency to reject an idea if someone is pushing it at me. lol

Nicki

Good luck Skintchick. Hope all goes according to plan.

On the Moses basket/buying too much debate - we found the Moses basket to be worth its weight in gold. They aren't very expensive to buy, and although each baby only spends about 3 months in them, ours has done my two, my friend's little one and is still in immaculate condition for my third. If you are buying new you can find them for around £25, and they are much less second hand. It is nice in the early days to have baby sleeping in the same room as you, whichever that might be, rather than having to trek up and downstairs to the cot every time they need feeding or changing, and mine slept a lot for the first few weeks. This time round, as well as the Moses basket which we had from the older two, and the new lie flat pram, we have bought (On ebay for a tenner but in very good condition) one of those soft Phil and Ted baby coccoons so that when I am visiting friends I can hop on the tube with baby in a sling and take the coccoon (which folds up quite small) with me to put baby down in when I get there, as taking a pushchair on the tube is a bit of a production. It is an extravagance but I'm pretty sure I'll get all the money back for it on resale, and it might make life easier for a bit.

I have had my antenatal appointment today. On the plus side, took DS with me and he sat in the waiting room as good as gold while I saw the consultant and was oblivious to everything. That's about the only good thing to be said really :eek::eek:. Despite doing my best to stay calm beforehand and to talk about the issues calmly, I got incredibly upset and virtually couldn't talk. The consultant was very nice, but he couldn't really explain why some of the things which went wrong last time happened, and some of the stuff which really freaked me out, like the blood loss, was on the heavy side of normal according to his notes, so will happen again to some extent if I have another vaginal delivery. The option of an elective c section is still on the table though, and apparently the anaethetist can sedate me without knocking me out completely if I go that route but freak out in theatre, so I am thinking that this is probably the way to go. I absolutely hate losing control or getting emotional in front of people I don't know very well though, so wish I was able to discuss the pros and cons calmly with the doctor rather than turning into a complete gibbering wreck which is really really unlike me in normal life.

Sarah_Joanne

Sorry it didn't go as well as you'd hoped Nicki. Do you not feel any better at all about it now then?

newmoneysaver_2

Aw Nicki, it does sound the cs may be the way to go, it will take out so many of the what-if's which seem to be the parts causing the problems. I totally understand the feeling of not being in control, where as the cs will give you some of that control back. (sorry, reading that back it's sounds pants, I know what I want to say, but can't word it right! I hope you know what I mean)

Oh, and yay :T for DS!