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maxdp

Having really pooh time at moment. My daughter who is suffering with depression after being mugged before Christmas has been again disappointed and let down by her father (I use that word lightly). He has not been well with pain down below. He has ME anyway and has had for many years. Trouble is he gets so obsessed about himself always has done really and was absolutely foul the other night we had major fall out on phone cause he "disowned" my daughter who had had a small flower tattoo on inside of her arm. My god it is not like she is supplying Cocaine to Nursery Children.

Anyway today my OH mum who is 81 and has a heart problem caused after she had breast cancer when she was in her 50's. the radiotherapy caused scar tissue round her heart. She collapsed whilst mowing her lawn. (why she was mowing I do not know we do that for her). Ambulance was called and she is now in specialist emergency unit near London. Her blood pressure was 80 over something when the ambulance got there and shot up in the ambulance to 192/103. Not good. In the meantime my OH got in touch with his brother to let him know and he was at the time in hospital with his girlfriend who has been diagnosed with advanced breast cancer. She is 35 and they were seeing the Consultant to see what the next step was. He was torn about going to see his mum and seeing to his long term girlfriend.

All in all a crap day really. I cannot go to hospital cause I am stuck here with my daughter who is not very good after row other night.

Cannot believe how things go. Anyway excuse my rantings just needed to vent that one.

marshallka

maxdp wrote: »

Having really pooh time at moment. My daughter who is suffering with depression after being mugged before Christmas has been again disappointed and let down by her father (I use that word lightly). He has not been well with pain down below. He has ME anyway and has had for many years. Trouble is he gets so obsessed about himself always has done really and was absolutely foul the other night we had major fall out on phone cause he "disowned" my daughter who had had a small flower tattoo on inside of her arm. My god it is not like she is supplying Cocaine to Nursery Children.

Anyway today my OH mum who is 81 and has a heart problem caused after she had breast cancer when she was in her 50's. the radiotherapy caused scar tissue round her heart. She collapsed whilst mowing her lawn. (why she was mowing I do not know we do that for her). Ambulance was called and she is now in specialist emergency unit near London. Her blood pressure was 80 over something when the ambulance got there and shot up in the ambulance to 192/103. Not good. In the meantime my OH got in touch with his brother to let him know and he was at the time in hospital with his girlfriend who has been diagnosed with advanced breast cancer. She is 35 and they were seeing the Consultant to see what the next step was. He was torn about going to see his mum and seeing to his long term girlfriend.

All in all a crap day really. I cannot go to hospital cause I am stuck here with my daughter who is not very good after row other night.

Cannot believe how things go. Anyway excuse my rantings just needed to vent that one.

Blimey maxdp, you must feel torn but your daughter is your priority here unless she is OK enough to leave. I am sure that everyone can understand that if she is not well. As regards your OH I assume he is with his mother and it must be horrid for his brother also being torn. They will sort your OH's mum's BP though with meds and keep a monitor on all the time I would think just to be safe. What a shame mowing her lawn at 81 but some older people actually feel alive doing it than getting someone else to do it. Well done to her for having a go and I assume this could have perhaps happened doing anything maybe if her heart is not too good. You just need to stay well for supporting everyone else but look after yourself too.

xx

maxdp

marshallka wrote: »

Blimey maxdp, you must feel torn but your daughter is your priority here unless she is OK enough to leave. I am sure that everyone can understand that if she is not well. As regards your OH I assume he is with his mother and it must be horrid for his brother also being torn. They will sort your OH's mum's BP though with meds and keep a monitor on all the time I would think just to be safe. What a shame mowing her lawn at 81 but some older people actually feel alive doing it than getting someone else to do it. Well done to her for having a go and I assume this could have perhaps happened doing anything maybe if her heart is not too good. You just need to stay well for supporting everyone else but look after yourself too.

xx

Thanks Marshallka. Yes she is very independent. She is very much into her church and until recently she was the one running everyone round. She has now taken it on board that she cannot do this now. I am very torn but my daughter has to come first. I am going up to see mum in law tomorrow she is fab lady very much WI if you know what I mean. They are keeping her in tonight. T hey are concerned about her BP because of her heart problems. Suprisingly the nurses are not checking her BP. Had a word with OH and told him to tell them to check it so he keeping them very busy at mom. TBH we were going on holiday on sat for one week which we were so looking forward to for quality time. You know long walks in morning then catching up on DVD like Lost, Brothers and Sisters, Dirty Sexy Money. Just relax time. Anyway we cannot do that as it is too far away from her so unless we get good news then that is not going to happen. Anyway we will carry on it just all seems to have happened at once really.

amersall

hi max,sorry to hear whats going down for you at the moment, look after your self as well, you count too !! hope you get good news about your mum in law and you get to go away. a break may do your daughter the world of good too thinking of you xxxx

marshallka

maxdp wrote: »

Thanks Marshallka. Yes she is very independent. She is very much into her church and until recently she was the one running everyone round. She has now taken it on board that she cannot do this now. I am very torn but my daughter has to come first. I am going up to see mum in law tomorrow she is fab lady very much WI if you know what I mean. They are keeping her in tonight. T hey are concerned about her BP because of her heart problems. Suprisingly the nurses are not checking her BP. Had a word with OH and told him to tell them to check it so he keeping them very busy at mom. TBH we were going on holiday on sat for one week which we were so looking forward to for quality time. You know long walks in morning then catching up on DVD like Lost, Brothers and Sisters, Dirty Sexy Money. Just relax time. Anyway we cannot do that as it is too far away from her so unless we get good news then that is not going to happen. Anyway we will carry on it just all seems to have happened at once really.

Well I hope you get to go for your break maxdp. You certainly sound like you need it right now. Perhaps nurses are not checking BP cause it was stable after being admitted. They usually expect someone older to have a higher BP (or used to say that although medical science says it is crap to expect that much of a rise) so they are old school and just leaving it to come down naturally. If her heart is not too good though they must be checking that. I hate the thought of old people in hospital though. I know my uncle who died a few years ago was 96 at the time and a sort of corridor patient for some time. Whereas my sis was sorted with no problems being younger. Its such a shame that the elderly are sometimes pushed aside in the hope they do not complain. I am sure your MIL will be OK though cause I am sure you will make sure of it by telephone or anything. Just cause you cannot visit does not mean you cannot ring. Sometimes they seem to care more for someone that is cared about so much. Sad but true.

Take care maxdp and hope you holiday works out.

di3004

OMG Max, so sorry to read this, just came home from seeing dad at the home.

I am sending you all my love and thinking of you all. XXXXXXXXXX

showergirl

Sorry to hear your bad news Maxdp. Hope everything works out and you are able to take your break away. Sounds like you need it. Look after yourself.

maxdp

Thank you all for your good wishes..xxxxxxxxxxx

OH just left to go back up to see MIL. His brother going in this afternoon so hopefully OH will be able to come home for a break.

Told him to get all assertive with the Nurses and ask why Blood Pressure not being taken. He did so and they are now on the case. Well while somebody is there.

Still do not know what is happening re holiday will have to wait to see.

maxdp

Not looking good. MIL had another major collapse this am. BP down to 80/ whatever again. She lost her wash bag so OH coming back later when his bruv gets up there to replenish supplies then we both going up this pm. Looks like hols are off. Am seriously thinking she may not be back out of hospital.

di3004

Max, how worrying for you all.
So so sorry to hear this. We are here for you anytime okay honey and my thoughts are with you. XXXXXXXXXXXXX