Think i want to walk out of work

Horace

Go off sick if needs be but don't walk out of your job, if you walk out you won't be able to sign on and get JSA. Sorry to be blunt but its true, I think they make you wait 36 weeks before you can sign on.

Go back to your GP and if he prescribes tablets take them (don't take the old ones that you have kept for 3 years). Part of your depression may also be caused by your circumstances as I read on another post elsewhere that your partner has wrongly claimed working tax credits and the HMRC are now after her.

Your GP may well sign you off sick for a while which will be better for you and if you can go on holiday then go as the break will do you good.

Trix2

I've just caught up with your post and replies - I wrote this before I did.

Re the job. It sounds dire, and in your present state of mind must seem even worse, especially as you can't get out of it - due to lack of other jobs. SO....

Here are a few ideas - for what they are worth. If you can't change jobs, and move area, there are some possibilities to take you through until things get a bit better.

Is there any training available at low cost to you? Could you extend your career prospects by taking on some volunteer work (obviously only a little as you wouldn't have much time with the wife and kids - but there are sometimes family related volunteering things around). PTAs offer you the option to help out your child's school and mix socially, as well as refine various skills and give you a new referee should you need one, in the shape of the grateful Head? (hopefully).

Do you have a hobby that you could improve on to give yourself new skills - which would be enjoyable as well?

And getting an allotment gives you something to plan, extra veg, and somewhere for the kids to 'help' you too. Also there are all the other allotmenteers to talk to. A bit of chat never hurt anyone.

These would give you something to look forward to - and maybe get yourself out of the depression you are currently feeling. And you never know, while you are doing them something better may turn up.

Re the depression though - I would say - see the doc again. My husband has been prescribed meds for depression. They help - then he stops. He has needed them again recently but they took the edge off and that was the main thing.

Best of luck.

staffie1

ClootiesMum wrote: »

It took me a long time to accept that I needed medication for my depression. When I started the meds I was on them for just over a year & have not used them since.
Depression is not a weakness, it's a chemical imbalance in the brain & the meds help to correct this - that's the way I look at it.
They are worth a try but it might be worth checking with your GP again first if they were prescribed over 3 yrs ago

CM

The thing is, if OP has identified the root cause of his depression, he shouldn't need to take drugs. He needs to tackle the problem itself - i.e. the job.

System

I recently went to the dentist with a toothache, she gave me a temporary filling which did solve the problem but eventually the toothache came back, I say the same about anti depressants, they are a temporary measure but don't solve the problem. I have mild depression, I am not depressed 24/7, I snap out of it for instance at home time, it is caused by my negative thinking, I have done much research into the subject, when you listen to Tony Robbins as much as I have you learn a thing or two about CBT and NLP.

I have no qualifications but I'd like to think I am a fairly intelligent guy, I have various skills, for instance I can type 80-90 words per min, I can build a computer from scratch, I can build and design websites, I can program in JAVA and HTML, All skills that are essentially useless to me stuck on a production line.

liney

Or the job could be what he's subconsciously pinning the blame on as it's easier than looking at other areas. See a professional.

What kind of work did you do before you worked there?

Have you thought of seeing your local college and finding out if there are any course you can do which are subsidised? There are subsidised/free NVQ2/3's available for people who haven't got this level of qualification already - perhaps you could find something that could lead you into another area that way.

Also, just thought depending on your age you could look at an adult apprentiship in something you are interested in. Your wage is already close to NMW, and tax credits would be available to help.

System

staffie1 wrote: »

Sorry to hear how you're feeling, and by the sound of it, I can understand why you feel that way.

If you don't mind me saying so, if you're family 'won't move' considering how you feel, I think they're being pretty damned selfish. Why would they not want to move to another area if it's going to make you happier and you could get a better job?
Is it your work alone that is getting you down or family related too?

There is a saying I heard once, It goes something like this, "A son is a son until he finds a wife, A daughter a daughter for all her life" meaning the she won't leave her mother. There is the whole cost of uping and going anway, we have no capital.

staffie1

nirelandguy wrote: »

I recently went to the dentist with a toothache, she gave me a temporary filling which did solve the problem but eventually the toothache came back, I say the same about anti depressants, they are a temporary measure but don't solve the problem. I have mild depression, I am not depressed 24/7, I snap out of it for instance at home time, it is caused by my negative thinking, I have done much research into the subject, when you listen to Tony Robbins as much as I have you learn a thing or two about CBT and NLP.

I have no qualifications but I'd like to think I am a fairly intelligent guy, I have various skills, for instance I can type 80-90 words per min, I can build a computer from scratch, I can build and design websites, I can program in JAVA and HTML, All skills that are essentially useless to me stuck on a production line.

Good for you. As I say, you know the cause of the way you feel. You don't need drugs, you need to get out of that place and find something to do that makes you feel contented. Have you talked to your family about this or do they refuse to move despite the way you feel? Make the move or it will ruin your health, and no job is worth that.

dan_essex

nirelandguy wrote: »

I recently went to the dentist with a toothache, she gave me a temporary filling which did solve the problem but eventually the toothache came back, I say the same about anti depressants, they are a temporary measure but don't solve the problem. I have mild depression, I am not depressed 24/7, I snap out of it for instance at home time, it is caused by my negative thinking, I have done much research into the subject, when you listen to Tony Robbins as much as I have you learn a thing or two about CBT and NLP.

I have no qualifications but I'd like to think I am a fairly intelligent guy, I have various skills, for instance I can type 80-90 words per min, I can build a computer from scratch, I can build and design websites, I can program in JAVA and HTML, All skills that are essentially useless to me stuck on a production line.

Ok, you need to sit down at some point and do the following:

- Write all the things you really enjoy and take a great interest in
- Write down jobs which contain, or involve, these things you like
- Research these jobs and see what experience/qualifications you need to gain entry.
- Email a few of the companies and ask about the jobs you’ve highlighted. Ask what they look for and how they pick the people.
- Set a plan for yourself to get one of these jobs. For example, get a college prospectus for the qualifications you would need.
I left school with no qualifications, and was in a dead end job with no prospects. I hated my job and decided “to hell with this” and went back to college. I’m now a car journalist, which is my dream job.

System

liney wrote: »

Or the job could be what he's subconsciously pinning the blame on as it's easier than looking at other areas. See a professional.

What kind of work did you do before you worked there?

Have you thought of seeing your local college and finding out if there are any course you can do which are subsidised? There are subsidised/free NVQ2/3's available for people who haven't got this level of qualification already - perhaps you could find something that could lead you into another area that way.

Also, just thought depending on your age you could look at an adult apprentiship in something you are interested in. Your wage is already close to NMW, and tax credits would be available to help.

We already get tax credits. I've always worked in factories/dead end jobs, mainly because I thought it was a better idea to party in my final year in High School than do any revision:rolleyes:

I did go down the college route before but at 30 found I really had no interest anymore. I really want to work for myself but start up costs and lack of transport has always been the issue.

System

dan_essex wrote: »

Ok, you need to sit down at some point and do the following:

- Write all the things you really enjoy and take a great interest in
- Write down jobs which contain, or involve, these things you like
- Research these jobs and see what experience/qualifications you need to gain entry.
- Email a few of the companies and ask about the jobs you’ve highlighted. Ask what they look for and how they pick the people.
- Set a plan for yourself to get one of these jobs. For example, get a college prospectus for the qualifications you would need.
I left school with no qualifications, and was in a dead end job with no prospects. I hated my job and decided “to hell with this” and went back to college. I’m now a car journalist, which is my dream job.

WOW!!:T How did you find the motivation to stay at college? Thats an issue for me.