Childminder contract breached?

barnaby-bear

diable wrote: »

After school activities to enhance the mind body and spirit, funny enough I did take my children mountain climbing, hiking and skiing and children where not palmed off as being with MIL 15 mins walk from a beach in Europe is far far better for them then being stuck in London (where would you rather your children spent there time?) for the whole summer holidays. I suppose this is why they are also both great swimmers and have sailing licences from the time spent in the sea and in the lakes.

I know you are having a snidey dig at me but hey ho it doesn't bother me as both had a great education (better then mine in fact) in highly rated schools have travelled the world speak three languages each and can always look back at all of this with fondness and happy memories.

A lot of this was effort on the ex wife who had the time to organise all these activities and I will always be grateful for this as I just wanted to give them the opportunities that I never had.

So I don't understand what really your comment about disgraceful is really about as I had full trust in the care they received while at school, maybe we where lucky at having found and entrusted our children to true professionals.

Ahh so when you had other people looking after your kids - family, in schools, cubs etc it was providing them with education and worthwhile stimulation and you trusted the OFSTEAD professionals.... when other people use OFSTEAD vetted professionals it's palming off and inferior......... :rotfl:

galvanizersbaby

Minxy_Bella wrote: »

I think it's quite interesting that the two people who are condemning all working mothers on this thread are both apparently male who have SAH wives to provide the childcare (plus extended family).

I rather think that if both fms were female and had been unlucky enough to find themselves as single parents, for whatever reason, they might have a different viewpoint.

Empathy is a wonderful thing.

OP - I think you have handled yourself admirably!

Or past tense had a SAH wife in diable's case - I was thinking the same thing and I suspect you are probably right minxy bella

galvanizersbaby

diable wrote: »

When the kids where younger ex wife went as well, when wife was working they went on there own and we joined them later.

As you also say that different people have different circumstances but there are a lot of people around that do not consider the consequences of bringing children in to this world then rely on the state to pick up the pieces.

Yes I also may be a male but I worked hard for my family when divorced I was around and paid the bills and spent time holidays with my children not as it seems like some fathers who have abandoned their children and been abusive to their partners like it seems that every few days there is a post regarding these issues, when the ex wife was a single mother I still helped out as she was the mother of my children at the end of the day and I knew the responsibilities that I had as a father.

Can we just now leave quoting each others posts and trying to tear holes in them as we'll leave the OP with her thread and worries.

Thank You.

:rotfl:Err actually...I will quote whichever post I wish - I am sure not many would object if you refrain from posting though - other posters may wish to offer OP relevant advice rather than criticise her parenting
Just because you opened a can of worms with an inflammatory comment doesn't mean you can close it again btw

carefullycautious

Diable your post is so hypocritical

Just because your children went to all these other people/activities and nothing untoward went wrong, you then make scathing comments about the ops parenting skills when she has done exactly the same as you but with a different outcome.

Your post does not make sense!!

gabyjane

Hi as a childminder i would NEVER leave any child under my care for any amount of time, havent read all the posts but get the gist from a couple that children shouldn't be with them to some extent? what a load of rubbish..!! I drop kids at school in the mornings and collect, it would be very easy for me (and lazy) to just drop them by the gates and go in the car but i always always get out and make sure they are well in the school gates before i go for my peace of mind and thier safety.
She has breached her contract and if it was me i would be grateful of any money at all, dont pay her the 4 weeks though as she has no leg to stand on tbh.
Good luck with it all.

wishicouldmakeitbetter

I have been extremely lucky with my childminders (mother and daughter) but would prefer to be a SAHM or go part time. However, unlike some others on this thread, I cannot abide being in debt and must go out to work. My only debt is my mortgage - no credit cards, car loans, etc. I do not mean this to offend people who have got into debt through unforseen events (I know from experience that life has a way of throwing curve balls) but when people are sanctimonious about a parent staying at home and then are happy to build up debt I feel that I have to reply.
OP - I hope you get this situation resolved and are lucky enough to get a gem of a childminder next time (there are some out there!)

GD

SarahFx

diable wrote: »

Can you explain your comment? My children where precious and where never left in the hands of child minders, if you decide to have children you should not palm them off to some one else.

Yes well, people who are as illiterate as you clearly are probably wouldn't have the option of getting a job anyway.

diable

SarahFx wrote: »

Yes well, people who are as illiterate as you clearly are probably wouldn't have the option of getting a job anyway.

If you can only post nasty comments insulting people then you shouldn't post. FYI I have worked all my adult life in a decent job with a decent salary.

saltibalti

diable wrote: »

If you can only post nasty comments insulting people then you shouldn't post. FYI I have worked all my adult life in a decent job with a decent salary.

i have started another thread for you, diable.

search, 'diable: my life so far, from thread to needle and all the excuses in between'

if you were so happy and secure in your parenting (and life) why come on a forum, troll a thread, then spend 2 days explaining yourself and defending your complete adult life?? now stop bleating and find a relevant website to post to.......doesn't that supernanny have one somewhere?

your issues are boring me.

thanks to everyone else for your comments and support. i feel much more confident in the actions i have taken. and again......my experiance does not reflect the whole profession. enjoy the weather guys, i'll post any updates as i get them.

diable

saltibalti wrote: »

i have started another thread for you, diable.

search, 'diable: my life so far, from thread to needle and all the excuses in between'

if you were so happy and secure in your parenting (and life) why come on a forum, troll a thread, then spend 2 days explaining yourself and defending your complete adult life?? now stop bleating and find a relevant website to post to.......doesn't that supernanny have one somewhere?

your issues are boring me.

thanks to everyone else for your comments and support. i feel much more confident in the actions i have taken. and again......my experiance does not reflect the whole profession. enjoy the weather guys, i'll post any updates as i get them.

Ah thank you for your kindness.........