Husband had drink with female work colleague and lied to me - dont know what to do

Pssst

Which coffee establishment were they at?

If it was cafe Neros did they have Grande?

If it was costa coffee was it Massimo?

I only ask,as it must have been a lengthy meeting to get a parking ticket.
Does the parking ticket have the location and time?
Did he buy a pay and display ticket which over ran?

My feeling is that there is more than coffee passing their lips.

rainbow2224

I have only read bits and pieces of previous posts but all i can say is do you want to spend the rest of your life like this. Personally if my husband went for coffee with what i can only describe as a "random" women i would go mental. If it was a girl who he works with and went for a coffee at lunch time fair enough thats different. Just think of yourself & what you want for the future, obviously you want to do the best for the kids but its pointless if you are miserable. Take care

JodyBPM

If my husband had a coffee with another woman, I wouldn't batt an eyelid. To be fair,he's never cheated. However, if he had, and I didn't feel how I do now, then frankly we wouldn't have a relationship.

sidefx

socrates wrote: »

From a mans perspective - once the trust has gone in a relationship - its a 'ticking time bomb'

The bit where you told him not to have any female friends - is what he should have been telling you not the other way round. Once you tell somebody not to do something - they are more likely to want to do it

Put the shoe on the other foot - you had an affair with one of his mates - (he probably would not have had you back) and now you go for a drink with another man and don't tell him ......

Sorry to be so blunt - but its always good to get different types of answers and I agree with a lot of what other people have said.

As for holidays when there are problems - they can make things worse as you are confined

Do you mean that if a man has cheated its only a matter of time before they do it again? Or that they know they won't be trusted again?

Agree about the holidays.

Sorry to quote an early post but I've only just started reading this thread:o

socrates

sidefx wrote: »

Do you mean that if a man has cheated its only a matter of time before they do it again? Or that they know they won't be trusted again?

Agree about the holidays.

Sorry to quote an early post but I've only just started reading this thread:o

Probably both - are true statements

But what I meant was once the trust has gone - its a relationship that will not last - the insecurities, the jealousy and the disappointment of being let down will chip away at the core - obviously when children are involved (as in the couple have kids) its much more complex

sidefx

socrates wrote: »

Probably both - are true statements

But what I meant was once the trust has gone - its a relationship that will not last - the insecurities, the jealousy and the disappointment of being let down will chip away at the core - obviously when children are involved (as in the couple have kids) its much more complex

That's how I read it.

Sad but true

GracieP

Pssst wrote: »

I only ask,as it must have been a lengthy meeting to get a parking ticket.
Does the parking ticket have the location and time?
Did he buy a pay and display ticket which over ran?

It's perfectly possible to get a parking ticket in the space of 1 minute if you are in the wrong place at the wrong time. If the OP's husband parked in a no parking zone or in a cpz but didn't bother to pay.

socrates

GracieP wrote: »

It's perfectly possible to get a parking ticket in the space of 1 minute if you are in the wrong place at the wrong time. If the OP's husband parked in a no parking zone or in a cpz but didn't bother to pay.

I think you will find that Pssst was trying to provoke

Pssst

socrates wrote: »

I think you will find that Pssst was trying to provoke

Maybe...but im just wondering where he was parked,was there a coffee establishment nearby,was he parked in a proper parking place or did he park illegally? Its all minutiae but such fine details are the pixels which form the bigger picture. The truth easily stands up to such close scrutiny.

azurepurple

Don't know if it will help or hinder you going on the following thread on MSE http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1495091&page=47 about women who have been betrayed by their partners and how they are building their lives back up sucessfully. Really do hope for your sake that this is innocent, but my gut feeling is he is lying to you and only admitted what he had to when he was found out. I could be totally wrong tho and do really hope that I am wrong. The women on the other thread are really nice and will offer you advice although sometimes everyone else's opinions and advice can make it harder and a lot more confusing for you presented with so many different perspectives and opinions and it could be that there is nothing going on with your husband afterall. You know your husband better than anyone on here, perhaps try and find out more information and be vigilant without being accusatory and see what happens? Good Luck and Take Care of yourself x