REMO-Reciprocal Enforcement of Maintenance Order

AnxiousMum

Charliuk wrote: »

Hello!

I have just completed the paperwork to start a REMO against my ex. Story too long to repeat on here as did so on another post.

Ex is living in Canada, paying £240 -£260 for 3 children every now and then.

He went to work up north for a couple of weeks but is not back yet. no western union there apparently, he wouldnt tell me exactly where he was working.

He emailed my daughter this morning to say he was working in Quensel BC. I looked up western union and there are two branches there! Emailed him with the addresses and said I want the money now!!

He will get a lovely shock when he gets the REMO! Fly on the wall springs to mind!!

My daughter wondered whether the courts might consider his snowboarding and quadbike costs essential when he has to declare his finances!! I dont think so!:rotfl:

Quesnel eh? lol - does he not know you can google it and see that it is a rather well equipped northern town? I know a few people in Quesnel

Charliuk

I reckon he thinks he is free from all responsibility and that I will just roll over and take whatever he throws at me.

He is so wrong, getting so bitter now and sad at what he is putting the children through.

He will get whats coming to him!:beer:

PlayingHardball

Hi Charliuk, can I just say that it won't do you any good to get bitter. Can I encourage you instead to remain focused (angry, yes) but bitterness will only be a negative emotion on you and will impact your children too. I know you probably say that without meaning it.

The best way I have found to deal with my whole REMO/child support saga is to treat it as a hobby, mentally, if that makes any sense?

Good luck, Anxious has firm belief (and results) in the Canada REMO system, I'm sure you'll get somewhere. I'll try and find your previous thread to read up on your story.

Best of luck x

Kimi31

Have to agree with PHB Charli, Dont let your ex pull you down to that low place you get to when bitterness creeps up and consumes you. This thread is great, and supportive. Treat as PHB says, as a hobby. That way you can rationalise everything in your mind without the negativity.
Your children sound like they are old enough to understand what is going on and that "dad" isnt helping to support them.

No update on me and mine, although going my Addys post i am expecting him to be servied in March sometime( allowing time for Steve being off just after i swore in papers and Xmas) No voluntary support. He cant afford it apparently. But can afford to buy DS a birthday present, and the weirdo ordered a DVD to be sent here...>FOR ME!!!! That is getting returned to amazon as soon as it gets here.
He has also rushed out and managed to get both my girls a new "used" phone. Granted he hasnt paid for these as his brother works in a phone shop but yeah sending them a blackberry is fine, i can use that in my electricity meter cant i??
Onwards and upwards eh???

Charliuk

Ok well, After about 5 drafts, I sent another email today telling him that I was going to court. Now scared about his reaction - but at least he is thousands of miles away and cant hurt me!

Told him that our daughter had sat down and worked out he had paid £16 per week per child over the past year, and was disgusted as 'that doesnt even cover our packed lunches!' I also suggested he contact them a little more as they dont know anything about him now really.

Just need to find the £40 to submit the paperwork now.

Does anyone have any ideas of the best paperwork to give them to back the claim up? I have a print out of his employers address, and a copy of his email making the original offer of £260 per month. Would anything else help?

Hope you are all still seeing your 'hobbies' through!!

Cx:)

AnxiousMum

Hey CharlieUK - it's not the £260 that you would be asking for enforcement of - if you don't have an order in place, then there's no point in asking for 'enforcement' of nothing. You need to get an order done in the BC Provincial court. To do that, you fill out the forms and you should be asking for the proper amount as required by the Child Support Guidelines for the Province of British Columbia. He will be sent a copy of your documentation submitted, and then he will need to respond to the British Court with all financial paperwork. If you go by the BC laws, then he will need to submit 3 years of financials to the court. You can certainly include copies of your 'private arrangement' and ask for the guideline amount - but his email offering £260 shows that he feels he can at least afford that amount - holding you in good stead if he decided to apply for 'undue hardship' under the Canadian laws.

Before your court date here in the UK, you will be provided with copies of his paperwork - so that you can be prepared in front of the Magistrates. I think the form you need to complete is 'C1' asking for an order of support for your children.

Once you get on the BC system, you will get log in details etc. so you can check when payments have been sent, what enforcement actions have been put into place etc. It's great - and the enforcement team gets back to you within 24 hours (even with the time difference!) when you have any questions/concerns. I logged on yesterday to find that he had to remortgage his house this month, and because FMEP had put a lien on his house, he had to come good with any arrears - so cheque was sent yesterday from BC to me for the total amount of arrears owed They ARE good, but you need to get the ball rolling now. If you need any help in finding the guidelines from BC etc., let me know

vivera01

Just received my first cheque today from the paymaster general for child support from my ex living in the USA.:T


Stick with the REMO process, it's worth it. Make personal contact with the solicitor acting for you at the local magistrates court and follow that up with the child support officer handling your case overseas. Their telephone numbers can all be found online.

It's taken me 9 months to get to this point but the cheques should be coming to me regularly from now on.

Get your kids what they're entitled to and never give up.

mico62

Congratulations Vivera :jwhereabout in America does he live?

I've had three payments and the court has asked if I want to withdraw my claim but with 2 teenagers, 1 at uni, I want to make sure he continues to pay, the consent order says to the end of their first degrees. My view is if he hasn't got a problem paying then he won't mind the court ensuring he pays what he's agreed to pay.

AnxiousMum

Congrats Vivero and Mico! Yes, definitely stick with REMO - it works I'm now up to date with all arrears being paid (poor !!!!!! needed to remortgage his house last month, and was only allowed to do it if he paid up ALL outstanding arrears) now just paying for the one child each month, also up to the end of his first degree. Excellent news you guys - perserverence .......as frustrating as it can be - can make sure our kids get what they are entitled to.

Really looking forward to an eventual success story from PHB

PlayingHardball

Well done ladies!! Just goes to show you what we can do when we set our minds to it!!!! I feel so strongly that PWC in our situations should not give up. I think there must be hundreds who don't think it is a fight worth fighting, and sadly give up at the early stage, either because they don't know about REMO, or they believe they can't win. I'm just too moralistic-I think both parents have to pay! Plus...my daughter needs the support, now would be nice, but more so in about 18 months time when university charges kick in.!

I read somewhere that there are 6000 PWC in the UK in a situation where NRP has moved abroad and is evading child support. These are NRP who are 'unreachable' other then by REMO processes. By the way, did you know that the CSA are looking at foreigh income becoming 'assessable income', but I think its a long way off.

My REMO situation is slightly different and MORE frustrating in that once you take a foreign language into the equation, everything is slowed up 1000 fold with REMO. Canada and the USA seem to be very good at chasing these guys. I've not been so lucky, I'm afraid. The foreigh country I deal with has always come back to me to challenge my 'application' and question my request for support! it shouldn't be the case, but it is. It's with an EU country, too. I've even had to respond to their allegations by the ex that actually.......he was the PWC!!!! (that took 6 months of correspondence which entailed 1 letter from them and my responce via magistrate court)

My ex has totally played the foreign authorities with this foreign language card....using lies and delay tactics, always needing to be translated....BUT...his lies have totally gone against him in the UK, in that my recent UK CSA tribunnal success proved that he is considered to be habitually resident in the UK, I used alot of what he told the foreign authorities in my tribunnal evidence, all good fun!!!

Cat and mouse. Do you know, I just can't comprehend these guys, why would you not want to support your children?