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scorgeous

Sorry to go way off topic here, but I feel a wee bit sad, just got a letter from the dogs trust and the dog that we sponsor has sadly been put to sleep as he had a bowel tumour.

jinky67

Toto wrote: »

. I am very pro special schools, I think the government pushing kids into mainstream isn't always the right thing to do. Sadly the places are limited in special schools, but they are focused on the individual kids needs and not 1 special child amongst 30 others.

So am I. And there should not be a stigma attached to them like there is, for many pupils it is the best option. They get more understanding and better interaction with the teachers.

Shannon's school has many special pupils with special needs and I think in a lot of cases some of them would be better off at a special needs school. I cannot see how their needs can be met a class full of *able* kids.

One of ex workmates has a grandson with special needs she looks after. He has needs but has been placed in a mainstream school, and to be honest he has not progressed at all, and this year he is expected to go to a mainstream secondary school, he will be totally lost.
She was told he wasnt bad enough to warrant a *special* school, but she wishes she had fought more to get him in one. She is dreading the thought of him going to high school

sammy115

Snags you have every right to be angry....don't be ashamed of doing the right thing by your son. Headmasters are no longer headmasters but tend to be business people and I can only echo what someone else said..

my sister went from a special needs school to mainstream and it almost killed her psychologyically...it took her years to get over it.

Best to be angry and fight for his rights now.......go girl and big x for toto...

scorgeous sorry to hear about the dog....

ghostmadlittlemiss

@ Snaggs - Oh, hun. I can't find the dodgy hug smilie so have a mental one instead.

I know where you're coming from. I got diagnosed with a very mild ASD when I was 13 and mainstream secondary school was hell for me. Thankfully, I was mild enough to get through and get to uni but my boyfriend at the time wasn't. He had Asperger's and ADHD and was bullied all the time. And the school did nothing about it, they couldn't because it was the whole school doing it. He was the smartest guy in school, always had all the answers to every question but in his last couple of years there he just stopped answering them. He left with one G.C.S.E. (an A in French) and went to do Travel and Tourism at the local college because (in his words), "No one bothers me there, they just leave me alone."

Now, I certainly don't mean any offence to anyone who's done Travel and Tourism, my parents used to run a hotel and I know it's b****y hard work, but he was the smartest guy in school. He could have done so much more then that but he chose that course because after everything he'd been through, he couldn't cope with anything more. What I'm trying to say is that if you feel Ryan needs to be in a special school then do everything you can to get him into one. Maybe he won't have the same doors open to him when he leaves but believe me, it's better than suffering in a place you can't cope with.

Woah, that was a long post. Guess I really needed to get that out.
Kayleigh

Snaggles

Thanks everyone. Hopefully I'm starting to get somewhere, and Ryan has taken the gloves off, although he is now drawing pictures of storks incessantly. He seems quite calm though, so I'm just letting him get on with whatever he finds comforting.

I've screwed things up with the doctor guy too, not that it really matters in the grand scheme of things. But he was going to ring me, and I had to fob him off, and then I was online firing a few emails off trying to get some advice, and he was online but I didn't have chance to speak to him, and he went back offline again without speaking.

It's the least of my worries to be honest, but how crap.


Kayleigh - thanks for that - you're right, it doesn't matter if Ryan achieves his perceived 'potential' - if he is happy, then as far as I'm concerned, he has achieved everything he needs to.

Sammy - I've got my fighting shoes on.

ghostmadlittlemiss

I've got to meet up with my landlord for next year to pay him the rest of my deposit for the house I'm moving into so I'd better set off now. Talk later.
Kayleigh

hypno06

If doctor guy gets the grump because you are busy trying to sort out the education of your son on the day he has been excluded from school, then he is not worth worrying about.

Once he knows the day from hell you are having, things will be fine, I am sure.

Snaggles

Thanks Hypno - it's difficult to know when to mention Ryan's issues to a new/potential partner, but before the first date just seems a bit soon! :cool:

But if he runs a mile, then you're right, he isn't worth worrying about.

sammy115

Snaggles wrote: »

Sammy - I've got my fighting shoes on.

Make sure they are heels......:rotfl:

and stuff the doctor.....but don't read too much into it Snags......

sammy115

am off oooop north now back sat night but have race on sunday so might not get to post between now and then...try not to miss me too much.....x