Chosing the sex of a baby

tiamai_d

OrkneyStar wrote: »

I did not say OP would not love the child, I just question why she wants a girl so much ? Why would a girl be better than another boy ?
I love my DS but would have loved a DS or DD the same and would never try to produce one or the other.
Nothing wrong with wanting a baby but a specific type of baby is a different story imho.

She didn't say she wanted a girl, she said 'ideally we would like to have a girl'. It's perfectly natural to be drawn to having offspring of both sexes just as it is natural to have no preference at all. There does not need to be some great conspiracy into why she would like a girl, maybe just so she can pink and frilly things? Maybe so she can have someone to go shopping with in a few years? Maybe because she would like to spend hours plaiting hair?

clairec79

google chinese gender selection it comes up with tables based on your age at conception and the month you conceived in giving you what gender you 'should' have.

It did hold true with me but others have said it didn't with them.

Apparently vegatarians are more likely to have a girl (but then I had two girls, still don't eat meat and my last was a boy but I have MORE girls than boys so maybe)

As long as you love the child whatever it is when it is born and don't make him or her feel that they were a mistake for being the wrong sex (so if you have a boy please don't call him Helen etc) then I don't think it's wrong to have a preference for one over the other - although getting both genders can go to extremes my aunt had 10 boys before her girl (and that was boy/girl twins) - and of course everyone thinks she stopped because she got a girl (most sane people would stop after a dozen anyway) - as my dad said he doesn't know that was the reason, her marriage ended that's why there were no more

OrkneyStar

tiamai_d wrote: »

She didn't say she wanted a girl, she said 'ideally we would like to have a girl'. It's perfectly natural to be drawn to having offspring of both sexes just as it is natural to have no preference at all. There does not need to be some great conspiracy into why she would like a girl, maybe just so she can pink and frilly things? Maybe so she can have someone to go shopping with in a few years? Maybe because she would like to spend hours plaiting hair?

I took it as the phrase 'ideally she would like to have a girl' means similar to 'wanting a girl'.
As for the pink and frilly things and shopping well this reinforces my point that this would be for selfish reasons (if indeed the OP does want to do these things!).

tiamai_d

OrkneyStar wrote: »

I took it as the phrase 'ideally she would like to have a girl' means similar to 'wanting a girl'.
As for the pink and frilly things and shopping well this reinforces my point that this would be for selfish reasons (if indeed the OP does want to do these things!).

I really have nothing else to say to be honest. You are obviously too engrossed in your own little world where you are correct and nobody else can possibly be.

Oliversmummy07

Wow some people really turn this into another thing entirely!! :mad:

I agree that it is natural to want children of both sexes if I had two girls ideally I would like a boy it doesn't mean that I am saying one sex is better than the other. And as for doing it for selfish reasons what the f**k is that about no one decides to have a baby for the sake of the baby do they? don't really get what the person was going on about here.

I mean come on I'm not actually talking about medeling with science or nature as I think this wrong and unnatural.

I was just wondering if anyone had used methods such as eating a certain diet etc.

Thank you to everyone who fought my corner :T

tiamai_d

At least the 'any more than 2 and your polluting the planet' brigade haven't started yet!

Or the 'having children is just selfish cuz the world is overpopulated enough!' brigade.

Now they are fun to watch. :rotfl:

lesley1960

OrkneyStar wrote: »

I took it as the phrase 'ideally she would like to have a girl' means similar to 'wanting a girl'.
As for the pink and frilly things and shopping well this reinforces my point that this would be for selfish reasons (if indeed the OP does want to do these things!).

We all have children for selfish reasons , can you honestly say every decision you have made in your life has been for the greater good of others:rolleyes:

tsstss7

I don't agree that the sex of a baby is just down to the bloke. I have two ds's and I think that I am one of those people [STRIKE]condemned [/STRIKE]destined to just have boys. This is because I'm fairly sure that both times I concieved just after my TOTM which is when you are normally told you are safe. lol - therefore I am theoretically ovulating in week one of my cycle instead of week two/three giving the quick swimmy ones (ie the boys) an advantage as the "stick around long lived" ones from before get flushed out!

I think they suit me better anyway so it's probably for the best.! :T

Spendless

I never saw the programme but my mum said she saw a 'chat show' just after Victoria Beckham had her 3rd son, and someone on there said after 2 boys there was only an x % chance of getting a girl. I think the % was around 30%. I fall into this category as we conceived 2 boys (lost the first) before having our daughter. I also think we conceived in the way described by milliebear-as I said earlier, though this was chance.

Bitsy_Beans

Spendless wrote: »

I never saw the programme but my mum said she saw a 'chat show' just after Victoria Beckham had her 3rd son, and someone on there said after 2 boys there was only an x % chance of getting a girl. I think the % was around 30%. I fall into this category as we conceived 2 boys (lost the first) before having our daughter. I also think we conceived in the way described by milliebear-as I said earlier, though this was chance.

I was told by a friend that only around a third of subsequent pregnancies are of a different sex to the first so about 30-33% would be the same.

I don't have any tips as have never bothered but I am not convinced it works.