The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

Miss_Piggy_2

Evening all!

Just managed to get on the computer. Busy day. Will catch up on thread shortly.

Budgie - 8 for me please!

Has been very very hard but am just about managing. Am sure my brain try's to sabotage me! Constant vigilence though!!!

Miss P
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budget_babe

Lurkio wrote: »

how does Eselt see me? and you, come to that..... :eek: :eek:

That my Dear Lurky I do not know

However Eselt if you are about perhaps you can divulge how we all were in the dream you had a short while ago?
Now that was you wasn't it and not MollyPolly? xxxxxxxxx

Miss P and Maz your totals now updated my dears Hugs xxxxxxx

Price is right don't worry when they do go off to uni it is hard but its nice to see how they grow and become the person that they are meant to be. All my friends said I would not cope when my Ds left home but I did because he was happy. I guess thats all we wish for our children if for them to be: happy and healthy and of course miss their Mums a little bit. Hugs sweetheart and take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

40sm thankyou for your kind words and well done on tackling the cleaning, I think a point awarded for you is very well deserved xxxxxxxxxxx

Jo :eek: I have seen the pics of you garden but I am sure that you will get it how you want it to be. Now what should be happening is: if all us mse's lived closer we should all come around and help. Hey we could go for the: June Af Ground Force Challenge you could keep score in a deck chair watching us all toil away serenely sipping lemonade under a parasol;) (Well its a nice thought) Perhaps even Grey P could join in and shift some more lard :rotfl: hey he could be 12 stone now as hes been gone awhile. So Angel I hope you are having a good evening and take care xxxxxxxxx

Fay well done you and I am sure you will do day nine just fine Hugs and take care xxxxxxxxxx

Grahame C hiya matey, hope you are ok and having a really fab weekend xxxxxxxxxxxx

Ok signing off now as it will soon be casualty
Budgie says bye xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

annie_d

Hya girls

i spent the day gardening too. Put seedlings in yesterday...then it hailstoned!
Most seem to have recovered today though. Nature is a wonderful thing

I am af the full 9 days of May so far.

Love to you all x

eselt

Hi all- everyone seems really positve today. Lurkers, if you are not, post anyway. AFG sounds good to me, my garden is so boring, just lawn and no real plants, spotted a pair of 3 inch high wedged wellies with a zip up the side in fowey today with a sky pattern on them, might go back tommorrow and get them and start digging.

Got completely fleeced by 15 yr old son today, he wants to go to Sonispere festival for his birthday, so I said I would take him and a friend as long as they agreed to stay with me in the family camping area (plus I was going on my own anyway because I love metallica and nine inch nails- but I hadn't told him that!!!!) and behave re: drink etc, so booked the tickets, then I found out he had asked his grandad for a download festival ticket for his birthday, and as my sisters going he can camp with her and hes going their too!!! How crafty is that!!?? Mine you I was secretly chuffed that noone batted an eyelid when I said I was taking them- it means people trust me at things like this not to get blasted like I used too, and my sons dad and his freinds parents think I will look after them properly on my own- that really meant a lot to me, I always knew people would be wary, quite rightly, and I would have to pay a long time for things I've done, and to gain peoples trust again.

Had a giggle at the scottish banter- fay are you and me the furthest apart geographically on this thread?

Hope everyone is OK today- big night in for me, fab.

budget_babe

Eselt hiya sweetheart, I am so pleased to read your post and how wonderful that you now have the trust of everyone, that is really fantastic. It seems though that you hold in your heart still alot of sadness for the past that is gone.

You cannot change the past but hey what a future you have to look forward to. You have worked so very hard to get here though I feel that you will always hold a little sadness in your heart.

But enjoy being you now and know that people do trust and love you, as we all do on here

On a less heavier note Brawn got the pole :T and what about the dream? (Its on my previous post ) lots of love and Budgie hugs xxxxxxxxxxxx

Miss_Piggy_2

Eselt, I think thats fantastic. Just shows how much everyone knows how much you;ve changed.

P.s Go jenson....Go Jenson (and I DO have a soft spot for Rubens!!!!!!)


Miss P
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Pippilongstocking

Hi E
Well done on the festivals - enjoy them and great you can take DS and chum too that must feel good.

Geographically - me and you - probably (especially when i am exiled to Shetland sometimes with work. Dunno if we have any deep southerners (ie Europe) or more northerly folks?/

Mild bell clanging tonight - bit stressed about work - so I guess I had better do some eh?? Back to the report :0

Waves to all x

EDIT to garden Jo - its not that bad woman!!!!!! Looks far worse than it actually is.

Phase 1 I'd get out there with the chopping implements and chop away like crazy and make a huge chopping pile (you prob done this already) - pick up the plastic and get rid - all you seem to be doing with that to be honest is keeping your lovely weeds really cosy. It does work for many weeds really sucessfully- but not for really vigourous perennials and not brambles really they are the rocky's of the plant world.

If the bramles look like you can't pull them up after a good go - - they are fatherless (!!) plants - then I would cut them all back and pile up the stuff in a corner and then (shut your ears any very organic people - I am normally the most natural gardener I know!!) I would wait until you have cut the bramles back after about a week or so and there will be a huge new flush (growth) of leaves - after that I would apply a strong dose of 'Round-up' - environmentally its the most inert herbicide there is once it hits the soil its inert - it should kill the roots etc of the brambles and you 'shouldn't' get too much hassle from them again. Dogs kids etc all safe after application once its dry (1hr or two?) - its pretty harmless after application (unless your children have cholorphyll in their blood).

I wish I lived nearer - its so frustrating not to be able to help.

Question - can you borrow a shredder? It would make mince meat of those nasty brambles and you'd be able to reuse the stuff as a path mulch

Once the bramles are gone you can really get some lovely things in.

Sorry I know this isnt the thread - but I wanted to go on again.

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Hope all is well with everyone including those who are reading, but have yet to post

eselt it is wonderful that you are regaining the trust of family members. I admire your understanding and am delighted this is happening faster than you had imagined it would. A life without alcohol can be beyond our wildest imaginings.

There is sadness for the past, but I hope that you can have compassion for yourself - as you have for others. Not one of us planned to become addicted to alcohol, not one of us wanted to upset our children or other family members... it wasn't a deliberate thought process - it was a reaction to our allergy to alcohol. I think if we can treat ourselves with compassion, then we can work hard to become the best people we can be :T

This thread is fantastic at helping me keep af one day at a time. For that I am grateful. Bless you - and bless me!

eselt

Oh, now I'm in tears (in a nice way). you people are so lovely-you really really are. Don't know what else to say really- you keep me sane and I thank all of you, from the bottom of my heart. for it.

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Hi, everyone. I have looked a this group for a while, & decided to finally do something about my drinking!

I have tried:
a) AA - couldn't cope with the group thing
b) Acupuncture - didn't work (ended up with sore ears, don't ask!)
c) Counselling - Ok for a while

I am now taking Kudzo, having Milk Thistle etc,. I am trying to cut down rather than stop completely.

I cannot remember when I did not last have a drink ( I mean years), I had a drink on Bank Holiday Monday & I have had 4 AF days since. In all my time with the above I have never managed this!

However, I do have a problem in the fact I find it hard to get to sleep, ( I have been a heavy drinker for 30 years or more), I am trying Nytol, Any advice please?

Also I have the night sweat, again any advice?

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