The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

stroppy

Swine flu....:eek: Dont think its come here yet.....will have to get some of that handwash stuff you get in hospitals....and a mask....and lock the doors.....something else for me to be completely neurotic about.....:rolleyes:
I couldnt believe some of the girls I saw at the high school....they were so dolled up....wearing little teeny skirts.....sure I was never like that
Then again....I had my first tattoo at 15 and remember many a day sat in the park drinking white lightning and 20/20 ....surprised it didnt put me off alcohol for life!Anyway I digress....I dont want him to go hes my baby :-(
Hi Miss Piggy :hello:
Stroppy xx

graemecarter

stroppy wrote: »

Only managed 3 days in June :eek: and had became a little fed up with trying so hard to think yes this is it definetly AF tonight only to then pour myself a large glass of red when it got to the evening.:rolleyes:
Am more conscious of the amounts im drinking now though and apart from a friday and saturday am keeping it to sensible limits :rolleyes:
Not going to set a target for July just going to try and be better and see how I get on.

This is why alcohol is so tough to give up. You said you tried so hard but only managed one in ten days without a drink. It just shows what a huge part it plays in many people's lives, and that people are far more reliant on alcohol than they care to admit.

Stroppy - it sounds like you are having binges on Friday and Saturday. If you cut down on these days you may find cutting down or having AF days in the week easier.
I know for me, if I had a blowout once or twice a week, I could then justify to myself drinking on other days by saying to myself 'I am not drinking as much as I did on that night, so that's ok'

One day at a time seems to work for many people. I wake up and decide not to drink today, for today only. I don't make a decision about tomorrow, or for the rest of the month. That's why I have no target.
I can go a day without drinking. I can commit to that. I CANNOT commit to time scales much longer. So I don't set them for myself. And I don't need to. Live in today, in the present.

AvaNother

graemecarter wrote: »

One day at a time seems to work for many people. I wake up and decide not to drink today, for today only. I don't make a decision about tomorrow, or for the rest of the month. That's why I have no target.
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I totally agree with what you say GC, and I often wake up and decide not to drink today, but by lunchtime, or evening, I find I've changed my mind!! I need to find a way to keep that early morning "no I won't drink today" feeling throughout the day. Being on this forum is certainly helping at the moment. Thanks for all your sound advice as always

graemecarter

AvaNother wrote: »

I totally agree with what you say GC, and I often wake up and decide not to drink today, but by lunchtime, or evening, I find I've changed my mind!! I need to find a way to keep that early morning "no I won't drink today" feeling throughout the day. Being on this forum is certainly helping at the moment. Thanks for all your sound advice as always

You need to do an hour at a time.
When you wake up, you have to say to yourself "I will not drink in the next hour"
and when that hour is over, you should say "I will not drink in the next hour". Etc etc
You CAN manage to not drink for an hour - I know that and so do you. Just an hour at a time.

Of course, if you don't really want to stop drinking, then this is all pretty futile. Though have done great this month, so well done you :T

fedupandskint

AF last night making it 2/20 AFD now

AF today so will be on 3 by the end of the day

AvaNother

graemecarter wrote: »

Of course, if you don't really want to stop drinking, then this is all pretty futile. Though have done great this month, so well done you :T

Thank you, and I'll bear the hour by hour idea in mind. I definitely want to cut down when I do drink and want plenty of AF days in between, instead of the every day drinking which I have been doing. I'd like to be able to only drink on social occasions and then keep to 2/3 glasses of wine. If I find I cannot do that, then I'll have to consider stopping altogether. I'll have to wait and see. Am doing OK today and not had any wine bells. Though apart from OH having his beer and red wine, I've not been in a situation with anyone else drinking - which I think will be the challenge. Thanks again.

budget_babe

Hi guys :hello:

Sorry I have not been about but to be honest I have not been a very well budgie. I am absolutely not sleeping at night and I think I am getting paranoid, if I have one itch or see anything that is an insect, I am freaked out.

It came to a head last night when I found an insect on my bedroom floor and then proceeded to inspect my matress with a magnifying glass :eek: My Ds has said that I need to calm down and put it behind my as its not good the way I am behaving?

On a nice note he was in Birmingham yesterday so popped over last night to see me and then went back to London earlier today. (So he does care about his Mummy, after all ).

It didn't help as I saw a solicitor on Friday and it all seemed so intense. The fees they charge are astromonical, which if I win will be paid by the other side, even so I don't want to ruin anyone? I really did not get a good feeling whilst I was in there at all. I insisted that I did not sign anything until I had read through it, which I may add did not go down very well at all.

It all seems to have ran away from me, alls I wanted was my holiday money back but its steam rollered into something else, my Ds does not think it will be worth the stress? I am at a loss as to what to do?

Sorry guys rant over but I just wanted you to know why I haven't been online. To be honest I couldn't face it and have been very low. I still have the marks all over me and I am petrified of the things. Though it didn't help when I took my Darling Dog to be cut on Friday and there was a guy there that was an expert on the things. He used to be a nurse and he made me feel a whole lot worse once he had finished I can tell you.

So my darling Jo I am only on 2/5 days af which is not very good I know I aim to get back on track but I am just all over the place at the moment. (Gc I know what you will say and I agree ) But really Jo have a fab time at the concert tonight, you so deserve too and you are such a tonic you know :A). Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

So everyone I am off to catch up now, welcome to all the newbies and good luck. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I shall try and get back to regular posting and give back some of the lovely support that you all give me. :A xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Oh and Dear Lurks glad you enjoyed your birthday mate. Big hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

God Bless everyone and big, big hugs
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

AvaNother

Sorry to hear about all your troubles Budgie, but nice to have you back - as I'm sure you'll find out lots of people have been worried about you. I've certainly enjoyed reading all your posts in the time that I've been lurking. I don't know how you manage such detailed posts - I have every admiration for you. Good luck with July AFDs

fluffyb

So sorry you are feeling so low BB but it is understandable

I hope you start to feel better soon - I am sure you will make the right decision re the solicitors

Hey, 2 out of 5 AFD is not so bad you know - same as me :eek: - tomorrow is another day and I hope it sees you feeling better and stronger BB

Take care

fluffy xx

69chick

Am feeling a bit low tonight , had a busy/heavyish weekend with my family and had a stressful night to now as one of my twins is poorly and has struggled to go to sleep tonight....all has just calmed down and I am going to watch a film with dh in a mo, really feel like a drink but am wanting to stay af....if anyone is about to give some words of wisdom I would really appreciate it....I always feel a bit down on a sunday when I have had people to stay as it sort of feels end of holidayish iykwim

Off to catch up on the missed posts as well...be back in a minute

ETA...Oh Budgie you poor poor thing, what about if you or your oh called the hotel again and gave them another chance to compensate you properly...you could say that you have been to a solicitor and that you would rather it just be over and done with but that you will pursue it as it has affected you sooo much....I don't know if you are 'allowed' to contact them, but it might be worth a try......I think things are still very raw with you especially as you can still see the physical marks, so I would say just take each day as it comes and hopefully very soon you will see the light at the end of this tunnel....Take care sweetie and even if you are not up to big posts at the moment, just please come on and let us know how you are....xxx