Teens keeping their room clean

BlondeHeadOn

skylight wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Your mother!!! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:


Mine is the same! Its my fault that my DD has a messy room, I should clean it up for her etc.

Mind you, she also thinks I am a bad parent because I do not iron bed sheets nor their pants!! And so on......


I smile nicely through gritted teeth and let her get on with it. Cos she was the best parent in the world... :rolleyes: (Which is irony, cos she was nasty)

Oohhhhhhhh - I would be so tempted to look your mother (an OP's mother) up and down in a considering sort of way, and then say:

"Myself, I blame the Grandparents...."

And then just walk away.

:D:D

belfastgirl23

Glen0000 wrote: »

We dont "let" her, she does it in secret when she nips to the loo! Honestly confronting her would just create a row. She is my mother at the end of the day.

She only visits about twice a year, thank goodness!

It is definitely your mum who has (is!) the problem, not your daughter. If you don't want to confront her fair enough but I wouldn't be putting any blame on your daughter for this. If anything you are more of the problem than she is for not putting firm boundaries on your mother or making it clear that you aren't willing to tolerate her snooping (or commenting about her snooping).

tiamai_d

It's like a law that a teenagers bedroom should be a pigsty, it says so in the guidebook, don't you remember?

Mine was always a tip and the only rules I was given on it was that the bedroom door should remain shut, plates to be washed before they go mouldy and if it starts to smell, deal with it! One summer I had 57 flies in the room! I was a minger!!!!

I remember my dad cleaning my room once when I was 18... he neatly stacked all the condoms on my bedside cabinet.... never ever again, I kept it tidy from then on!!!!!

homeaway

Well my ds having stripped his bed on friday and washed the sheets has omitted to put them back on, mind you he has only be home two nights since but...... He is 18 and i have decided that i will try not to give in.
DD room is a tip, tidying means throwing all clothes that are heaped on the end of the bed either in the wash or in the cupboard. We are trying to get her more organised and have decided that we will buy her a big wardrobe so that all the clutter can be hidden from view. I will let you know if that works Hopefully she will be able to find her school books and be more organized. Now my youngest ds is 14 and he tidies his room and changes his bed when i ask him to , so i succeeded with one out of 3.

Mrs_Boo_Boo

My Dad used to say the IRA had nothing on my bedroom when I was a teenager. It was always a mess but it was my responsibility. Still a bit messy now but feel that as I am the only one tidies up in our house so I can afford to. Used to change my bed every week though.
Can't see a problem here. Just close the door.

aliasojo

Just as another small positive thought....my middle lad was a swine from Hell as a 15 year old.

He's 20 now and his room is literally the tidiest in the house. He changes his bedsheets more often than I change mine. :rolleyes: Don't think a messy teenager = a messy adult, it doesn't work that way. It's part of their development, they have to go through the mess in order to see what they need to do. Most of them will get there in the end as long as their parents dont make huge issues of it.

poet123

When my husband was at home his mother who is a real neat freak (cleans out and relines kitchen cupboards every week, irons everything) was constantly at him to tidy up. OH's dad got so sick of the nagging he nailed every itme of clothing my OH had left on the floor tothe wall by a six inch nail. Apparently, clothes did not get chucked on the floor after that!!

My lads rooms are untidy, and they are left that way until I do the big clean of the week, then I go in and blitz, hoover, dust, change sheets etc. Then the day after it is back to normal, but at least it is only mess not dirt. I cant stand to think of a room in my house as dirty so I do it.

That said it is certainly not your mothers prerogative to comment, if it doesnt bother you, then that is fine.

Floss

Glen0000 wrote: »

When she visits she goes in every room, even if the doors are closed. then weeks of snidey comments about the state of the place. It can be very draining.

Then either lock the doors, or make sure there is something very embarassing on your bed or bedside cabinet

Glen0000 wrote: »

We dont "let" her, she does it in secret when she nips to the loo! Honestly confronting her would just create a row. She is my mother at the end of the day.

She only visits about twice a year, thank goodness!

Next time you go round to her home, open every door in the house, go into every room and make comments such as: "how can you stand the smell of bleach"...."I simply don't have time to iron so much as I have a life to live"......."you really need to get out more, you obviously have too much time on your hands if you can keep your home so tidy"

When I was a teen, I was regularly threatened with black binbags, and did the same to my 2 sons......before she died, my mum gave me a hankie - the embroidered motto was "Only dull women have tidy homes"

Bettyboop

I haven't read all the replies but if I were you invite her boyfriend if she has one, a couple of friends or anyone she may feel embarrassed by and let them hide in her room - when she walks in YELL SURPRISE! She will be so embarrassed if she knew all her friends, boys and girls alike witnessed the filth in her room..... maybe they can help her or for worse tell her its disgusting then she may sort it out.

lolababy

Next time your mum comments ,tell her Im glad you noticed its been waiting for your skills as a domestic goddess.