Partner pawned my dead nans ring without my permission

robpw2

do you really want your kids bringing up around someone who smokes drugs .. will get paranoid etc?
who thieves?
who lies?

you need to get out of there asap

Buddingblonde

I used to live with a partner who was a drug addict - he stole and sold several rings that I had inherited from family members over a period of time. I didnt wear them and were in a jewellery box with costume stuff that was worth nothing. He helped me search high and low and even had me convinced that a friend who had stayed with us for a weekend might have taken them.

I put up and shut up for another few years but to be honest I never trusted him again. After that whenever videos, cds, money went missing I knew that he had sold them. The worst was the day I came home to find that the microwave was gone - he said that he had used it and there was a loud bang and a flash from it so he had put it in the bin.

You and your family will never be his priority when he is using drugs. If you stay put you have more of the same to come.

Ax

neas

leave him...

betrayed your trust and sold something worth far moer than 29 quid for 29 quid.. what an !!!..

He then lies to your face for years... and doesnt feel guilty about it.

What a douche.

skylight

I mentioned this thread to my OH last night.

He thinks you should leave him too. He cannot believe that someone who is supposed to love and respect you is actually shi^^ing on you from a great height. (his words, not mine!)


How are you this morning OP???

Paparika

skylight wrote: »

I mentioned this thread to my OH last night.

He thinks you should leave him too. He cannot believe that someone who is supposed to love and respect you is actually shi^^ing on you from a great height. (his words, not mine!)


How are you this morning OP???

Funny you should say that just mentioned it to OH he said the same kick him out

DKLS

I am amazed the OPs man is still alive. That behaviour would be a deal breaker for me.

Pee

Just to say I really feel for you. I was with a heroin addict for several years and lots of things went missing, but thank God nothing as irreplaceable as this...

I didn't have children and in the end I ended the relationship. He went downhill and died about a year ago. It was a problem with heroin and alcohol. I was often very upset that he didn't love me enough to stop using the drugs and I often felt that he didn't love me or he would have treated me with more respect. In hindsight, he did what he could whilst struggling with something he could not overcome, and he did def love me, although it didn't help either of us being together.

The ring is irreplaceable, but yes, you want a replacement. I wonder is Relate an option?

Is this a one off incident, or has this happened several times?

Just to say I'm thinking about you and really feel for you and what you are going through, especially with a baby on the way.

inmypocketnottheirs

Is this lying thieving rat ever going to grow up, be responsible and support you and your children?

Somehow, I very much doubt it.

Dump him now, it will be hard but in the end you (and your children) will be better off for it.

dotstar24

this is the first time he's done this kind of thing. I think his intention was to go and get the ring back and it would 'magically' re-appear, but the stupid STUPID a-hole lost the slip.

wherever you are nan i hope you're cursing him.
this morning i sent him a text:
considering the sh *tty thing you've done, your not exactly falling over yourself to apologise and make it up to me. infact you're acting like I've done something wrong.i dont think you have you're family's best interests at heart.i should throw you and your stuff out but i wont. make an appointment to see the GP again or you will loose your family. i love you but you've totally broken my heart.

zzzLazyDaisy

Couldn't just read and run.

Big hugs... it is all well and good people advising you to leave, but the practicalities of coping with a move and a toddler while you are pregnant must seem like a very daunting prospect.

OP you will know in your heart when you can't continue like this any more. Only you will know when that is.

Just to give my two-pennorth though - I was married to a man with a gambling addiction. I 'mislaid' my child benefit book a few weeks before christmas. I was frantic because I'd been saving it for weeks and weeks - with my ex the way he was with money it was the only way to be sure I could afford to give my son a christmas. Anyway, I searched for it, and he helped me to look for it. I kept saying that I should report it missing, but he said he was sure it would turn up.

So anyway, one day when the ex was out, I decided to go through every room in the house and give it a thorough clean. When I moved the bookcase (very heavy and impossible to move without taking the book off) I found the missing child benefit book. And no, it hadn't just slipped down there.... not only had all the saved monet been cashed - but over the two weeks he had been helping me to look for it, he had also cashed each weeks money (and presumably put the book back under the bookcase).

This was the week before christmas and I was stuffed. I borrowed money from my dad (made up some story) and got over christmas.

But the trust was gone. It wasn't the first time he had taken money, but stealing the money I had put by for my son's christmas presents just killed any feeling I had for him.

We separated three months later. It was a really hard and lonely time, and my son was heartbroken that his daddy had gone (he was 7 then).

But I couldn't carry on like that.

Take one day at a time and do things in your own time.

((((((((hugs))))))))