My mum never paid for us...! any help appreciated!

Blonde_Bint

Hi there Jen,

please dont think anyone's having a go love. Just trying to give constructive advice for you. Only you know the full ins and outs of your situation. I dont have the opinion that you are out to bleed your mother dry blah blah blah lol. If you've got the stamina then go for it I wish you well. If you keep at it you may get something. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and do let us know how you get on, its always nice to hear that someone had a happy outcome and things are going their way.

Blonde_Bint

I'm taking you seriously, I am, I would just like you to do the thing that will make you happy in your life, give you a pleasant life. A very clever person once said 'money wont buy you happiness' and he was right:D

I wish you well I really do, sometimes the best thing for the future is to let the past go. Just give it plenty of thought before you start anything. For yourself and no one else. xx

Zara33

freebie-fan-jen wrote: »

blob: thanks for taking me seriously! everyone seems to think i have a vendetta against my real mum!


i cant remember her income unfortunately but i know she has a job at the moment, she is living alone *according to the council* and i also know that she was claiming benefit for us living there for a while when we werent and didnt tell the council, god knows who else she didnt tell!

im not sure whether to go to the fraud people because although i know she did claim benefits fraudulently for a while and was never caught, that would be another debt she owed therefore noone will get any money! also i dont know if i dislike her enough to get her in that much trouble

Revenge can turn ugly and nasty be careful what you start.

kelloggs36

Jen, you need to establish some facts first. You need to see if there is a CSA open with the CSA. Then you need to see if there are any arrears on it, or if she just had nil assessments. If she had arrears, then you can ask them to go for a DEO to collect direct from her wages.

You have every right to demand that they act if there are arrears due - it doesn't matter what gender the parent is, if they owe then they should pay. It would then be up to your dad to decide what to do with the money as he has had to make financial sacrifices to bring you up - and he sounds like a great dad to me!

Good luck.

catenorfolk

** money doesnt make you happier, but by gum it makes being miserable a lot more pleasant**

Blonde_Bint

catenorfolk wrote: »

** money doesnt make you happier, but by gum it makes being miserable a lot more pleasant**

lol:rotfl:

And I second what Kelloggs just said above too. No harm in looking into it just dont be too hopeful. If you were under 16 i'd say go for it all guns blazing but the fact that you are now 20 gives me cause for trepidation. Its your age that gives me cause for concern not your female NRP.

McKneff

she felt keeping her money for herself and going on holiday was more important. she told us so herself, along with a lot of other nasty stuff.

you have posted the above which only endorses what i said about her having a mental problem. No parent in their right mind would do this or say nasty things to their children. Not in their right mind = mental problem. Do you understand what i mean. I wish i could wave a magic wand for you, i really do but i havent, all i can do is send
My best wishes to you and your siblings.

McKneff

thanks for taking me seriously! everyone seems to think i have a vendetta against my real mum!

Nobody thinks that you have a vendetta going. this is only your own perception. Most people who do not agree with you are trying to get you to put a full stop to the anguish and whatever else you are putting yourself and your family by keeping this pot simmering instead of leaving it and geting on and concentrating on moving on. You can never change whats happended. you will still be resentful against your mum but you're dad will have a bit of extra money, do you really think it will change anything apart from you feeling that revenge is sweet, it isnt sweetheart, believe me, it isnt.

kelloggs36

McKneff wrote: »

she felt keeping her money for herself and going on holiday was more important. she told us so herself, along with a lot of other nasty stuff.

you have posted the above which only endorses what i said about her having a mental problem. No parent in their right mind would do this or say nasty things to their children. Not in their right mind = mental problem. Do you understand what i mean. I wish i could wave a magic wand for you, i really do but i havent, all i can do is send
My best wishes to you and your siblings.

Oh dear, it is you who is deluded I'm afraid!! This NRP's actions just proves that they are SELFISH it does not prove that they are not in their right mind!

McKneff

So having a different opinion means i am deluded? You are right, i am wrong?
I agree that the OPs mother is selfish but it's not the only reason.
Dont be silly - time will tell. have no doubts