Need help with sex stuff

kindofagilr

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Sorry about this but I need advice.

OH and I have just moved into our own home 20 days ago, previously we lived at my mam's and his mam and dads

And we kinda got a complex over sex towards the end as my mam has "ears like a bat" as OH would say lol and could hear the slightest sound of a bed squeak from downstairs (mam actually mentioned it to me one time and said she didnt want to hear that again (I am 27 btw lol))

And his bed made a racket as well (he had one of those double bed loft bed things)

So towards the end of living with parents we kinda stopped having sex

We have had sex once since being in the house, but I wasnt quite feeling up to it? I just knew he was gagging lol

And he has hinted the last couple of days about sex

And I do love him so much, and I have no valid reason for not having sex, apart from I feel as if I have lost "it" somehow? (I am not the most confident person, especially when it comes to my body, although he is constantly telling me he loves me, and that I am sexy and basically lots of nice things)

Sorry if its tmi

But I just wanted advice on how to get my sex drive back?

You know I mean we have just moved out, we should be at it like bunnies lol

Thanks guys

naijapower

Well, as you been to settle in your new house your drive, interest and desire would begin to increase. Environment counts.
Shedding some weight if you feel overweight
Make an effort to dress to thrill your partner etc etc

Any

Are you on contraception?
That might be also a reason for lower sex drive.

kindofagilr

My partner is not the problem he is already thrilled, I dont have a sex drive at the moment, so I dont need to dress up to thrill him, its me that needs thrilling

Well give me that magic weight loss pill lol, in all seriousness I am losing weight (see siggie) and that is not the problem either, I def dont feel self conscious about my body in that way

kindofagilr

Any wrote: »

Are you on contraception?
That might be also a reason for lower sex drive.

No I have been off it a year now, we are going to start trying for a baby after our hols in July (yeah right I hear you all cry lol, need to have sex first lol)

seadee

Well now that you are in your own home then you are not restricted by time and place.

If the mood takes you when you are in the kitchen then go for it!
You don't just need to have meals on the dining table!

What about some nice oils, candles and a bath together, and you don't necessarily need to end up having sex afterwards.

Many a bloke enjoys a helping hand and a cuddle afterwards.

naijapower

Try Herbal Remedy....Passion Booster also called Goat weed. It is Herbal and not a magic blue pill. It gradually increases your drive after few wks.
Also been told Garlic is good to go. Only the smell is the issue. But been told that after one week of eating Garlic based food heavily, your desire for a nookie rises to the roof. Infact i heard that on this forum..few months back. Will try and search for the thread.
Also change your mental attitude. Be positive, free and get your brain thinking about sensual desires

kindofagilr

Thanks guys I will try all that

I know once I get it back we will be fine, its just getting it back lol

Idiophreak

kindofagilr wrote: »

My partner is not the problem he is already thrilled, I dont have a sex drive at the moment, so I dont need to dress up to thrill him, its me that needs thrilling

It all goes in circles though, you dress sexy, will make you feel sexier, will have better sex as a result, which will make you want to have more...and so on

nementai

I know how you feel.
I read once that Women are opposite to men - the more we have it the more we want it (though I've been out with some men like that!).
Can you not 'lay back and think of England' once or twice? You could find 5 mins in you remember what you've been missing.
Or try taking a shower together etc and see if that lights your spark?

swood016

Get a sex toy i.e vibrating c0ck ring!!!

Makes it better for you and might get you in the mood! :rotfl: