The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

annie_d

Thanks everyone for your support. A blip is a blip is a blip. I am back on track ( though still v disappointed with myself ) taking a day at a time.

Graeme--All day today I have wanted alcohol. I thought this was a follow on from last night and the wine. You know, have one want many. However I drank a bottle of water and feel satiated with all thoughts of wanting alcohol passed (for now)

What happened last night? I dont know. We were having a dinner party. ALLLL imaginable drink both alcoholic and non-alcoholic was available as it has been since i stopped drinking and i just leant across the table and said, "I'll just have an inch of this ( a beautiful very dry white wine ) in my glass" and i did. Then throughout the rest of the meal i drank the rest of the bottle. I felt relaxed but that was all. Certainly wasn't drunk, didn't behave inappropriately. Nothing. Baffling.

Anyway, today I managed to remain AF and feel there is no point dwelling on the "whys" of last night.

Night night everyone x

graemecarter

annie_d wrote: »

Thanks everyone for your support. A blip is a blip is a blip. I am back on track ( though still v disappointed with myself ) taking a day at a time.

Graeme--All day today I have wanted alcohol. I thought this was a follow on from last night and the wine. You know, have one want many. However I drank a bottle of water and feel satiated with all thoughts of wanting alcohol passed (for now)

What happened last night? I dont know. We were having a dinner party. ALLLL imaginable drink both alcoholic and non-alcoholic was available as it has been since i stopped drinking and i just leant across the table and said, "I'll just have an inch of this ( a beautiful very dry white wine ) in my glass" and i did. Then throughout the rest of the meal i drank the rest of the bottle. I felt relaxed but that was all. Certainly wasn't drunk, didn't behave inappropriately. Nothing. Baffling.

Anyway, today I managed to remain AF and feel there is no point dwelling on the "whys" of last night.

Night night everyone x

Night night.

Sounds like you were relaxed, enjoying yourself, and thought "why not?Just a drop to try" I bet you didn't give it much thought, if any. I am trying to establish why that thought went through your head, and why you acted on it (as opposed to ignoring it). Sounds like we may never know.
That's the cunning, baffling, powerful nature of alcohol. It gets you in good times and bad. Complacency is something I try to avoid, as I know I will drink again. I cannot let my guard down.

Still, your attitude is great - you are not beating yourself up, and carrying on being AF. That is commendable

fluffyb

Divine itervention? :eek:

I have to share this with you cos it even made me laugh :rolleyes:

Tonight being a Saturday is one of my alowed/cut down drinking nights. So, there I was, enjoying a nice glass or 2 of dry white. I take kudzu even when I intend drinking as it means I drink less.

Anyway,I was halfway through my final 'allowed' glass of wine :rolleyes: and a litte voice popped up saying 'i really don't want to finish this glass of wine' followed by a 'yes you do' then another saying 'no you don't' - you get my drift :rotfl:

I took my wine into the kitchen to do some clearing away of dinner things and to make hubby a coffee. I was still trying to decide whether or not to finish the half a glass of wine or leave it when I poured milk into my half a glass of wine instead of into hubbys coffee :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I wasn't even tipsy, just 'miles away' - or maybe it's my age :rolleyes: :eek::rotfl:

Anyway, the decision was made for me :rotfl::rotfl:
Milk added to half a glass of pinot grigio is not a pretty sight - it goes all curdled :eek::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Ho hum. Bring on the cocoa :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rolleyes:

Pippilongstocking

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

Not at all Fay ..... I am the same with my family ..... and If I was honest is part of the reason we were thinking of moving up your neck of the woods (I say woods .... but .... you know ... not many trees ). Mrs BHB and I were discussing it in a quite corner today and she said ... but they would come to saty for a week or fortnight at a time then .... not just a few hours :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek: !

I
I am on the fizzy water and .... get this ....Blossom Cottage Morello Cherry Cordial, no less. Scrumptious !!


BHB
xx

Yeah my neck of the woods :rotfl:easier to think of it as my neck of the beach
hEY UP bhb ta for that - the one thing I would say about living in the sticks is first year most folks turn up - its a big effort to get to remoter places and most folks neither have the time, the money or the inclination.

After the frirst year visitors really dwindle and only those you really bond with make the effort - I do my best to do the 'rounds' when I am south and that keeps everyone at bay normally - so that might reassure you?? I do love having visitors but not especially unannounced and with their own dodgy agenda expecting the works just cos you are the big sis - I think my brother thinks we are rich or something - my daughter has more money in her piggie bank than i have - in fact my money is mostly minus - we have a lovely quality of life, but its not about money

ANd oooh the cordial sounds nice

My brother chain smokes and I am fervent anti-smoker (apols to any smokers on here) - he's broke and has bought 4 packets of cigarettes since he arrived here 48 hours ago - how do people afford to smoke:eek:

Enjoy the wine Miss P - and dont drink it on the exercise bike that would be very very norty:rotfl:

Ta for the good wishes - Jo I drowned my wine bells with eeyore - BB will know what I mean it was a lovely thing from her pressie

Fires on about to go and raid some fizzy water and read a bit of a book (not on willow)

maz123_2

Another brief hello again from me again. My normal life will be resumed in about 2 weeks. Hope everyone is doing okay. every time I come on thinking i'll just catch up on the posts there's another 10 pages, you guys talk alot :rolleyes:
Anyway i'm just taking one day at a time and it seems to be working well. Still not had a drink this month, but i've eaten loads today, that's with working at home when i treated us to food:o
i'm going to have an early night tonight little one's getting up sooooooo early at the moment and then spends the day bad tempered:mad:, bless! esp when i've been working late into the night!
night maz x

[Deleted User]

Hello to all the new people on the thread. Good to read all the stories and big thanks for the jokes - netttie wins awards... loved the Mahatma Gandhi joke

Lots to think about in the posts over the last few days. Thank you.

