Weekly Flylady Thread 4th May 2009

pigpen

Not dead.. just feel it.. very brief as painkillers worn ff and I am trying not to take more!!

THANK YOU from the bottom of my woolly socks for the beautiful flowers which arrived tis afternoon.. once again pride of place in my kitchen!!!

back asap...

love lots
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mumofjusttwo

thanks everyone.

Well phoned him and said i was concerned etc. about the car journey, their relationship around the children ,coming back late Sunday then school next day. His answer was to say we will talk later



this will only be the 2nd time he has had both of them overnight since he left. The last time he also had his mum to hand to look after them. I personally think that is one of the reasons he wants to stay round hers as he has another adult to look after HIS children (although of course I may be wrong)

Well I think I will say they can go up there if they stay elsewhere. I don't think that I being that unreasonable. If I agree to this now what will me next.

rosepink1984

gtx wrote: »

rosepink - just wanted to say well done, it's been about a month since i was regularly posting and what a lot you've achieved - i remember when you first 'appeared' on here and the baby steps you were taking look like giant-sized ones now. p.s. i'm still knitting i really enjoy it i find its a good way to wind down before bed.
gtx

Thanks, that's really nice! I am really pleased with getting stars more regularly now, I'm finding the flying a lot easier. And doing the washing up regularly is quite a break through! Next week I really need to make sure I go for a walk at least once tho, I didn't do it at all this week

Well done with the knitting, what are you making now? I still need to sew up my cushion cover. Can't decide what to make next, have got a few balls of wool that I want to finish up. Could knit a scarf or a cushion cover with it, and maybe selll on ebay in the autumn?

I'm really close to another star. Don't have a PC desk, but the table hasn't been cleared for weeks (this is DH's dumping ground) so I've decided that's got to be done b4 I can get my bathroom star. If he won't do it I'll have to think of a way of doing it in a way that will make him wish he kept it tidier, can't think of a way yet, but I will.

If he leaves stuff on the floor, I've taken to picking it up and giving it to him and asking him to deal with it, instead of doing it myself. Quite effective with old beer bottles, junk mail, and piles of veg peelings. I say: "You are obviously keeping this for a reason, but I don't know what that is, so when you have decided please put it away." He usually says: "what are you talking about?" and I say in an innocent voice: "you mean you don't want to keep it? But surely you would have thrown it away if that was the case?" He hasn't cottoned on to this yet, hence the repeated conversations, but he will learn. He will.

Night night everyone, sweet dreams xx

ETA: Hugs Pigpen and Mumofjusttwo xx

greenbee

mumofjusttwo wrote: »

thanks everyone.

Well phoned him and said i was concerned etc. about the car journey, their relationship around the children ,coming back late Sunday then school next day. His answer was to say we will talk later



this will only be the 2nd time he has had both of them overnight since he left. The last time he also had his mum to hand to look after them. I personally think that is one of the reasons he wants to stay round hers as he has another adult to look after HIS children (although of course I may be wrong)

Well I think I will say they can go up there if they stay elsewhere. I don't think that I being that unreasonable. If I agree to this now what will me next.

Explain to him that they need to be introduced to his friend slowly - if they're suddenly staying in her house it would be stressful (and probably for her too!). He'd be best staying in a hotel with them, and 'bumping into her' when out in the park or something, then having lunch/tea with her if they appear to be getting on. I know it's hard for you to deal with this, but focus on what will work best for the kids - and you'll also feel virtuous knowing you didn't say or do anything that could be put down to jealousy, you were just considering how to make it easiest for the children. You can use us as an outlet for the other stuff

lil_me

mumofjusttwo you'll get there honey, if you aren't comfortable with it personally I would either ask him to change the arrangement or not go away (not being harsh but it's not a break if you're stressed). Probably best not to talk now if he's tired, it is late.
mozzy have you not thought of renting it out instead?
pigpen lovely to see you pop in
hex my DH did the garage which is mainly his on Wednesday, made a huge difference. ((hugs)) I am the same, don't know which would be the most upsetting for me, I think kids just pressume something will always be there.
Flower ((hugs)) for you and your Mum too

Well I cleared a cupboard, made some brownies then I went to make the boys tea and the oven won't bloomin' work! I checked the trip box, fine. I checked the hob and that still sparks. However the oven/grill/light/fan is totally dodo! I tried to get a manual off Whirlpool as it's an Ikea Whirlpool one and the model number doesn't exist so have emailed them. Emailed Landlady see if she has extended warranty on it as I think it's only about 2 years old. So annoying. Anyway I managed to cook the boys something without the oven. I need a manual as I don't know how exactly the clock works and it could be that been touched. I've posted on UKwhitegoods so hoping someone will help, trawled through every other website I could find.

Right, trashy tele then worry about what I will do without an oven tomorrow! Shame is I have a cooker in the garage but can't use it due to the built in one, would clash anyway so was storing it for my Mam when she gets her place sorted. Might see if I can get a bench top one for now or something, got my george, microwave and actifry to use for other stuff.

toottifrootti

Justamum wrote: »

Toots - what do the colours of the stars mean? I thought at first you were alternating them, but some have two the same colour next to each other - or is it just random?

Hi Justamum green :starmod: is Mon Wed Fri and brown :staradminTues &Thursday - I was keeping them in the right order but found it a problem if someone queried their stars and I had to check back so now I just award the star in the order that you tell me you have done them - thats why they are sometimes a bit random looking! hope that makes sense -i think I know what i am doing:rotfl::rotfl:
toots xx:D

mumofjusttwo

Pigpen-hope you feel better soon


lil-me I phoned him up at 8pm so think he was 'busy'



greenbee I agree with you. - I know that DS would be fine but he make think about it in his head then a week later he would be who, why etc and I would have to deal with it.

Quite happy for her to come down and meet her with the children. My and DH relationship is over. It is just difficult whether I am worried/nervous for the children or for myself IYSWIM.

mumofjusttwo

anyway I am of to bed now as will no doubt be up early with DS/DD

Going to a local farm/play area with the children so hoping for some lovely weather so we can have a picnic too

soappie

Hello everyone

I've had a quick catch up - hugs to those who need it.

We are back from the smoke. Had a lovely time and an interesting journey. But most of all, we're home safe!

carol22_2

Ugh I just checked my list and I'm not going to get Tuesday's star coz I won't manage to book the hairdresser til Monday now. Kept forgeting all day.
Might not be on tomorrow as I'm going to focus on German revision, so if you see me on other than after 8pm (my brain turns to mush later than that) give me a shove please?

Lots of love and hugs to everyone
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