The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

fluffyb

Sorry I am not around much this week guys I am having a very stressful nightmare week :mad:
No more AFD's for me but hey - I exceeded my target,eh???? :rolleyes:

I'll get on when I can but meanwhile take care all and hugs to everyone. Please put me down for 10 days in June

fluffy xx

glasgowgirl

jo1972 wrote: »

DS's mohawk, couldn't go too short at the sides this time as the school send the kids home if they have hair they don't think is appropriate :rolleyes: Hopefully there isn't too much for the old bill to pick up on in this photo.....

Jo - your wee boy is soooooooooooooo cute.

Hello to recent newbies.

Have been offline and semi-AWOL for a few days due to family funeral. Back to normality tomorrow hopefully.

Hope everyone doing ok.

xx

Sea78

Hi all

I've been away at family's so not been able to get online.

I'd love to say I've been sober since last saturday but no. I drank when away - never very much as that wasn't an option, but still.

My babysitter was ill tonight - jsut a friend, and I rang round trying to find someone else as I knew that if I didn't get to the meeting I'd drink...pathetic. And I have done.

No-one could sit for me. Their dad is having them this weekend though so I'm off to one tomorrow night in Blackpool, so hope the car works ok! Then if I need it, I see there are 2 on Saturday and another Sunday day time too. I really want to sort myself. My kids are too important and I'm not setting them a good example.

I'm scared though about the future - about being so dullat parties, and not meeting people because I have no confidence. My whole life seems to be set in alcohol, met my now ex husband, concieved my daughter etc etc. Made friends as I was confident after a drink. Any times I'vce not drunk I've hiddena t the back and left as soon as possible. I KNOW my kids are more important than my social life. Difficult though.

Thank you sooo much for all your kind thoughts, honest views and comments - it really helps me to see more clearly and I need that a lot.

Sea xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Pippilongstocking

Hugs SEA - this past few months is the first time I have been sober in over 12 years

I have just spent my first weekend (EVER) sober with my new parter who I have been with for 6 years.

I have been in the house drunk with my children probably every day since they were borne give or take a day or two.

We all have to get use to life without the alcohol or if its in our life in moderation I guess.

I have probably just about NO social life, and drink later on when kids are in bed - I just hope you find some peace in your own head.

To be honest with you, its been a wrestle this last month, but the paranoia and the hard time I normally give myself has gone.

Alcohol like isnt my friend. It does steal my thoughts for a bit when I am so desperate I just want to switch my head off, but to be honest for all the good it does me for that wee while, I am beginning to realise its probably not helping at all.

So hugs to you me dear. sorry for rambling on. Before you think about anything think about yourself.

I am the same at parties, which is odd really cos if I ever get the chance to meet up with a pile of friends at coffee or at a conference or at tea time at work I enjoy that time very much, alcohol doesnt cross my mind, but if it were a party I would be exactly like you.

Hugs me dear xx be nice to yourself. And get to a meeting

pariskate

Just in time to say Happy Birthday Andy - hope you've had a great day.

Really recognise the stuff about parties, feeling boring, learning to like your sober self. Keep repeating - 'sober is good and genuine'.

Had two glasses of wine tonight and felt really squiffy and actually found it slightly unpleasant instead of shouting "chink chink" and wading into the rest of the bottle with a vengeance. either I am sickening for something or my tolerance has dropped.

off to bed now...night night

annie_d

Isn't it a struggle? I have kept AF this month but my voices are saying, "So what?"
Like you Fay, i have had YEARS of being drunk. Functioning well ( usually) but in my heart i knewi was living dangerously. I tried to stop many many many times and failed every time.

What prompted me to start again was the sight and snappy of our recycling bin that was FULL TO THE BRIM with wine bottles which were all mine and all from just one week. I felt ashamed (again) but this time have managed to stop for a month. I dont feel better. I feel flatter, more boring, bored, irritable, nightmares, headaches but i will keep at it knowing that not-drinking is better for me than drinking and that i can't just cut down. That just doesnt work for me.

I have just read a book. "Over eating, Over drinking, Over thinking" Anyone else read it? Very insightful.

Even my typed sentences don't seem to flow as well as when i am drinking. LOL. i am feeling very sorry for myself tonight.

Good luck to us all xxx

Sea78

Thank you- I took suffer from paranioa so bad that the alcohol helps at the time but then makes it all so much worse. My meds help, but then the alcohol makes them not so great, etc. etc.

Thanky ou for sharing your thoughts - it's hard isn't it?

I've got to this point after years of drinking too much, but then being able to go months without a drink - something has changed now.

xxxx

winebox

jo1972 wrote: »

Just knew she'd be back, tail between her legs :rolleyes:

WELCOME BACK WB :D:D:j:j:j:j

hmmmm, couldn't think where else to tuck it......;):cool:

ta for the welcome back! I've been lurking drunken sulking :o:o:o:o

Pippilongstocking

annie_d wrote: »

Isn't it a struggle? I have kept AF this month but my voices are saying, "So what?"
Like you Fay, i have had YEARS of being drunk. Functioning well ( usually) but in my heart i knewi was living dangerously. I tried to stop many many many times and failed every time.

What prompted me to start again was the sight and snappy of our recycling bin that was FULL TO THE BRIM with wine bottles which were all mine and all from just one week. I felt ashamed (again) but this time have managed to stop for a month. I dont feel better. I feel flatter, more boring, bored, irritable, nightmares, headaches but i will keep at it knowing that not-drinking is better for me than drinking and that i can't just cut down. That just doesnt work for me.

I have just read a book. "Over eating, Over drinking, Over thinking" Anyone else read it? Very insightful.

Even my typed sentences don't seem to flow as well as when i am drinking. LOL. i am feeling very sorry for myself tonight.

Good luck to us all xxx

hUGS ME DEAR - YUP THAT SAYS IT ALL FOR ME TOO, AND I AM SO ANGRY AT LIFE

NO IDEA WHY

JUST AM ANGRY

I FUNCTION JUST AS WELL,, BUT, LIKE YOU SAY ITS A KNIFE EDGE, JUST TAKES ONE DAY OF BEING TOO DRUNK AND SOMETHING TERRIBLE HAPPENNING REASON GOES OUT THE WINDOW DOESNT IT.

THANKFULLY SO FAR I HAVE BEEN REALLY LUCKY BUT THATS ALL IT IS - LUCK

HUGS TO US ALL, XX

Pippilongstocking

hi wb and sea be nice to yourself the paranoia has diminished without the alcohol

not read the book annie, but think I might go and see if I ccan find it ta x