Need help with sex stuff

xmaslolly76

I think everyone gets like that sometimes and the fact you have not been at it means you will want it less. It always seemed daft to me but the more you have the more you want. I think you need to learn to be intimate again without fear of being interupted it doesnt mean full blown sex just kissing, cuddling, touching, massage and being naked with each other. Goodluck and hope you get your sex drive back :-)

tiamai_d

There's nothing wrong with you.

Sex be-gets more sex. All you need to do is have it a few times (close together, say no less than once every two days), even if your not in the mood, try to get in the mood, after a few times you will start to want it. Orgasm releases endorphins and hormones that make you bond with your partner, so make sure you are both getting off the bus at the terminus

I get like that at times and really all I need is to re form the habit.

ETA, did I just use a bus to ilistrate sex?! argh!

Mely

seadee wrote: »

Well now that you are in your own home then you are not restricted by time and place.

If the mood takes you when you are in the kitchen then go for it!
You don't just need to have meals on the dining table!

What about some nice oils, candles and a bath together, and you don't necessarily need to end up having sex afterwards.

Many a bloke enjoys a helping hand and a cuddle afterwards.

I think you need to pamper yourself too! I was going to suggest the above (bath together, candles etc but was beaten to it!:rotfl:). You could have a nice glass of wine together after the bath and then your oh could massage you with the oils once you are relaxed. It may awaken your senses, as long as you dont feel any pressure to do anything. You could suggest a relaxing eveing together and then you wont feel pressured? I think in most relationships one partners libido can be very low or non existant at times. And its understandable that you have gone off s$x, especially with your mum saying about the bed springs, and telling you off!:o
Anyway im sure things will get back to normal once you have properly settled into your new place, and you realise you have privacy,at last!;) I hope your oh gives you plenty of kisses and cuddles? As this can make you feel closer as a couple, and wanted as a person.
Good luck:D
Mel xxXxx

Mely

tiamai_d wrote: »

There's nothing wrong with you.

Sex be-gets more sex. All you need to do is have it a few times (close together, say no less than once every two days), even if your not in the mood, try to get in the mood, after a few times you will start to want it. Orgasm releases endorphins and hormones that make you bond with your partner, so make sure you are both getting off the bus at the terminus

I get like that at times and really all I need is to re form the habit.

ETA, did I just use a bus to ilistrate sex?! argh!

Tia exactly!... the more buses i get the more i want to catch!!!!;):D:A:rotfl:

tiamai_d

Mely wrote: »

Tia exactly!... the more buses i get the more i want to catch!!!!;):D:A:rotfl:

I know! But in my condition, the buses tend to stall the engine :mad: and close the whole damn road :mad:

That's it, everybody is banned from buses cos mine are off the road! :rotfl:

di3004

Great advice by all posters here.:D

Have a rub down and tickling session, and tease, this will get you going as well.:j

You can feel sexy by trying a bit of pole dancing, think they still sell these in Argos, well they did do, it should give you a boost.

Good luck and all the very best.

Oh don't forget the baby oil when rubbing down.;)

Taye

tiamai_d wrote: »

I know! But in my condition, the buses tend to stall the engine :mad: and close the whole damn road :mad:

That's it, everybody is banned from buses cos mine are off the road! :rotfl:

haha don't worry i've been waiting for my bus for 7 years :eek::eek::eek: i think it got it's route changed and no-one told me.

Mely

di3004 wrote: »

Great advice by all posters here.:D

Have a rub down and tickling session, and tease, this will get you going as well.:j

You can feel sexy by trying a bit of pole dancing, think they still sell these in Argos, well they did do, it should give you a boost.

Good luck and all the very best.

Oh don't forget the baby oil when rubbing down.;)

As long as the baby oil isnt used before the pole dancing!:rotfl:

di3004

Mely wrote: »

As long as the baby oil isnt used before the pole dancing!:rotfl:

lmao true.......:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:, think the baby oil should be the last but one thing, what do ya think ?:D:rotfl::rotfl::j

Debt_Free_Chick

kindofagilr wrote: »

But I just wanted advice on how to get my sex drive back?

What are your immediate thoughts when you think of sex with your OH?

What is the feeling you get, the instant you think of sex with your OH?