A new start for Mooloo

Savvy_sewing

Late post has brought with it forms from the housing association to be filled in before I can be considered for the house, I hve 3 days to return it. Guess what i will be doing first thing in the morning.

Tomorrow I am due a visit from both the social workers. (so they do still exist,) was beginning to enjoy life without thier visits and interventions. Oh well.
Typically DGD has left a mess about her room, and so has DS so I have to hope to have the energy in the morning to deal with it.
Tonight my spoons are all gone, as we went out to look for something for Biggest of Mooloo's birthday. She is 24 tomorrow.

Savvy_sewing

S0%% it. DS didnt go to college again today!
His tutor just rang me again. So he will loose his ema again! I have just about had enough of it all.

I am hitting that stress zone again. DGD is messing about now, as its that time of the day and as i feel off colour its not helping.

Time to try some relaxing music, and distractions to calm me down, and off load the symptoms asap!

minimoneysaver

What on earth is up with that boy? Does he not have any ambition? I feel like screaming for you! Have you thought about asking BF if he'll have a word with DS or DS's father? Sounds like he needs a size 11 up his backside. x

Dazi

Re the shredding, fill washing up bowl with hot water, stick as much in as you can, let it soak, swill it about a bit, stick it through a colander, press down, big mushy ball, chuck in bin, by the time bin is collected will be big hard ball. I always think if anyone can then get my details after that, they probably deserve to Failing that, the bonfire on Nov 5th sounds good.

The 4 box idea is good, I have done this when I have moved before, BUT you do have to be ruthless. I have also done this when I moved IN to a house, cos when you pack you think oh yeah, it might come in handy, when you downsize you think errrrrr where is this going to go, nope, I don't really need it.

We once lived in a house for only a year, but - it had a cellar and my OH doesn't get throwing away, it ended up being filled with stuff of his that had been stored at his sisters, (she also moved to a smaller place and he thought wow we have a cellar) luckily when we moved he had just had surgery on his back and guess who got to sort the cellar out

I mean, why keep car parts for a car you haven't had for 10 years:eek: we were also storing stuff his sister wanted his brother to have, because we had somewhere to store it! yeah right, I rang and said if you want it its here till Sunday, after that its at the tip, guess what, he didn't want it.

I wish I lived nearer to you, as I would be there like a shot to help, errrr I like packing and unpacking, I know its strange :rotfl:

Have the forms out on the table when the social workers are there, ask them to help you fill them in. Don't worry about the mess in the rooms, with all their training they should understand that little children make a mess and that teenagers just are a mess!

If DS will not be there that often, a futon is usually cheaper and takes up less room than a sofa bed, not always as comfortable, but if it is only for the odd night............

BTW I will be very jealous that you will have a craft room :rotfl:even if you do have to share it occasionally. We have 2 bedrooms but OH's daughter 'sometimes' comes every other weekend. She expects the room to be like a shrine to her, I once forgot and left the clothes horse up in there.......this is still mentioned 2 years later *sigh*

I am quite excited about your new place, hope you don't think this is sad or that I am a stalker! I know you love the cottage, but I think being closer to everything will be good for you, much less stress and as you have said, near the bus too, so less of mooloo taxi service!

Hope DGD has settled now and that you are feeling a bit more relaxed xx

Errata

Late post has brought with it forms from the housing association to be filled in before I can be considered for the house, I hve 3 days to return it. Guess what i will be doing first thing in the morning

That sounds very positive, fingers crossed.
Can only suggest with DS you hang onto him like grim death until you sign the tenancy agreement for the new house, and after you've moved in tell him to shape up or ship out. I know that sounds harsh, but he's not playing fair and a short, sharp shock may be what he needs.

Savvy_Sue

Errata wrote: »

That sounds very positive, fingers crossed.
Can only suggest with DS you hang onto him like grim death until you sign the tenancy agreement for the new house, and after you've moved in tell him to shape up or ship out. I know that sounds harsh, but he's not playing fair and a short, sharp shock may be what he needs.

Good plan. Although I do still feel he's had a raw deal over the last few years, but he needs to make a choice: is that raw deal going to be the story of his life, or is HE going to knuckle down and do better?

floss2

Errata wrote: »

That sounds very positive, fingers crossed.
Can only suggest with DS you hang onto him like grim death until you sign the tenancy agreement for the new house, and after you've moved in tell him to shape up or ship out. I know that sounds harsh, but he's not playing fair and a short, sharp shock may be what he needs.

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Good plan. Although I do still feel he's had a raw deal over the last few years, but he needs to make a choice: is that raw deal going to be the story of his life, or is HE going to knuckle down and do better?

Hopefully DS will see the benefits in moving to the house - buses to college & town nearby, own room to entertain mates in (shared with craft stuff!), warm & cosy & cheaper for mum to manage.....

Savvy_Sue

floss2 wrote: »

Hopefully DS will see the benefits in moving to the house - buses to college & town nearby, own room to entertain mates in (shared with craft stuff!), warm & cosy & cheaper for mum to manage.....

Well that is true, and it is worth pointing out to him that the one thing you can never change about a house is its location, but that the location of this one sounds pretty much perfect.

Savvy_sewing

DS reckons he had a migraine. (not had them since he left work at his dads place!). Told him if he has one more day off of college without informing me first, I will dock the £30 a week he gets out of me, never mind the EMA!.
DS and BF do not get on. So no point in asking BF to intervene. Would just be another problem he would get frustrated at, as he already thinks that DS takes the proverbial. (and the rest of them, Which alas they do!).
Asking his DAd will do nothing. As he hasnt really been his dads since he was 1 years old, as such, he will not have any affect. (I have tried but its pointless).
I will be better off, holding my tongue, waiting till we move. and If he doesnt buck up, then denying him anyfunding, help etc and take over his room with craft things eventually.
I wont use his room as a craft room - yet-. I will try to keep things contained, and put away as i go along. Will be hopefully getting some stacking boxes at Ikea next week, and will label my stuff. If they are the drawers type of thing, then I can pull out things safely, and have them in the corner of my bedroom. I dont have any wardrobes at the moment, so I will utilise the space when I get to see it. Maybe have hanging rails on wheels? Who knows. We will have to wait and see.
I have filled in the forms. Just says they have to have a Passport size photo of me? Why? Anyway I will have to take a trip to Town for that, and thats £5 at the machine there.!! Another hit to the budget I had not planned!
Why is it when I want to save I end up spending much more? grrr

DGD helped me tidy her bedroom this morning before we got to come downstairs. So I have just the sittingroom, and the breakfast stuff to do.
I will take some of her toys upstairs, and then the sitting room will look 100% better. But as we are overcrowded then there is going to be a mess. And the ironing from the holiday is all over DS's bed as he is not here!.

Right, I managed a reasonable night. I am off to take it steady, get dressed and get DGD dressed (again), she stripped off in the loo. She is beginning to go on her own but finds putting her things back on impossible.

Errata

Storage ideas etc: If the new house has a bedroom with alcoves each side of a chimney breast you could get the BF to fit a hanging rail with curtain pole at the front for your clothes; much cheaper than a hanging rail on wheels and I'm sure you'll have some fabric somewhere to make the curtains.
Is there a community furniture service near? The SW should know and it may have v cheap chests of drawers and wardrobes.
Can you start temporarily storing fabric/craft stuff/summer clothes you don't need immediately at your parents?
Can you start culling DGD's toys? There may be some she had when she was much younger and isn't interested in now - every little helps.