Husbands ex-wife is living the life of luxury!

frugallass

My hubby pays his ex £231 a month for his DD - I receive £104 a month from my ex

Hubby's ex goes on foreign holidays every year - we stay in the UK

Hubby's ex works part-time - I have to work full time

Hubby's ex lives in a four bed detached house - I live in a 2 bed flat

Hubby's ex has two cars in the driveway - so do we but the cars are much older and mine is parked up cos I can't afford the MOT yet !

Hubby's ex is a sour-faced and controlling bitter old bag - me and hubby are happy together and have a pretty good family life - we have a comfortable lifestyle and enjoy each other's company

At the end of the day, we're happy - she's not - it's not always about material things (I must admit, it took me a while to realise this).

We do begrudge paying the £231 a month but it's the law so we pay it - at least she can't come back at him with the 'you never paid your way' statement. Thankfully our CSA ordeal is coming to an end very soon anyway so that £231 is staying in our bank account at last !

Blonde_Bint

frugallass wrote: »

My hubby pays his ex £231 a month for his DD - I receive £104 a month from my ex

Hubby's ex goes on foreign holidays every year - we stay in the UK least you wont contract malaria if theres any justice she might lol

Hubby's ex works part-time - I have to work full time excuse not to do the housework plus if you were in the house more it would cost more you should get a load of my hubby costs 10p every time you flush you know lol give me a break. your makeing a saving there

Hubby's ex lives in a four bed detached house - I live in a 2 bed flat back breaking housework then for uber b*tch a 15 minute affair for your goodself leaving you more time for feet up and a biccie

Hubby's ex has two cars in the driveway - so do we but the cars are much older and mine is parked up cos I can't afford the MOT yet ! more chance of her being involved in a traffic accident which will cost her a fortune when it comes to fixing her car ha.

Hubby's ex is a sour-faced and controlling bitter old bag lol ha ha. - me and hubby are happy together and have a pretty good family life aw lovely - we have a comfortable lifestyle and enjoy each other's company money cannot buy these.

At the end of the day, we're happy lovin it lovin it - she's not - it's not always about material things exactly you've got something all her money will never buy her (I must admit, it took me a while to realise this). main thing is you know it now. MONEY WONT BUY YOU HAPPINESS we only have to look at your poor pwc's predicament, rather be in your shoes than have a face that scares the Gorillas in the Zoo lol

We do begrudge paying the £231 dont begrudge it waste of energy and if you werent it would probably bite you on the ar se somewhere down the line, 231 quid is worth the money think of it as insurance lol ar se bite insurance lol a month but it's the law so we pay it - at least she can't come back at him with the 'you never paid your way' statement. Thankfully our CSA ordeal is coming to an end very soon anyway so that £231 is staying in our bank account at last !

every day that goes past is a day closer.

Ar se bite insurance money rocks. its worth every penny, when the day comes of the last payment you should do something the month after to the tune of 231 quid to commemmerate

Blonde_Bint

Take the kids to the Zoo with it (the first ar se bite) insurance payment that wont be used to cover your ar se lol) lol be sure to go past the ape house wont you:rotfl:


lol :rotfl:

Wasteland_Drifter

Like giving up smoking, you put the money saved in a jar and that lasts a few weeks and you have 80 quid in shrapnel.

Several years ago I promised myself a luxury holiday in the Maldives if I ever win the CSA case in court - and I would drop everything, grab the nearest person to me and head straight for the airport. Trouble is when I won the case, I had met my girlfriend, she is pregnant and cant take flights.

frugallass, celebrate your victory in style, it closes the chapter very nicely.

moneysaver12

I think that it shouldn't matter whether the pwc has a lot of money or not a lot of money, end of the day the op husband helped to create the children so should pay for them.

frugallass

BB your responses have really cheered me up - thanks !

We've already decided that the first non-payment of CSA is going towards my 40th birthday weekend celebrations

Blonde_Bint

lol :rotfl: good. Thats how I was hoping you'd take it, with a slice of fun and a pinch of humour, Its all in how you look at it my duck. I prefer a laugh to a row. A laugh makes me feel better and a row well I dont have the brain power for it really seeing as i'm among friends i'll be honest :rotfl:

I was particularly pleased with my gorilla comparison lol :rotfl: ha ha ha :rotfl: hee by eck you've cheered me up too you have

we should create Laughter Hour around here. no matter what, for one hour every day something to make us grin. Aw steaming I am, full of good ideas today.

frugallass

Nice one - the Black Cloud that is the CSA has hung over our family for a fair few years now and it's great to finally see light at the end of the tunnel

Keep up the good work :T

SandC

When the boys are at university age they probably won't go asking dad for any more contribution because it sounds like they have been and continue to be well brought up lads. They will recognise that they have a wealthy stepdad who loves them as his own and that their own dad has a daughter of his own plus a step daughter who he loves just as much. They will know that there is more outgoings for their dad than for their stepdad.

As for being treated equally - well what matters is what you husband is doing. From a financial point of view his stepdaughter and your daughter will actually be getting far more in monetary terms than that £300 per month that is being sent to the boys. He IS treating them equally.

That she is putting this money isn't really relevant. She's probably also putting the child benefit money into the same savings. Her and her husband are paying for the majority of day to day living expenses and putting the maintenance payments away. They could just as easily have said they were spending the maintenance on day to day but putting some of their income away. Swings and roundabouts.

I would say don't worry about something that really won't bother the kids - and they are the ones who matter.

catenorfolk

moneysaver12 wrote: »

I think that it shouldn't matter whether the pwc has a lot of money or not a lot of money, end of the day the op husband helped to create the children so should pay for them.

Well said, and that is all it boils down to!!!!!