The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

Pippilongstocking

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

Where has he been? To campervan hospital?

He was in deed in the campervan hospital (garage for those of us in the know).

small oil leak, turned into gear box replacement and bearings and some sort of water pipe fell off (engine is water cooled so figured that wasn't good!!).

We didn't get to take him on our holidays :mad: he was ready two days after we left.:mad:

But he's fine now - had got 2 engines etc and various bits and bobs with him when I bought him so we raked about and found the right bits - was costly but could have been worse.


Anyway - hi to Lurks - been a bit awol myself.

Another AF one for me so 11 please JO - xxxx

69chick

115K wrote: »

:wave: to Lurkio. (I always get you and Yellowmonkey confused for some reason.)

Me too 115k!! spooky!

OK I am not af tonight, but in my defense my lovely daughter decided to get herself knocked down by a car today :eek: literally, long story short ran out behind my car oustide school and a taxi knocked her down and run over her foot...somehow after initial tears and attention of school people not to mention ambulance to preston hospital she is right as rain..can't say the same about me though...it was horrible to witness...the taxi driver was not to blame and luckily was driving really slowly...

I feel like such a bad mother

graemecarter

jo1972 wrote: »

Morning all, just a quickie, just popping on to see if I can actually post this morning

*Edited to add: Phew thank god that worked, it wouldve been a nightmare to read if my paragraphs had gone again *

Here's the list I compiled yesterday, some totals will have changed overnight so let me know and I'll up date

THE JULY ALCOHOL FREE DAY CHALLENGE

THE CUTTER DOWNERS AND QUITTERS COMMITTED TO OUR JULY CHALLENGE ARE AS FOLLOWS :

1 - 115k Target af days for July is: 15, Actual 5
2 - 40SM Target af days for July is: 31, Actual 6
3 - 69chick Target af days for July is: 20, Actual 8
4 - AvaNother Target of af days for July is: 8, Actual 9 :j
5 - Budgie Target af days for July is: 21, Actual 7
6 - BHB Target of af days for July is: 18, Actual 2
7 - Different Corner Target af days for July is: 20, Actual 9
8 - Eileen P Target af days for July is: 18, Actual 2
8 - Eselt Target af days for July is: 31, Actual 15
9 - Fayjmck Target af days for July is: 31, Actual 9
10 - ForeverHopeful Target af days for July is: 10, Actual 2
11 - FUAS Target af days for July is: 20, Actual 9
12 - Fluffyb Target af days for July is: 10, Actual 7
13 - Glasgowgirl Target af days for July is: 12, Actual 3
14 - Hopeful34 Target af days for July is 22, Actual 7
15 - Jo1972 Target af days for July is: 23, Actual 3
16 - Lotus-Eater Target af days for July is: 20, Actual 5
17 - Lurkio Target af days for July is: 16, Actual 1
18 - Maman Target af days for July is: 10, Actual 7
19 - Maz123 Target af days for July is: 15, Actual 0
20 - Miss Piggy Target af days for July is: 20, Actual 13
21 - MollyPolly Target af days for July is: 1 , Actual 15:j

22 - Netttie Target af days for July is: 20, Actual 5
23 - PIR Target af days for July is: 25, Actual 11
24 - So Here We Are Target af days for July is: 10, Actual 0
25 - Time2growup Target af days for July is: 20, Actual 6
26 - Wbf Target af days for July is: 16, Actual 5
27 - xx_Jo_xx Target af days for July is: 16, Actual 7
28 - Yellowmonkey Target af days for July is: 10,Actual 1
29 - Yippee Target af days for July is: 26, Actual 2


Combined AF Day Pledge: 553

Actual combined AF Days: 183 :T

Half way through the month - some people managing to cut down VERY successfully.
Others struggling a bit.
And some beating themselves up for not being totally AF when they may not even need to be AF!!

For me only, I know that cutting down would be frustrating as I would be controlling my drinking. I would be thinking on a Thursday 'One day to go until Friday and thus a drink' etc and that would do my head in.
I have no desire to drink at all, so I know I could choose to drink if I wanted, but as I have no desire to drink, I don't pick up. This is lovely as I don't have 'bells', no debating society in my head about drinking, and no guilt as I don't pick up.
Stopping drinking is easy, it is staying stopped that is tough.
Cut alcohol out of your life and then you have a hole that needs filling. Thus many people drink after a period of abstinence. And a lot of the time, they go back to their old habits very quickly.

