Childminder contract breached?

woody01

moggitymog wrote: »

woody01 and diable do people like me go to work so that you don't have to?

Why assume i am on benefits?
Actually i am not. I am lucky enough to earn a very good wage so my wife doesnt have to work whilst our children are young.

jimexbox

woody01 wrote: »

Why assume i am on benefits?
Actually i am not. I am lucky enough to earn a very good wage so my wife doesnt have to work whilst our children are young.

Exactly, you are lucky enough to earn a good wage. Im fortunate to be in that position too, although Im not as patronising as you to presume that everyone is lucky enough. Maybe you should be congratulating parents who get of their !!!!!, earn a wage and contribute to government coffers, instead of expecting everything on a plate.

Welshlassie

woody01 wrote: »

Why assume i am on benefits?
Actually i am not. I am lucky enough to earn a very good wage so my wife doesnt have to work whilst our children are young.

diable wrote: »

I am sorry if I offend anybody but children are precious and not a commodity, if you can't look after your children yourself then don't have them.

How exactly would you expect a parent that has been widowed to looked after their children during the day then???

galvanizersbaby

diable wrote: »

I also worked hard to bring up two children and the decision was made for the wife to spend time with the children until they where at school then she went part time. Every summer the children travelled abroad to spend time with MIL. Worked hard to get them in to god schools and they experienced lots of things, travelled with cubs, scouts, army and RAF cadets climbed the Himalayas one finished UNI working teaching English in Peru youngest going to work/study for a year in Austria in his gap year.

Maybe I was lucky that my Mum lived 200 yards from me and was able to help maybe the MIL travelling over looked after the children as well but that is what family is for.Myself growing up I only had 1 grandparent and hardly any family in England my mother was a widow when I was 11 but my father was hardly around as he was in the Navy and would be away for 6 months at a time then when I was 9 he was in hospital and died from pneumonia/alchzeimers I only remember him from when I was about 6. My mother never worked once she had me and never claimed benefits in her life, she rented rooms out and took in sewing to make ends meet and went without luxuries I even bought my mum her first washing machine when I could afford it.

That is why I worked hard, not on great money but hard to provide for my family and my children hopefully will go far in this world and definitely won't be liars, cheats or benefit scroungers like some people living in crime ridden sink estates.

Never had it cushy but sacrifices have to be made once you have children. Not having a go at anyone not judging anybody just saying my piece.

Well it appears your posts haven't exactly come across that way :rolleyes:
Perhaps it would be an idea to say your piece on another thread as you clearly can't help the OP with any advice on childminders

galvanizersbaby

saltibalti wrote: »

I have reported her to Ofsted. I have also looked on their site and entered her early years registered number to find she had a complaint made against her this April/May.....Ofsted have advised me that she should have been open about this and informed me..

I am worried about this going to small claims....she will be covered by her insurance through the NCMA (although she admitted her mistake ((therefore breaking their rules on insurance cover????)).

My actions so far have been to draft a letter explaining why I believe she has breached her side and that I will pay her outstanding owed upto the day I ceased contract with immediate affect.

She is trying to claim nearly £500.00 from me, I have offered her 150. I think this is fair.

Thanks for your thoughts so far )

It does sound as though she hasn't a leg to stand on OP from what you've posted so far
She must be just trying her luck with the $500 invoice

BTW I wasn't aware you could find out any complaints made by entering the childminders registration number in to the system.

Hope you get it all resolved soon

barnaby-bear

diable wrote: »

I also worked hard to bring up two children and the decision was made for the wife to spend time with the children until they where at school then she went part time. Every summer the children travelled abroad to spend time with MIL. Worked hard to get them in to god schools and they experienced lots of things, travelled with cubs, scouts, army and RAF cadets

Sounds like you palmed your kids off on an awful lot of other people..... sounds like the majority of their education and experiences were via sub-contracting..... :rolleyes:

Disgraceful really sending them to school where the staff are inspected by OFSTEAD and CRB checked to the same level as childminders..... and what about the other kids, the dinner ladies? .....and as for allowing them near organisations with lower inspection standards such as scouts....

if you can't take your kids mountain climbing yourself - shouldn't have kids.....

barnaby-bear

woody01 wrote: »

I agree.
Why have them then palm them off on someone else.

If children, outside of school, are in any kind of danger, its the parents fault and no-one elses.

This childminder did something they were not supposed to. Breaking their professional guidelines and it's the parents fault....

Are the parents of the kids here http://www.guardian.co.uk/uk/2007/feb/09/ukcrime.schools
responsible - because they sent them to school (google teacher jailed - lots of cases).....

galvanizersbaby

diable wrote: »

After school activities to enhance the mind body and spirit, funny enough I did take my children mountain climbing, hiking and skiing and children where not palmed off as being with MIL 15 mins walk from a beach in Europe is far far better for them then being stuck in London (where would you rather your children spent there time?) for the whole summer holidays. I suppose this is why they are also both great swimmers and have sailing licences from the time spent in the sea and in the lakes.

I know you are having a snidey dig at me but hey ho it doesn't bother me as both had a great education (better then mine in fact) in highly rated schools have travelled the world speak three languages each and can always look back at all of this with fondness and happy memories.

A lot of this was effort on the ex wife who had the time to organise all these activities and I will always be grateful for this as I just wanted to give them the opportunities that I never had.

So I don't understand what really your comment about disgraceful is really about as I had full trust in the care they received while at school, maybe we where lucky at having found and entrusted our children to true professionals.

Bit confused now diable - thought MIL came to you in the holidays to help look after the children? - take it ex wife went along for the whole summer holidays too - else some might consider this a palming off of sorts

Personally I wouldn't consider children spending quality time with their grandparents as palming off though I'm aware not all grandparents would see it that way - perhaps you were lucky as you say with MIL

I also don't consider entrusting the care of your children to a registered/inspected childcare provider whilst you earn a living as palming off either - we all have different circumstances and most of us have to make sacrifices of some sort.

Minxy_Bella

I think it's quite interesting that the two people who are condemning all working mothers on this thread are both apparently male who have SAH wives to provide the childcare (plus extended family).

I rather think that if both fms were female and had been unlucky enough to find themselves as single parents, for whatever reason, they might have a different viewpoint.

Empathy is a wonderful thing.

OP - I think you have handled yourself admirably!

fsdss

my two penny worth

some children are actually better off being in the care of a childminder

op: dont pay her another penny - she broke her contract, and failed to provide the service to you and your family