** Daily Chat - Thursday 25th June**

sammy115

Toto wrote: »

If you look at someone and think 'I can't see myself wanting this life for the rest of my life' it's time to make changes and either force the situation to be resolved or move on.

Actually you have hit the nail on the head, although I often ask myself if I could bear to spend the rest of my life without my OH - the answer is NO! Therefore it doesn't matter how tough it is, we are in it together.

(Land_of)_Maz

sammy115 wrote: »

I seem to be suffering from an alcohol induced depression...(sammy wishes she was more sensible)

i think it's a maz induced depression, sorry for bringing the thread down....

and sammy to answer is getting close to debt free giving me a sense of freedom, well maybe.... that and getting skinnier, running and being basically independent of him....

apart from maybe motoring matters, and childcare...

hmmmmmn, motoring and childcare - is this the basis for a good relationship!??

sammy115

scorgeous wrote: »

:eek: I am so not, you are the one that told me to do it !!!!!!!!!:rolleyes:

:rotfl::rotfl:just you wait till Sunday:rotfl:

becky_rtw wrote: »

You both should do it - even if you have to chalk it up to 'this was a rubbish race' (boy do I have some of those ) it gives you a chance to practice race tactics and stuff

I was just a bit scared, I feel I have had two rubbish races just lately.....but I am going to drink loads of water between now and Sunday.....and no flamin alcohol

sallyx

(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »

You have is sussed Luci, we're only there for each other as childcare so we can do our own things, if i'm honest.

Being with him makes my life easier in terms of getting to do my stuff.... but it's not a relationship.

Exactly the same Maz...

redsquirrel80

(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »

i think it's a maz induced depression, sorry for bringing the thread down....

Don't be daft xx

sammy115

(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »

i think it's a maz induced depression, sorry for bringing the thread down....

and sammy to answer is getting close to debt free giving me a sense of freedom, well maybe.... that and getting skinnier, running and being basically independent of him....

apart from maybe motoring matters, and childcare...

hmmmmmn, motoring and childcare - is this the basis for a good relationship!??

No its not Maz.......if i didn't have you lot to talk to today I think I would be in bed, crying.......

Oh well, off to phone the VAT inspector, she can have the benefit of my bad mood....baby steps samantha baby steps

postingalwaysposting

(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »

It's easy to say don't settle, but there's a little bit of me that wonders if my expectations are too high.... is being with someone who is "okay" better than being on your own.....?

Maz, this is such an individual thing that no one can aswer that question. If everyone on the daily chat answered that you will have such a variety that you prob wouldnt get the answer that is suitable for you. I guess you just need to sit down and speak to Big G about this again. The fact that you have grown apart more since last year doesnt help things but if others can see it surely thats something to think about. Whatever you decided we will be here to support you in anyway we can.

sallyx

:grouphug: to everyone who might need one today Mwah I love you all

Lucifa73

(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »

It's easy to say don't settle, but there's a little bit of me that wonders if my expectations are too high.... is being with someone who is "okay" better than being on your own.....?

Bringing it back to DFW relevence, at least i am almost debt free, so that's a good thing.

YOur expectations are NOT too high - they are reasonable. Having been there I canhonestly say breaking free of my ex OH felt like a huge weight had been lifted. Okay so there was noone to warm my feet in bed at night but I could live my life how I wanted to. Compromise is part of a relationship but is only worthwhile when it is for someone you want to be with! Do you really want to 'settle' for the next 30, 40, 50 or more years? What happens when Erin is grown up?

I think you'll find that your running, weightloss and clearing pretty much all your debt are boosting your confidence and I personally have great faith that, if it is right for you, you are more than capable of going it alone...

Lecture over - you can tell me to neb out and shut my trap if you want

(Land_of)_Maz

Thanks guys....

you know i don't usually go for this whole living every detail of my life out in the daily chat cause it feels disrespectful to him, (well apart from telling you about his farmer giles, lol!!)

but somehow if i've put it down on here, i feel more likely to take the bull by the horns and deal with this...

i don't want promises from him, i want a new start... so i need to talk to him about this but be firm that it's not promises i want this time.

If i don't quite pluck up the courage to stand firm on this one, then please don't judge me for it...




Funny though, whenever i discuss doing something on here, i generally end up doing it... whether it be learning to swim, losing weight or whatever!