Marathons, Money and Motivation

clearmydebts

starnac wrote: »

now you've got your dreams you need to work out how to achieve them. for example the diner. what can you do to get closer to the dream?? take a cookery course? attend a food hygiene course? set yourself little goals on the way to the big one and it won't seem so far away

Totally agree with what you said above Starnac.

Also one of your goals is to move up north so look at how you can achieve this, the same with how you can get going with your photos.

You only have 1 shot in life so may be time to get plotting for the future. It will also help you to feel more in control.

clearmydebts

starnac wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I am also ruled by my emotions!

starnac

hmmm 3 women (me included) all ruled by emotions? :eek: i just don't understand it

CAFCGirl

me neither LOL

I think its because there is so much in my face in her and now that I cant figure out how to cope with....
Im very much affected by my circle of concern (all the things affecting me), which gets bigger, although my circle of I (the one I have control over) appears to get smaller....and from one day to the next i just dont know what to do

starnac

clearmydebts wrote: »

You only have 1 shot in life so may be time to get plotting for the future. It will also help you to feel more in control.

i totally agree. one of the things i'm working towards at the moment is to be grateful for what i've got. i spend so much time feeling guilty about our situation and worrying about what a bad mother i am (for saying no....for going to work etc etc) that i need to start being grateful for what i've got (a beautiful DD who doesn't think her mum is that bad, a roof over my head - okay it's not mine but at least i've got one etc)

CAFCGirl

see ive not had those moments...

i just feel horrid all the time

clearmydebts

CAFCGirl wrote: »

see ive not had those moments...

i just feel horrid all the time

Maybe it's time to make a list of all the good things you have in your life, such as your OH, Gordon, family, your trip to NY etc etc

It seems like you are caught in a vicious circle at the moment and you will have to try to pull yourself out of it (easier said than done when you feel down).

However (and I hope this doesn't sound harsh cos I don't mean to be) you are responsible for your future happiness and planning towards this will ensure that you are more in control and have positive things happening in the future.

It's often hard to take the first step but you will feel tonnes better when you do

starnac

go get a piece of paper and a pen and write down everything you are (or should be if you're not ) grateful for. i'll start you off

a roof over your head
a loving and supportive OH (i'm assuming )

starnac

how could i forget Gordon?? *hangs head in shame*

clearmydebts

starnac wrote: »

how could i forget Gordon?? *hangs head in shame*

Tut tut Starnac - how could you forget CAFC's little man. Lol!