Think i want to walk out of work

staffie1

dan_essex wrote: »

Ok, you need to sit down at some point and do the following:

- Write all the things you really enjoy and take a great interest in
- Write down jobs which contain, or involve, these things you like
- Research these jobs and see what experience/qualifications you need to gain entry.
- Email a few of the companies and ask about the jobs you’ve highlighted. Ask what they look for and how they pick the people.
- Set a plan for yourself to get one of these jobs. For example, get a college prospectus for the qualifications you would need.
I left school with no qualifications, and was in a dead end job with no prospects. I hated my job and decided “to hell with this” and went back to college. I’m now a car journalist, which is my dream job.

That's the way! Good for you Dan. In fact you've given me an idea or two there as well

Horace

nirelandguy wrote: »

I have no qualifications but I'd like to think I am a fairly intelligent guy, I have various skills, for instance I can type 80-90 words per min, I can build a computer from scratch, I can build and design websites, I can program in JAVA and HTML, All skills that are essentially useless to me stuck on a production line.

Why not set up your own business - working for yourself is more satisfying than working in a job that you hate. There is a need for good web designer too.

Not sure if you are on UK mainland or in NI but you should be able to get some free advice on how to set up a business from Business Link.

You probably havent thought about it as being self employed can be scary but it is satisfying as there is no one to look over your shoulder telling you when you can and cannot have a break. As for qualifications - experience counts and some of the best people don't have any qualifications take Alan Sugar or even Pete Waterman - neither of them have any qualifications and in fact Pete Waterman cannot read.

Go off sick for a week - self-certificate and look at what you need to set up on your own..you can do it, you just need a bit of self belief and I know that you can do it:D I am not just saying that either..everyone has it in themselves to become self employed but not many of us take that plunge.

dacouch

Reggie Perrin?

dan_essex

nirelandguy wrote: »

WOW!!:T How did you find the motivation to stay at college? Thats an issue for me.

Well, when i left school i did go to college...but it was WORSE than my crappy school! The tutors treated everyone like children. Hence me quiting college and doing a dead end job.

When i realised i hated my job even more i thought "oh no, this is it for 30 years!" :eek:

But, thought long and hard and realised i enjoyed English at school and journalism would be a really cool job.

I then went to some open days at various colleges. Not all colleges are the same, and this is important to bear in mind. After visiting 3, i found a great place with some great tutors who treated everyone like adults. I met the tutors before i started the course and explained to them what job i wanted, and how i wanted to get it. They were great, and let me tailor my course to fit in with journalism and stuff.

Don't let a bad experience of education put you off. Treat the whole process as a step towards your goal of the best job in the world.

Oldernotwiser

nirelandguy wrote: »

I've never taken them though.

Probably why they haven't worked!

Oldernotwiser

nirelandguy wrote: »

WOW!!:T How did you find the motivation to stay at college? Thats an issue for me.

Every evening colleges are full of adults studying to better their position and enjoying it. Are you doing anything else positive to improve your situation, like voluntary work?

At the moment you're refusing to consider anything that will improve your situation: moving: studying: medication. Negativity may be caused by depression but it's within your own control what you do about it.

System

dan_essex wrote: »

Well, when i left school i did go to college...but it was WORSE than my crappy school! The tutors treated everyone like children. Hence me quiting college and doing a dead end job.

When i realised i hated my job even more i thought "oh no, this is it for 30 years!" :eek:

But, thought long and hard and realised i enjoyed English at school and journalism would be a really cool job.

I then went to some open days at various colleges. Not all colleges are the same, and this is important to bear in mind. After visiting 3, i found a great place with some great tutors who treated everyone like adults. I met the tutors before i started the course and explained to them what job i wanted, and how i wanted to get it. They were great, and let me tailor my course to fit in with journalism and stuff.

Don't let a bad experience of education put you off. Treat the whole process as a step towards your goal of the best job in the world.

