The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

115K

winebox wrote: »

Hi 115K sounds like you're enjoying sensible drinking (I wish....) which is great. No need to be af imo if you can stick to "a glass or two" in fact sounds so great guess what I want to do? Not gonna though, not today :eek::eek::eek: don't do it wb!!!

Sorry, I didn't mean to tempt you!:eek:

Everyone else seems to have willpower except me this month!;)

winebox

115K wrote: »

I don't know if it was reading about the alcoholics on the other forums that has made me start drinking again. I kept reading the stories and thinking that I have never been in trouble with the police, never driven drunk, never ruined my marriage or lost my job due to alcohol. I don't know if reading it has made me feel like my problem with alcohol isn't as bad as other people's?

oooh yes.....I've patted myself on the back many a time that not done any the above.....but I think really it's there but for the grace of god etc.....I usually fall asleep before I get into too much trouble, & of course live on my own so nobody to upset except at weekends! There are people with worse alch problems than me & you, undoubtedly, but my problem's quite bad enough for me, can't kid myself any more. Still ain't going to stop altogether though.

yellowmonkey

Hi

I have not really ever wanted to give up. I need to cut down and I have seen a program today that has kind of hit me like a train. I need to lose weight and get fit. The program was " Downsize me" on Living and the guy cut out beer completly and lost 16Kg. Have not got a clue what that is in old money but seems a hefty amount

He was allowed 5 glasses of red wine a week. This will not work for everyone but that is what I am going to do as of next week.

I am hoping that it will cut down on my consumption of beer ( 10-12 cans a day ) when I am off and will help me lose weight and get in shape.

I am tired all the time have no energy and need to get sorted to enjoy life with my young family.

So there we go that is my plan and I WILL stick with it.

Still not AF yet for this month 40SM by the way but will be first one tomorrow and then onward and upwards.

115K. It sounds funny but I still want to enjoy the odd glass on a Summer evening and I have not been AF this month either

I hope this does not go against the grain but it is a "Cutting down" thread as well although I need to cut down completly but a journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step

Take care

ym

115K

Yellowmonkey - It is a cutting down thread as well anyway.:) I think red wine is supposed to be marginally healthier than other alcoholic drinks. I think a pint of beer/cider is equivalent to a mars bar in calories, summat like that.:eek: I hope your plan goes well.

winebox wrote: »

oooh yes.....I've patted myself on the back many a time that not done any the above.....but I think really it's there but for the grace of god etc.....I usually fall asleep before I get into too much trouble, & of course live on my own so nobody to upset except at weekends! There are people with worse alch problems than me & you, undoubtedly, but my problem's quite bad enough for me, can't kid myself any more. Still ain't going to stop altogether though.

Yes, I can't picture myself totally stopping. I think it would play on my mind too much. Some of the older people on the forum I went on said that when they were younger they went to an AA meeting and then saw the people there and heard the stories and thought "no that's not me, I'm not as bad as that" but then rejoined AA years later when their health was bad from continuing to drink. I hope that's not what I'm doing!:o

Pippilongstocking

YM I think you should give it a go - we come in all shapes and sizes and are all on our own wee missions.

I want to be able to drink 'normally' but as Jo (waves) to Jo and I have discussed at length with much french - I am not sure I will ever be able to.

Having just ONE glass of G & T out the other night seemed a bit pointless - ie I couldnt get drunk (which goes to show my own need from alcohol)

However, it made me 'manage' my drinking as I have none in the house and I had just one when I was out - problem with me is that normally one leads to another 50 and if you knew the size of me you would know how messy that would be.

WB am with you, live alone and potentially fall asleep before I do anything stupid

Can't say the same to some of the situations I have got myself into when out and leathered. My judgement then goes out of the window - which is really scary - thankfully I dont have the 'opportunity' to go out very much.

MP you are right I think, if you don't drink (in my case certainly) then you aren't a ticking time bomb.

Who's woken up after a night out and not known where they are or who they are with??

Or is that just me???? (ahem)

Thankfully I woke up with my partner, but to be honest that was probably more LUCK than any judgement I made.

graemecarter

115K wrote: »

I don't know if it was reading about the alcoholics on the other forums that has made me start drinking again. I kept reading the stories and thinking that I have never been in trouble with the police, never driven drunk, never had any health problems, never ruined my marriage or lost my job due to alcohol. I don't know if reading it has made me feel like my problem with alcohol isn't as bad as other people's?

Just rambling anyway.:o

Hope everyone is okay.:A

It's odd that behaviour. I had that. I always felt that because I had never been arressted or drank spirits in the morning, I was ok.
The fact that I was wetting the bed in my 30s, occasionally sleeping rough, vomiting all the next day, etc wasn't evidence enough that my drinking was not normal.
There is always the 'yet' as in 'I haven't done this yet' - this continues and the rules get changed.
The amount of times I promised to give up and stop completely, and then a day or two later I was drinking again, are too many to count.
I used to say I would stop drinking to excess when I had my first kid, then it changed to 2nd kid, then it changed to new job, etc

I drank like I did because I am alcoholic, and needed no excuse.

My alcoholic part of me wanted me to carry on drinking until I lost jobs, careers, friends, family, houses, etc and that would have happened eventually, so I am glad I stopped when I did. If you have the chance to stop, why wait until it gets worse?
Though I do know that you can only do it when you are ready, and some people need to be so desperate and beaten that they will stop. Until then, they drink.

yellowmonkey

fayjmck wrote: »

YM I think you should give it a go - we come in all shapes and sizes and are all on our own wee missions.

Thanks. The same destination is reached by many different roads . Some are longer than others

ym

115K

graemecarter wrote: »

If you have the chance to stop, why wait until it gets worse? Though I do know that you can only do it when you are ready, and some people need to be so desperate and beaten that they will stop. Until then, they drink.

I can see what you are saying definitely but I don't feel like I am at the crisis point. I know I shouldn't have to be at one to stop it's true but I am not ready to say that I am quitting completely. I don't know if I ever will be. It's just not the right time for me right now. Maybe my mindset will change at some point in the future.

I read on another forum about drinkers having blackouts and one man said he woke up from a blackout whilst he was driving down a highway and he didn't know where he was or how long he had been driving for.:eek:

yellowmonkey

115K wrote: »

I can see what you are saying definitely but I don't feel like I am at the crisis point. I know I shouldn't have to be at one to stop it's true but I am not ready to say that I am quitting completely. I don't know if I ever will be. It's just not the right time for me right now. Maybe my mindset will change at some point in the future.

You are not alone

ym

barshamhillbilly

115K wrote: »

I can see what you are saying definitely but I don't feel like I am at the crisis point. I know I shouldn't have to be at one to stop it's true but I am not ready to say that I am quitting completely. I don't know if I ever will be. It's just not the right time for me right now. Maybe my mindset will change at some point in the future.

I read on another forum about drinkers having blackouts and one man said he woke up from a blackout whilst he was driving down a highway and he didn't know where he was or how long he had been driving for.:eek:

But is it not easier to, at least, take control now, before it comes near impossible to?

I wish I could just have the one, but I can't. I had done none of those things, all that I have done is waste several thousands of pounds. I have never thrown up becuase of drink, passed out, lost any one or thing .....

But I know I am on a very slippery slope that's easier to get off now, than wait until I'm doing a hundred miles an hour down a spiral.

If you can just have one or two a couple of times a week that's brilliant, I wish I could .

Best Wishes
BHBxx

The photo is there also to show me what I could loose.