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di3004

dialysis wrote: »

Hi Di awe hun you are not gloomy you have a lot on your plate at the moment. Your mum just feels a bit helpless I think she obviously has been finding it diifuclt to cope with your dad and I am sure she knows you are all thinking of her and you know how she feels. It must be very frustrating for all of you. It will be better once your dad gets the correct care. Try to keep your chin up love thining of you Luv Di xxxx

Thanks di.:A;).
Yes your right.
And I suppose when we were all at home with also having an autistic brother who is rather severe, we have always been there to mingle in, and it have never changed.
Saying that my brother the one with autism, was about 30 when he was taken to a lovely cottage to stay with some carers and he loved it there, he only lives up the road from me and I see him when I can as well.

The sad thing with dad is now, is that nan (his mum) had moved to West Wales some time ago as my dad's brothers sold her house, and she did not want to go, well of course my other uncle sold his house and the combined the houses together for a 6 bed property so they lived together, she pined for dad and was brought down to say for a few days, unfortunately the first day she came down dad was rushed to hospital and that was the last he seen of her, as she died sometime later.

There is a lot or post traumatic stress dad is suffering with as well, he asks for him mum and says he is going to see her soon to help cut her grass.

The thing is not so long before that dad lost his youngest of brothers as well, so all this have not helped his condition.


Golly I'm going on about a life story here........:eek::o oops.

dialysis

di3004 wrote: »

Thanks di.:A;).
Yes your right.
And I suppose when we were all at home with also having an autistic brother who is rather severe, we have always been there to mingle in, and it have never changed.
Saying that my brother the one with autism, was about 30 when he was taken to a lovely cottage to stay with some carers and he loved it there, he only lives up the road from me and I see him when I can as well.

The sad thing with dad is now, is that nan (his mum) had moved to West Wales some time ago as my dad's brothers sold her house, and she did not want to go, well of course my other uncle sold his house and the combined the houses together for a 6 bed property so they lived together, she pined for dad and was brought down to say for a few days, unfortunately the first day she came down dad was rushed to hospital and that was the last he seen of her, as she died sometime later.

There is a lot or post traumatic stress dad is suffering with as well, he asks for him mum and says he is going to see her soon to help cut her grass.

The thing is not so long before that dad lost his youngest of brothers as well, so all this have not helped his condition.


Golly I'm going on about a life story here........:eek::o oops.

Dont worry Di you should write a book hun lol I have often thought of doing that you know my life has been full of illness from when I was born I think the experiences of life are a great story, although your dad has post traumatic stress there is also a degree of going back to childhood through his demetia, wanting his mum. And also through the loss in his life. Life is full of knock backs and in someways this makes you stronger.

marshallka

di3004 wrote: »

Thanks Pinknico.:A;)X

Yes can't wait, I think he will settle down more to be honest in the main hospital where they are trained for his requirements.

I know we are all very stressed in the family, but mum seems to forget this, she rings up about 10 times in the morning to tell me that no one understands how she feels, in fact she said the same thing last night, I worked myself up over this and ended up ill in the toilet most of last night....:o.
We are all doing what we can and the best we can, and cannot suggest anything else now.

To be honest I think the fact is that we have always been there and she refused dad outside help before, where she kept telling SS that her family are there to help all the time...., we explained we can do our little bit but all have children to deal with as well, and wish she accepted this professional help before.

Sorry to be soo gloomy folks, do not listen to me.......:o, it will soon sort out in the end.;)

You sound a bit stressed TBH Di. You need to watch your own health too. Its hard to divide yourself sometimes. I hope you get some rest too.

di3004

dialysis wrote: »

Dont worry Di you should write a book hun lol I have often thought of doing that you know my life has been full of illness from when I was born I think the experiences of life are a great story, although your dad has post traumatic stress there is also a degree of going back to childhood through his demetia, wanting his mum. And also through the loss in his life. Life is full of knock backs and in someways this makes you stronger.

Hi di and thanks.;)
Yes it's all mixed emotions with him your right.

A book is what I did think about doing as well lol.....:D, it would be a huge amount to read, I must say that lol.:D

He was one of 4 brothers, and as a child his dad was a Army Clerk, but dad was sent on farms to work from the age of 9 and what he made, his dad taken the money from him, it was found out that the money was given towards his older brother for a University or whatever they called them back then, grammer school perhaps, from the age of 15 may have been 14 dad worked in the coal mines, again what he earnt was taken from him.

