Teens keeping their room clean

DeeDee74

:rolleyes::rolleyes: ds is the same i always tidy his room everyday, i don't know where half the mess comes from?
i did try leaving it for a week and asked him to do it, bless him he did strip his bed and make it but dumped all his rubbish under his bed.. i couldn't wait to get in there and give it a clean.

it's your house i'd say if u don't mind it a mess leave it and hope dd does it eventually..

KellyWelly

How rude of her. Tell her she's not welcome to visit if she is going to make comments like that, it's not her home, it is yours. Why would you let your mother do that to your wife and daughter? Sounds like your mother is a spiteful unhappy woman.

maman

lolababy wrote: »

My advice, shut the door and tell your vistors to mind their own buisness.

When my two DDs were teenagers they were totally different. One had a room that looked immaculate until you opened a cupboard and everything fell on you!! The other lived in a tip which was a family joke. She had a poster on her wall with pigs on and the caption 'It's my mess and I like it!'. I used to sort of stand over them while beds were changed but after that it was down to them.

Now they have their own homes. DD1 is still a bit untidy (books, papers etc everywhere, but very clean with washing etc (just as I'd be without OH to keep me in check!). DD2 lives in a virtual showhome (but there are bin bags of 'stuff' in her garage).

Try to let it go (and ignore your mother), there are far more important things to worry about bringing up teenagers!

Minxy_Bella

Glen0000 wrote: »

When she visits she goes in every room, even if the doors are closed. then weeks of snidey comments about the state of the place. It can be very draining.

That's outrageous!!!! Why do you let her do that? It's your house, you decide who goes where - just tell her she's being rude or hide behind the sofa when she knocks on the door! :mad:

Glen0000

Minxy_Bella wrote: »

That's outrageous!!!! Why do you let her do that? It's your house, you decide who goes where - just tell her she's being rude or hide behind the sofa when she knocks on the door! :mad:

We dont "let" her, she does it in secret when she nips to the loo! Honestly confronting her would just create a row. She is my mother at the end of the day.

She only visits about twice a year, thank goodness!

jinky67

Glen0000 wrote: »

We dont "let" her, she does it in secret when she nips to the loo! Honestly confronting her would just create a row. She is my mother at the end of the day.

She only visits about twice a year, thank goodness!

Well dont confront her, just say thanks but your comments are not appreciated and end the conversation

aliasojo

Glen0000 wrote: »

When she visits she goes in every room, even if the doors are closed. then weeks of snidey comments about the state of the place. It can be very draining.

Well as I said, she clearly has issues. Unfortunately you are acting as an 'enabler' and as long as you continue to allow her to do this is your home and with your family, then you are sending her the message that it's ok to do.

Perhaps your daughter would appreciate her Father's support? Being weak willed with your Mother is not beneficial to anyone. You can talk about this with your Mother in a tactful and friendly way btw, no-one is suggesting you need fall out with her, but you do need to develop a bit of a backbone imo.

Minxy_Bella

Glen0000 wrote: »

We dont "let" her, she does it in secret when she nips to the loo! Honestly confronting her would just create a row. She is my mother at the end of the day.

She only visits about twice a year, thank goodness!

To be frank, I wouldn't care if it was my mother - if someone was being rude about my home, I'd tell them that their ill-mannered comments were not welcome.

Actually, if it was my mother, I'd probably tell her that she should have raised me better then!

skylight

We tend to leave Amy's room be too. Although its slightly difficult as its not a room as such, but a walled off "section" of a larger room so she shares it with her sisters.

Our "rules" are she has it how she wants it until it starts to smell, because then its a problem for her sharing sisters and that makes it unfair. If she wants friends round she tidies it. If she wants money to go to the cinema with her mates she tidies it. Well. Tidy is not quite the right word, but sorting out the dirty clothes, taking out the rubbish and changing bed linen etc is about as good as we get.

And its just not worth the arguing. As someone else has mentioned, there are far more important things to worry about when bringing up kids.

GettingHitched

Im LOL'ing so much at this thread, I was a messy teen and still am a messy (bedroom only) adult....Everywhere else in my house is tidy and clean....except the bedroom, it does get a good clean about once a week and an airing. My sister how ever could rival Kim and Aggie for her cleanliness!