Partner pawned my dead nans ring without my permission

Stephb1986_2

cheepskate wrote: »

Not only is he a druggy, he's also a thief and a liar.

I would have said to walk , maybe it shows what his character is really like, but circs maybe mean this is not possible.

May mean a huge talk and find out why he feels the need to do this

I totally agree with this. In the mean time I would put his stuff in bin bags and put it on the door step.

Steph xx

bestpud

Oh boy! To say I'd be livid and deeply hurt would be an understatement!

Not what you want to hear but I'd leave him before I killed him!

MissMitch

There's a lot of things I could try to forgive and forget, but I'm afraid that's really pushing the limits. I don't have kids myself so it's really hard for me to say what you should do but I think that behaviour shows such an enormous disregard for you that I wouldn't personally ever be able to trust him to have my kid's best interests at heart either...

Best of luck to you hun, but if it was me I'd walk now before he showed me and my kids what other depth he's capable of sinking too. (((hugs)))

geoffky

give yourself a bit of time because people can change and most lads grow out of pot.....plus life is such a struggle on your own....give a month and see how you feel as time is a great healer but it will never be forgotten..

*Louise*

Can I ask how old he is??

MissMitch

geoffky wrote: »

give yourself a bit of time because people can change and most lads grow out of pot.....plus life is such a struggle on your own....give a month and see how you feel as time is a great healer but it will never be forgotten..

In fairness, even if they grow out of it eventually most people who smoke hash don't steal to fund it...that's quite extreme. But I really don't want to make th OP 'feel' she 'should' do anything she's not happy with.

dotstar24

thanks all for your comments he's in his early 30's. He's been to the doctor before to get help to come off it but she wasnt helpful. I know this will sound crazy but if he doesnt smoke pot he goes totally hyper like he's got ADHD. he's constantly talking and in my face about something. the pot makes him normal.I think Miss mitch's comments about wondering whether he has his families best interests at heart ring true.

I love him so much. but this is just so low. for the sake of my DS and my unborn child i will see how it goes over the next few days, and will not kick off. how i'll ever trust him again i dont know. trust...what a joke.

minimoneysaver

I'm sure you'll be strong enough to cope. If you are interested and thinking of asking him to leave, you could go on entitled to dot com. It'll give you a rough idea of where you'd be financially. Can I ask, do you or your man work?

dotstar24

i went on to entitled to yesterday. it would seem i would be better off on my own! both my partner and I work full time and i intend to go back full time after maternity leave. x

kazwookie

Do yourself and your kids a favour and dump him NOW.

I know it will be hard, but for your futures sake, do it and rebuild your life, he has no feelings what so ever for you, if he can steal your nana's ring and then lie to you about it, evening helping you look for it, .

Good luck for the future.