This is why now, which is ever so heartbreaking, he has a plastic container where he is clinging on to the coins in that tub, even at the hospital, bless him, there is only a few pence in there as well, but he is holding on to it for his life.

Here I go again.......:o lol.:D

di3004

marshallka wrote: »

You sound a bit stressed TBH Di. You need to watch your own health too. Its hard to divide yourself sometimes. I hope you get some rest too.

Thanks Marshallka;), I think your right.....I was physically sick last night and have not eaten anything today loss of appetite, oh apart from a dry slice of toast.....:o.
And trying to be everywhere between the kids, especially dan etc, and parents etc, my head have been in a mess.
I wanted to nod off earlier but had no chance, am hoping to catch up on sleep tonight if I can. XXX;)

dialysis

di3004 wrote: »

Hi di and thanks.;)
Yes it's all mixed emotions with him your right.

A book is what I did think about doing as well lol.....:D, it would be a huge amount to read, I must say that lol.:D

He was one of 4 brothers, and as a child his dad was a Army Clerk, but dad was sent on farms to work from the age of 9 and what he made, his dad taken the money from him, it was found out that the money was given towards his older brother for a University or whatever they called them back then, grammer school perhaps, from the age of 15 may have been 14 dad worked in the coal mines, again what he earnt was taken from him.

This is why now, which is ever so heartbreaking, he has a plastic container where he is clinging on to the coins in that tub, even at the hospital, bless him, there is only a few pence in there as well, but he is holding on to it for his life.

Here I go again.......:o lol.:D

Awe Di bless him it must be ever so hard for you your dad has had it tough love but he has a lovely family around him and he knows how much you care for him hun. Enjoy your time with him hun and he will improve wants he gets the care he needs Take care love we are thinking of you. You know where I am if you need to rant, shout, moan, tell me your life story or need a chat lol.

di3004

dialysis wrote: »

Awe Di bless him it must be ever so hard for you your dad has had it tough love but he has a lovely family around him and he knows how much you care for him hun. Enjoy your time with him hun and he will improve wants he gets the care he needs Take care love we are thinking of you. You know where I am if you need to rant, shout, moan, tell me your life story or need a chat lol.

Thanks Di.:A
Hey be careful.......I will send you a book to read soon lmao.....:rotfl::D.
Awe I do not want to bring anyone down with me......:o.
You lot are great on here, glad I have you all to talk to, thank you. XXX

marshallka

di3004 wrote: »

Hi di and thanks.;)
Yes it's all mixed emotions with him your right.

A book is what I did think about doing as well lol.....:D, it would be a huge amount to read, I must say that lol.:D

He was one of 4 brothers, and as a child his dad was a Army Clerk, but dad was sent on farms to work from the age of 9 and what he made, his dad taken the money from him, it was found out that the money was given towards his older brother for a University or whatever they called them back then, grammer school perhaps, from the age of 15 may have been 14 dad worked in the coal mines, again what he earnt was taken from him.

This is why now, which is ever so heartbreaking, he has a plastic container where he is clinging on to the coins in that tub, even at the hospital, bless him, there is only a few pence in there as well, but he is holding on to it for his life.

Here I go again.......:o lol.:D

My dad was one of 6 and he also worked from age 14 down the mine for the same reasons, to provide for the family but he knew nothing else and it was what they did. He was in a pit fall very early age. He was always greatful though for the simple things in life and it seems so unfair that he had his life taken away at such a young age. Life is a !!!!! sometimes Di. Thoughts.

pinknico

Oh Di you poor thing, please dont work yourself up over this and definitely dont make yourself ill over it. This is probably just your mums way of trying to cope and go through her emotions and she probably thinks she should be able to do it alone and cant. At stressful times things are said and shouldnt be taken to heart though thats easier said than done. Once things settle down I am sure all will be ok.

Hope I havent added to your upset posting this, I just want you to be alright and to know we are all here to listen to you and support where we can.

Love you loads Di,xxxx

dialysis

di3004 wrote: »

Thanks Di.:A
Hey be careful.......I will send you a book to read soon lmao.....:rotfl::D.
Awe I do not want to bring anyone down with me......:o.
You lot are great on here, glad I have you all to talk to, thank you. XXX

youre welcome hun will you read mine too lol;)