Thats a similar thing that happened to me, I left school went to college, but like you realised once I got there that it was actually worse than school so dropped out a couple of months after starting, went into dead end jobs and have been there ever since, I admire the people I work with, because you watch them working, they are so into there work, they have found there passion in life, I think its only when you hit rock bottom that you will start working to improve your situation, and I think I'm pretty close and I'm starting to get excitied because I know a change is on the way.:D

wigglebeena

nirelandguy wrote: »

Sounds rather dramatic I know but I am on the virge of walking out of my job, It is rather selfish I know in todays climate but I really can't see what else to do, or perhaps its normal to feel this way at work?

As soon as you walk in you get a feeling of depression and sadness, Every minute seems like an hour, all you can think of is being anywhere else, At break times I am always first in, while the others are often so engrossed in there work they come in late, something which has never happened to me, same with home time, I am always first out. I never do overtime as I can't handle being there 1 second longer than need be.

When of on holidays they are ruined at the thought of going back, Take Christmas this year, I had 2 weeks off, I got of on Christmas eve, Christmas day I was sitting having a drink celebrating the occasion, then it dawned on me the thought of work, I actually got a bit teary eyed and I had almost 2 weeks to go, they were ruined. Same happens at weekends, On Saturday night the depression hits. I actually cancelled this years summer holidays as they will be ruined anyway so pointless.

I feel totally trapped as I have kids/partner to support but I am fed up with this depression, Believe it or not I actually listen to motivation tapes by Tony Robbins on my MP3 player to get me through the day. Problem is there is no work around here, in fact there never has been only dead end jobs so I presume they are all the same. The pain might be eased a bit if the pay was decent but I earn less that £13K per year, hardly motivating. HELP!!:( Because I really don't know what else to do, If this is all there is to life I think I'd rather be dead.

I thought you couldn't afford a summer holiday according to another thread?

Oldernotwiser

nirelandguy wrote: »

Thats a similar thing that happened to me, I left school went to college, but like you realised once I got there that it was actually worse than school so dropped out a couple of months after starting, went into dead end jobs and have been there ever since, I admire the people I work with, because you watch them working, they are so into there work, they have found there passion in life, I think its only when you hit rock bottom that you will start working to improve your situation, and I think I'm pretty close and I'm starting to get excitied because I know a change is on the way.:D

So you tried something once, over 10 years ago, and you've never tried it again? That makes as much sense as going to your doctor for help and then not taking the medication!

ceridwen

It sounds like you are possibly too intelligent for the type of work you do. The level of salary paid for that job is depressing of itself for anyone. Doing a job that is "too low a level" for oneself personally is depressing. The thing is re the depression that if you basically feel okay in your own time (apart from the cloud surfacing at intervals at the thought of going back to work) - then what is the point of taking anti-depression medication? All that would do is - maybe - change the way you feel - but it wouldnt change the circumstances that have brought about those feelings.

Feeling depressed ALL the time IS depression. Feeling depressed only at work and when the thought of it surfaces outside work ISNT depression - its a logical response to circumstances basically. Its all too easy for doctors to try and "medicate" perfectly understandable feelings out of existence. Many of us have been down that route and the doctor offers the only thing he/she has available to offer - ie anti-depressants - but they're not the answer if you know of yourself that life is reasonably satisfactory in other respects. I suppose the way to think out whether antidepressants would be helpful to you personally is to ask yourself "If I didnt have to do that job and got a reasonable income anyway - how would I feel about Life? What would I feel like doing with my Life? What would I actually do with my Life?". If the answer to that question is basically "I'd feel pretty okay about Life/I could handle it/I would find useful and enjoyable things to do that would contribute towards my Society and that I myself would like" - then its not depression thats the problem.

Its difficult to know what to advise you - in current economic circumstances. Is there anything that fulfils a dual purpose - ie "it floats your boat" and gives you life satisfaction/purpose that you can find to do in your own time on a voluntary basis on the one hand - but that, if you're lucky, might contain some chance somewhere along the line of being able to transform it into a new paid job?

I think this might be a way forward at your age. At my age (not far off retirement) I can survive a job that is too low-level and poorly-paid for me by gritting my teeth through it and doing something purposeful/interesting/higher-level out of work hours on a voluntary basis - if I were younger, then I would be trying to throw the "could this translate into paid work factor?" into the equation.