MONEY MORAL DILEMMA. Would you give up a £50 train seat for a pregnant woman?

CheesyHammyEggy

Total NO BRAINER. How could you NOT offer your seat...so you got a cheap ticket...whatever. Gentlemen ALWAYS give up their seat on trains for LADIES, whether pregnant or not.

aliasojo

What has stood out for me throughout this thread is that for many of you, your lives appear to be well planned and unexpected situations just dont happen, therefore there are no allowances to be made for anyone else..........and that your concern for your finances take precedence over your desire to show manners and humanity.

Your Mothers must be so proud.

paulabear

marmalade77 wrote: »

No Way!!
If that woman did not have the forethought to buy an advanced ticket then I don't see why I should have to give my seat up. If someone was obese, and carrying the same excess body weight then i would not give my seat up for them, so why should it be any different for a pregnant woman.

If it was an elderly person or someone who had a disability so they could not stand, then i would give up my seat with no hesitation. I usually do this on our local metro system but pregnant woman - forget it. Why should I have to give up my seat just because she's pregnant.!! ps I am a woman of child bearing age and I would never ask someone to give up their seat for me.

A pregnant woman isn't just fat, she's got another body pressing down on her legs, as well as all sorts of chemical and physiological horrors working on her body. It's not an illness, no, but it's very uncomfortable! If you do decide to have kids, get back to us when you've been in this situation - it's not for nothing that your parents have (or should have) taught you to do this. But I guess it's up to you how nice a person you want to be in this life:p

As for anyone who says, it's the woman's choice as to whether she has kids - your parents must be so proud of you for your 'I-didn't-ask-to-be-born' attitude. Go off and live in a cave if you don't want to be part of human society

cozlw

marmalade77 wrote: »

No Way!!
If that woman did not have the forethought to buy an advanced ticket then I don't see why I should have to give my seat up. If someone was obese, and carrying the same excess body weight then i would not give my seat up for them, so why should it be any different for a pregnant woman.

But dont you think its a completely different debate, a pregnant woman and an obese one?

Personally, I would give up my seat for a pregnant woman provided I have reserved it. Im a young woman and could put up with standing for a bit, although if its a 5 hour journey then I will be less than impressed... im the one that complains to just about any member of staff around me! And if the seat was reserved then I would want it back when she gets up. On another note, I wouldnt give up my seat for an obese person...

However, the last time I was on any form of public transport, I gave up my seat to an elderly man and it was promptly jumped in by a woman not much older than me with a couple of shopping bags. Sorry but heavy bags do not constitute a seat and I made it clear the seat was not intended for her but rather the man who was visibly struggling to stand amongst the rowdy group of teenagers. She may have been embarassed... I was embarassed that I needed to point it out to her! Hence I drive just about everyhere and avoid public transport at all costs. I cant tolerate bad manners!

stunut

I always give up my seat on any form of public transport for anyone who needs it more than me.

eliebull

I would definately give her my seat, I am an able bodied 30ish year old who is quite capable of standing in a crowded train, whereas she would be significantly more uncomfortable than me, and I would like to think someone would do the same for me if it was required.

VickiB

Yes. I'd ask if she wanted to sit down for a while. Being heavily pregnant, it could be that sitting down for 5 hours is also uncomfortable for her so she might want to move about a bit as well over the 5 hours - we could share the seat. Who knows why she didn't book? Not me. Kindness isn't about money.

lisa01

Don't know what state handouts one of the moneysavers is talking about! perhaps he could enlighten me as I'm certainly not getting any? As a heavily pregnant woman on crutches, I would be extremely grateful if someone offered to give up a seat for me. If I ended up standing for 5 hours, I would most likley collapse or go into early labour. Having said that, if it were possible for me to book a seat, I would have done so but I have travelled on occassions at short notice from Southampton to Manchester, which is about 5 hours (before I was pregnant). If I were left without a seat now I would probably go and sit in first class and let the guard try to get me to move!

I am amazed at the self-rightousness of some people. It is not about treating women more favourably. The reason why it is good manners to offer a pregnant woman your seat is that standing up for longer than a few minutes can be very difficult when pregnant, even in the early stages.

stationaryace

I would (and have done multiple times) give up my seat to anyone visibly struggling, regardless of gender or disability, as an able bodied female. If I was ill, however, it might be a different matter.

absnasm

Of course I would give her my seat. It would be incredibly selfish not to, and what goes around comes around.