MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Should Napoleon wait till after the holiday to ditch Josephine?

olliedog

He should not just go and pretend things are allright whilst they are away. Men aren't that good actors at the emotional stuff. It's better to be honest about the relationship than pick fault with her all holiday and sulk as men usually do.

He should tell her things aren't working out, he wants to remain friends but still go on the holiday, paying extra for separate rooms if she wants it. That way she is under no disillusion that he may even propose.

If she doesn't want to go with such a fickle person, then he deserves to lose the money.

MelissaC_2

If they're not arguing and the lady is none-the-wiser then there's no reason why he shouldn't keep the act up until they get back from the holiday. There is no point ruining both of their excitement. You never know he may even find that rekindles his feelings for her; and even if it doesn't he can break it to her gently using the experiences of the holiday: "I had a really good time this last week with you" etc.

pinksusan

Napoleon should go on the holiday and use it as a relaxed time to really remember what it was he saw in Josephine in the first place and to treat her as if she were a brand new girlfriend. I'm sure he'd find that at the end of the hoiday he was back in love, and wouldn't have to leave her - or tell her!

slackboy

Act like a gentleman - tell her now and give her the option of taking someone else with her instead.
If he's decided to split up but is just debating timing she's already an "ex." Why bother with the pretence.

A.Jones

Dump her at the airport on the way home.

relaxtwotribes

RuthnJasper wrote: »

OK - I agree with the first paragraph posted by Flickering Ember - go out with a bang and a smile.
Roo x

Mmmmm, nice idea.

kpepper42

I had a similar situation a few years ago with a boyfriend who I wanted to leave, but I felt trapped because we'd paid for an expensive holiday.

I decided I couldn't pretend everything was hunky dory for 2 weeks so I was honest with him and finished it. Initially he wasn't happy (what else can you expect!) but eventually agreed that it was for the best. We also agreed that if we could find a friend willing to buy one half out, then they could go instead. As it happened, his friends had just paid for a "lads" holiday to the Canaries so the buying-out fell to one of my friends.

Result: he got his money (and the chance for a holiday with his friends that he otherwise wouldn't have been able to afford),
and I got an end to an unhappy relationship and a relaxing break with my friend.

Honesty was therefore the best policy in my case!!!!!

relaxtwotribes

He's paid £900 for a holiday in the Maldives - what a cheapskate.

Anyway, doesn't Napoleon realise that Josephine is already having an affair with Hippolyte? He's better off dumping her and hitching up with Pauline.

fabs88

In my experience men are not good at hiding their feelings when something is wrong!!

I can't imagine anything worse than spending 2 weeks with someone who didn't really want to be with me. It would probably turn in to an awful break and not create any of the beautiful memories that holidays should.

I say be honest with her now and try to sort out an alternative option; sell both tickets to someone else, one of you keep a ticket and try and get a friend to buy the other, go together as friends (probably wouldn't work), go together and get separate rooms!! Even if you have to lose some of the money you paid (which would only be fair as someone would have to pay for a name change) it's better than having wasted £900 on a holiday you didn't enjoy!!

harz99

Definitely keep up the act; show her as good a time as possible and gently break your decision honestly to her as soon as possible after you return home. At least that way you should leave her with some happy memories.