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ellieo

Treading_Water wrote: »

Personally (and at the risk of being called names) I'm not sure that tatooists are the cleverist of people, how are they supposed to know a girls age. I know that I find it difficult to figure the ages of my 15 yo dd's friends.
I think I would be considering revoking all her privaliges.

thanks everyone for your help at the mo my head is spinning with it all, im so dissapointed with her i really cant believe it, believe me all her privaliges have been revoked laptop phone grounded etc etc
im even thinking of taking her out of school, as im not happy with what shes mixing with, and trying to teach her at home

Doom_and_Gloom

UKTigerlily wrote: »

Know many do you? I have a Tat & only know the one who did mine. Why on earth wouldn't they be intelligent, isn't that stereotyping? I'm sure they're the same as anyone else! I also bet they earn alot more than many on here, I only wish I had half of their talent.

It is stereotyping I’d say.

Treading Water the tattoo artist I went to see (and only one I trust but that’s more to do with me than other artists) is very intelligent. The fact that he tattoos nearly all day and is covered in tattoos isn’t a sign of him being unintelligent. Tattoo artists that tattoo those under aged are law breakers. Saying that tattoo artists are unintelligent due to a small percentage of this group who tattoo under aged people, when most are very decent people who stick to the law, is a very ignorant thing to say. Just as ignorant as those that believe people with tattoos are less intelligent, violent, law breakers etc because I know there are some people who believe this as well :mad:.

UKTigerlily you are right that they earn a lot of money and do very well for themselves because of that. They have a gift that is amazing and to wear their art is an honour .

anguk

As others have stated it's an offence to tattoo anyone under the age of 18 under the "Tattooing Of Minors Act 1969".
http://www.statutelaw.gov.uk/content.aspx?LegType=All+Primary&PageNumber=62&NavFrom=2&parentActiveTextDocId=1207035&ActiveTextDocId=1207035&filesize=6997

The punishment isn't very severe though: £50 for a first offence, £100 for any subsequent offences.

li'l_p

Can I offer another suggestion... speak to your daughter.

Why not find out why she had it, was it peer pressure? Does it symbolise something? Does she understand how tattoo parlours operate? Why they have age limits? Does she know what can go wrong? But also what is good about these things - symbolism, etc? (i.e. it doesn't all have to be negative). Ask her if she understands the implications of going to tattoo artists and the reason that they don't allow underage people? Explore all aspects with her and most importantly get her to talk about it, rather than it be a one sided lecture. You may find some info on the web about laws, regulations, just so you have some basic facts - perhaps even some pictures of what goes wrong - graphic and gruesome I know, but it might just make her think!

Also you need to address the care of her tattoo - I don't have any tattoos but I know that they involve a lot of care in the first few weeks, and if she's been spending more time trying to conceal it, then she may not be looking after it, and this could put her in danger of infection.

Yes, she has made a mistake, but it's not the end of the world. By carrying on fuming at her, you will only force her further against you. Tackle this issue with your daughter head on, in an adult to adult fashion - explain to her she has made an adult decision and therefore she needs to speak to you as an adult to help you understand her motivation. Ultimately, you cannot blame the tattoo parlour or the police, it was your daughter's decision; and now she needs to understand the implications of making such decisions and to help her make mroe informed decisions in the future. I would express to her that you are disappointed that but explain that are upset because you CARE and that you don't want to see her come to any harm, etc, etc.

By showing her your alliance she will be more likely to consult with you over similar things in the future - whereas if you are inclined to be explosive/confrontational, she will never feel comfortable approaching you and this kind of behaviour will just continue.


Good luck!

Paparika

ellieo wrote: »

just found out that my 14 year old daughter had a tattoo done a couple of weeks ago and im horrified, cant believe that she did it, and that someone would tattoo a 14 year old, the police say that there is nothing they can do so what can i do next? from what i have heard its not the first time he has done one on a kid of that age
its a small heart just below her hip so not noticable, but there must be a law about this

just remember if she can go behind your back about this, she probably also lied about her age to him, so all blame can't be placed on him.

LISSILEIGH

personally i think you need to calm down, before you take drastic action by taking her out of school, i do understand that you are upset (i'd be bloody fuming), but you need to talk to her to discover why she had it done (like someone has already said).also is this sort of behaviour out of character for her, is there any underlying issues?

when ever me or my sister upset our mom, she would not talk to us rather than take things off us to make us feel really bad about letting her down.

im not saying this is the right way, but i remember how misunderstood i felt as a teenager and often did things as a cry for help.

im not at all suggesting everything i say is the right way cause that would be stupid, but i guess im suggesting that you take a step back before making any rash decisions.

good luck

kaya

you don't need a license to do tattoo's, the local council come round and check for hygeine purposes but i's not a license per-say that you can have revoked , i know many tattooists and none of them would touch a minor, all clients have to sign a disclaimer and provide id so the likleyhood is your daughter lied or provided fake id to the shop, as for skipe i'm not sure what method of attoo removal you are using but with a correct laser the pain should be barely noticeable, there are also some creams available that are supposed to work, a q switched yag laser feels like a very light stinging sensation, probability somebody is using a £1500 e-bay jobbie on you , real lasers cost I.T.R.O £40,000+

clairec79

I had to sign a long list of stuff before they'd do mine (that I was over 18, I hadn't been drinking or taking drugs, it was my own free will, I wasn't pregnant or breastfeeding etc etc), they did't ask me for ID (but then I'm 30)

tori.k

i had one at 16 (sadly many years ago) i was in my school uniform, the tattooist took my fingerprint and i signed as 18, my backside still smarts when i remember my mum finding out Tattooist cover themselves pretty well they make a lot of money out of kids more disposible income i suppose

ellieo

thanks to everyone for your help, i have calmed down a little!,took dd for a walk today and tried to find out more, she was asked if she had any id she said she hadnt, but they still went ahead anyway, but i cant do anymore on that score untill tuesday, im still fuming but i suppose things could be worse she could be going out drinking or taking drugs or getting up to god knows what with boys but shes not, she is still in trouble and will be for the future months.
im not making excuses but we have had a really bad year her dog died then we lost my mum suddenly so i dont know if thats got anything to do with it
i cant get her to open up very much.... thanks again ellieo