I just want to add to the four alcohol triggers of hunger, anger, loneliness and tiredness/thirst (halt). "Halt" also includes the trigger of people being too busy to take care of themselves, therefore you need to stop... or halt, so in effect this is a five point prompt for alcohol triggers.

Annie - great to see you back on this thread and not beating yourself over the drink last night. Sea - good wishes for your journey and I hope you find the meetings useful.

To everyone, thanks for keeping this thread running - it helps you, me and all the lurkers out there... who I hope will join us soon.

nettttie

Thanks everyone for the encouragement once again:T

I took the dog a walk with my radio and listened to some old songs from a soppy channel and sat and had a weep outside my dads old house in the middle of the woods!

Came home made meatballs and pasta for kids and I had meatballs and salad washed down with lemon and fizzy water! Just filled the dishwasher and tidied up. Told the kids I'd not had a drink for 6 days, they were amazed and :T for me!

Am now going upstairs to declutter a few drawers.

Oh and thanks for voting me for the joke award! appreciated!

Hiphouse just noted your post below, as far as HALT am those but definitely bored as well; bored through loneliness because I'm sure I've loads to do.

goodnite x

RecoveringAlcoholic

Many thanks for the thanks for my previous list.

This is also from "The Alcoholic and the help he needs".

Yet again it mirrors my own experience.


Honest desire for help.
Learns alcoholism is an illness.
Told addiction can be arrested.
Stops taking alcohol.
Physical overhaul by doctor.
Start of group therapy.
Meets recovered alcoholics well and happy.
Regular nourishment taken.
Assisted in making personal stock taking.
"Non-alcoholic" thinking begins. (Less irrational)
Onset of new hope.
Appreciation of possibilities of new way of life.
Diminishing fears of the unknown future.
Realistic thinking.
Desire to escape goes.
Natural rest and sleep.
Care of personal appearance.
Adjustment to family needs.
Spiritual needs examined.
New interests develop.
New circle of stable friends.
Rebirth of ideals.
Facts faced with courage.
Appreciation of real values.
Return of self-esteem.
Increase in emotional control.
Rationalisations recognised.
Family and friends appreciate efforts.
First steps towards economic stability.
Contentment in abstinence.
Increasing tolerance to frustration.
Group therapy and mutual help continues.
Confidence of employer.
Interesting, happy, useful way of life opens up.




Recovery, through total abstinence is a life-long process.
The steps to rehabilitation charted here average 2 to 3 years.

nettttie

A quick last drinkie joke :rotfl::rotfl:

Jack wakes up with a huge hangover after attending his company's party.

Jack is not normally a drinker, but the drinks didn't taste like alcohol
at all. He didn't even remember how he got home from the party.
As bad as he was feeling, he wondered if he did something wrong.

Jack had to force himself to open his eyes, and the first thing he sees
is a couple of aspirins next to a glass of water on the side table. And,
next to them, a single red rose!! Jack sits up and sees his clothing in
front of him, all clean and pressed.

He looks around the room and sees that it is in perfect order,
spotlessly clean. So is the rest of the house.

He takes the aspirins, cringes when he sees a huge black eye staring
back at him in the bathroom mirror. Then he notices a note hanging on
the corner of the mirror written in red with little hearts on it and a
kiss mark from his wife in lipstick: 'Honey, breakfast is on the stove,
I left early to get groceries to make you your favorite dinner tonight.
I love you, darling! Love, Jillian'

He stumbles to the kitchen and sure enough, there is hot breakfast,
steaming hot coffee and the morning newspaper.

His 16 year old son is also at the table, eating. Jack asks, 'Son..
what happened last night?'

'Well, you came home after 3 A.M., drunk and out of your mind. You fell
over the coffee table and broke it, and then you puked in the hallway,
and got that black eye when you ran into the door.'

Confused, he asked his son, 'So, why is everything in such perfect order
and so clean? I have a rose, and breakfast is on the table waiting for
me??'

His son replies, 'Oh THAT... Mom dragged you to the bedroom, and when
she tried to take your pants off, you screamed, 'Leave me alone *****,
I'm married!!'

Broken Coffee Table $239.99
Hot Breakfast $4.20
Two Aspirins $.38
Saying the right thing, at the right time:

PRICELESS !

nettttie

Fay - it's one for you hun!

An old Italian lived alone in New Jersey .

He wanted to plant his annual tomato garden, but it was very difficult work, as the ground was hard.

His only son, Vincent, who used to help him, was in prison.

The old man wrote a letter to his son and described his predicament:

Dear Vincent,
I am feeling pretty sad, because it looks like I won't be able to plant
my tomato garden this year.

I'm just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot. I know if you were here my troubles would be over.

I know you would be happy to dig the plot for me, like in the old days.
Love,
Papa



A few days later he received a letter from his son.

Dear Pop,
Don't dig up that garden. That's where the bodies are buried.
Love,
Vinnie


At 4 a.m.
the next morning, FBI agents and local police arrived and dug
up the entire area without finding any bodies.

They apologized to the old man and left. That same day the old man received another letter from his son.


Dear Pop,

Go ahead and plant the tomatoes now.

That's the best I could do under the circumstances.
Love you,
Vinnie