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HelenYorkshire

ellieo wrote: »

im not making excuses but we have had a really bad year her dog died then we lost my mum suddenly so i dont know if thats got anything to do with it
i cant get her to open up very much.... thanks again ellieo

Hi, just to pick up on something, I think you said the tattoo was a little heart?
Perhaps her motivation was a kind of tribute /remembrance of the family (pets count too) she has lost?
I got one of mine after my nan died, it was the same pattern as a brooch she had (sounds daft but I know what I mean ).

Maybe understanding the motivation / reasoning will help things here. I'm not saying she hasn't done wrong - she has. But still...


Also, sorry I can't do multiple quotes but the 15 year old wanting a tattoo? Google for "bad tattoo" and scare her with some hideous ones. No bad designs - she'll just say she'll pick a better one - but ones with wonky lines, faded colours etc etc. :eek:
Pick on the vanity aspect - teens think they're indestructable so may tune out of the health / hygiene aspects.

HTH

Bettyboop

I'm prepared for any onslaught but if I were you and that was my daughter I would certainly get it removed! Not only did she go behind your back and get herself a tattoo...but where did she get the money? Surely they cost a lot? well that's what I have been told anyway. It's not cool or trendy but then again she may think so. If she has a little heart what on earth is she going to get next? her entire arm done? and obviously then she can't hide what she's doing when your are not around.

Toothsmith

Bettyboop wrote: »

I'm prepared for any onslaught but if I were you and that was my daughter I would certainly get it removed!

It might not be as easy as that.

Firstly, tattoo removal is hardly ever done on the NHS - so you'd need to find a private clinic.

Clinics need to be registered by what was the Healthcare Commission, and is now the Care Quality Commission. (Some tattoo shops have lasers, but not many are CQC registered, so I really would avoid them).

Written into the CQC service registration are age limits, and most clinics aren't allowed to treat under 18s either, but some can treat people over 16.

Consent is another important factor. For 18+ it is just the patient who needs to consent. Between 16 and 18 it is both the parent/guardian and the patient, but you, as a parent can't insist that something is done against the will of your 16yr old child.

I have recently set up a laser tattoo removal service within my practice.

New tattoos do not respond well to laser removal. (And laser removal is the safest way to get rid of them). It would be better to live with it for the couple of years it takes to get over 16, and then look into removal - if she wants it off herself. If she doesn't, there's not much you can do to force her.

Paparika

pinga777 wrote: »

I've got a similar problem, my 15 years old daughter is talking about having a tattoo done. She knows very well that this is illegal but she says that the tattooists "aren't much bothered" . Well, I'm trying to explain to her that those people usually aren't much bothered about ethics, hygiene and safety, and also, that the results may be horrid as their professional qualities are usually poor.
Sadly, my daughter wouldn't listen and I'm afraid that one day she will come home with a tattoo. However, I will try to press charges against whoever will do it and, also, I will insist on my daughter having blood tests to rule out hepatitis and HIV - I will recommend that to anyone whose kids have been tattooed by some irresponsible b**tards.

If i was in your position i would be ringing all local tat !!!!!!s and warning them of your child's intention and explain her age and that she is too young in they eyes of the law

gibboelli

Dont really see the point of laser removal, just leaves a funny coloured scar in the outline of the original tattoo! Again my point remains, how are you gonna force a 15 year old girl to have laser removal? Tie her up to the table screaming?

jago25_98

My girlfriend keeps nearly getting a tattoo. Everytime it nearly makes me cry so I know how you feel. I put it this way - no matter how good the tattoo is I'll never like it more than I like your skin.
Soppy perhaps but it is true.

Sometimes it's defiance for her. Not that I would want to put irony into the equation. It can be a move to strong arm her own freedom with emotional blackmails. Tough call, parenting is hard enough as it is.

Regards the tattooist.
Well it is against the law and has been for ages. Tattooists generally know the law and so they should. So I wouldn't blame anyone for going at the tattooist. However, is this such a good idea?
To a tattooist your daughter may have looked old enough. I remember getting ID'ed in clubs while my friends 14 year old sister flashed her bits and got into 21's night. Are you sure you want to saddle a tattooist with shutting down the liveihood (fine/debt/loss of home/prison?)(assuming it was a professional and not a DIY). If you want to do something you could send a letter informing you are going to report, and what the actions will be.... then 2 days later send another showing forgiveness.

As I say though I totally understand whatever route you go though

roswell

Obviously your daughter wanted the tatoo, im sure if she was asked if she was over 18 she would ahve said yes just to get it .... just a different way for you to invistigate before getting the firing squad out on the tatoo artist.

Toothsmith

gibboelli wrote: »

Dont really see the point of laser removal, just leaves a funny coloured scar in the outline of the original tattoo!

Not when it's done properly it doesn't!!!

If you just whack the machine up to max and go for it like a Sith Lord then it might, but if you start off carefully, and do a test patch first, and leave plenty of time between sessions (And only treat the tattoos that will respond best to it) then you can get some really good results.

The area might not tan too well for a year or two afterwards, but after that, you'd never know one was there.

clearing_out_my_pockets

pinga777 wrote: »

I've got a similar problem, my 15 years old daughter is talking about having a tattoo done. She knows very well that this is illegal but she says that the tattooists "aren't much bothered" . Well, I'm trying to explain to her that those people usually aren't much bothered about ethics, hygiene and safety, and also, that the results may be horrid as their professional qualities are usually poor.
Sadly, my daughter wouldn't listen and I'm afraid that one day she will come home with a tattoo. However, I will try to press charges against whoever will do it and, also, I will insist on my daughter having blood tests to rule out hepatitis and HIV - I will recommend that to anyone whose kids have been tattooed by some irresponsible b**tards.

Look on the bright side - she is talking to you about it.

I got a tattoo done the day after my 18th birthday with no prior discussion with parents. I'd never even considered getting a tattoo but I'd been out for a few drinks with a vague aquaintance. I stumbled into the first tattoo parlour we came across and (fortunately) said aquaintance talked me out of having my then boyfriend's name tattooed on me. I settled on the chinese symbol for love. At least that's what I'm told it means. And regarding the comment that they're expensive, mine was £10.

Later that week, my mum noticed that I was flinching as I sat down. It came out that I'd had a tattoo. My parents were mortified not that I'd done it, but that I'd done it after a few drinks and also with no research into health & hygiene.

By the by, three years later I had appendicitis. Fortunately the surgeon who operated on me took pity on me and made the incision an inch higher than normal. Otherwise my tattoo would have been sliced in half :rotfl:

FairyElephant_2

Whatever other action you take with your daughter, please insist that she goes to the GP and has blood tests for Hep, Aids etc. as if she has been tatooed by someone willing to break the law in this way (don't care if she does look 18 - she should have had to show ID to prove it...) then there is a big chance that she could be infected.

Hopefully she will be suitably embarrased by having to go for these blood tests (make sure you tell the GP why!) but with teens nowadays, who knows!

Seriously though, a friend-of-a-friend was tatooed abroad and did develop Hep (not sure which strain) afterwards, so it DOES happen!