If the regulating approach does not work, try abstention.
If that don't work, try something else.

Good luck my friends - alcoholism is a killer illness. It makes people miserable for years, and then shortens their lives.
Don't be an alcoholic statistic. Think of your families, but mainly do it for yourselves. There is nothing that can make you drink.

Miss Piggy knew she had to stop, and wanted it badly enough, so she has stopped entirely.
She felt enough pain to take the decision and mean it. She is inspirational.
I would love people to not have to feel the pain before they stop.

GC

(this doesn't apply to everyone BTW)

yellowmonkey

Hi all :hello:

4 for me now please Jo. Hope you are all OK. Just had a massive thunderstorm down here in Kent but no damage and settling down nicely for my night shift.

Sleep well

ym

yellowmonkey

115K wrote: »

:wave: to Lurkio. (I always get you and Yellowmonkey confused for some reason.)

:eek::eek::D:D

maman

Oh 69chick I just got such a shock when I started reading your post. Thank goodness she's OK and Im not surprised you had a drink. Of course you're not a bad mother, it could happen to anyone. Hope you both feel better tomorrow.

Fedup, I'm on Ribena (light) as well. I find drinking it hot helps me to sip not gulp but I am getting better on AF nights, don't need a drink in my hand constantly. I'm trying to stick to low calorie drinks (water mainly). I don't weigh myself (OH threw the scales away a while ago as we wouldn't use them beause we didn't like what they told us!) but I'm definitely getting more of a waist since cutting-down.

I went to a school prize-giving tonight. I thought I'd be safely away from booze but was offered a free glass of wine on arrival and there was a bar:eek: I WAS STRONG!

8AF please Jo.

40somethingmum

69chick wrote: »

115K wrote: »

:wave: to Lurkio. (I always get you and Yellowmonkey confused for some reason.)

Me too 115k!! spooky!

OK I am not af tonight, but in my defense my lovely daughter decided to get herself knocked down by a car today :eek: literally, long story short ran out behind my car oustide school and a taxi knocked her down and run over her foot...somehow after initial tears and attention of school people not to mention ambulance to preston hospital she is right as rain..can't say the same about me though...it was horrible to witness...the taxi driver was not to blame and luckily was driving really slowly...

I feel like such a bad mother

OMG:eek:

Poor you (((hugs)) Poor DD (((hugs)) . How terrifying (sp?) for you. You are NOT a bad mother .... thats my job:rotfl:.


Take care of you and little ones

Lots and lots of love;)

40SM

40somethingmum

yellowmonkey wrote: »

Hi all :hello:

4 for me now please Jo. Hope you are all OK. Just had a massive thunderstorm down here in Kent but no damage and settling down nicely for my night shift.

Sleep well

ym

Kent ? For some reason I thought you lived abroad (France or somewhere):rotfl: .... or perhaps thats Lurkio :rotfl::rotfl:

40SM

Miss_Piggy_2

Morning all

Ok, I'm sat here in tears!:eek::o

69chick: OMG, how awful for you! This is one of my worst fears for Piglet as his road sense is awful. I'm so glad your DD is ok. PLEASE don't think you are a bad mother. You are a WONDERFUL mother. Sometimes things just happen. I bet you she looks where she's going in future though! So this had me in tears (anything to do with kids and I'm a blubbering wreck!)

and then:

GC - I've said many times that your words always hit home for me. This time its the" I would love people to not have to feel the pain before they stop." I wonder if some people give up before reaching that point? Any time I even THINK of picking up a drink I'm going to remember the hurt my OH was feeling that night when I treated him so badly. I never want to hurt him or anyone else like that ever again. My life is starting over - this time without the prop of alcohol. Scary but ultimately I feel really liberated!
You are right - not everyone needs to give up. I did. I wish I was a cutter downer - but I never will be. Accepted that now. Thank you GC.

Anyway, off to wipe my eyes (I'm such a silly moo:o).

15 for me please jo!!

Miss P
xx

Miss_Piggy_2

Forgot to say, yellowmonkey (don't worry, never get you confused with Lurks!!:o) your avatars always scare the bejesus out of me!!!! (yours was the yellow eye one wasn't it...VERY scary And now THIS one!!) Please could you have one of a cuddly teddy bear or something for your next one!:rotfl:;)

Miss P
xx