Chosing the sex of a baby

Oliversmummy07

elainew wrote: »

Be greatful that you can healthy children whatever the sex

I am VERY VERY grateful that I can have healthy children.

And would love my baby no matter the sex.

As stated before I was just curious.

And it would be nice to have a mix.

OrkneyStar

skintchick wrote: »

My friend had two boys and tried everything to have a girl for their third.

She had a boy.

you cannot determine the sex, you get what you're given.

I agree with this, there are all kinds of things you can try, but never guarantee.
Wanting a girl is selfish more than anything, all you can ask for is a healthy baby!

Oliversmummy07 wrote: »

And it would be nice to have a mix.

Nice for you, but would make no difference to the baby or your other children really!

tiamai_d

OrkneyStar wrote: »

I agree with this, there are all kinds of things you can try, but never guarantee.
Wanting a girl is selfish more than anything, all you can ask for is a healthy baby!

Nice for you, but would make no difference to the baby or your other children really!

If your going to be like that, all you can ask for is a live baby, if it's not healthy what are you going to do? Leave it at the hospital? Oh no, I didn't want one of 'those'.

The OP has clearly said that she would love the baby no matter what, so why are you all getting so worked up? I'm sorry for those of who have trouble conceiving naturally but it is no excuse for being !!!!!y toward other people.

OP - I have ended up with a girl third time, I have no idea how it happened as I was supposed to have a minera coil in place. Good luck trying and have lots of fun doing so

NoAngel

tiamai_d wrote: »

If your going to be like that, all you can ask for is a live baby, if it's not healthy what are you going to do? Leave it at the hospital? Oh no, I didn't want one of 'those'.

The OP has clearly said that she would love the baby no matter what, so why are you all getting so worked up? I'm sorry for those of who have trouble conceiving naturally but it is no excuse for being !!!!!y toward other people.

OP - I have ended up with a girl third time, I have no idea how it happened as I was supposed to have a minera coil in place. Good luck trying and have lots of fun doing so

I totally agree with tiami_d here, why are people taking this to an extent to which it was clearly not intended?! Speculating about the sex of a baby is hardly a bad thing, it was such an innocent question!

Idiophreak

I have no experience in these things whatsoever, but the whole idea gives me the creeps a bit...Being able to chose...or more to the point wanting to be able to...just doesn't seem very natural to me.

If you try for a boy and get a girl, you're going to be a little disappointed...I'm not sure that's a good thing to feel, before your baby's even been born.

But, I guess you want what you want...and if you're already thinking you'd prefer one or the other, the ship's kinda sailed, so I guess trying to get a certain gender won't hurt anymore...

OrkneyStar

NoAngel wrote: »

I totally agree with tiami_d here, why are people taking this to an extent to which it was clearly not intended?! Speculating about the sex of a baby is hardly a bad thing, it was such an innocent question!

Speculating is different than actively trying for a particular sex.
I do wish the OP well, I just think it is for her benefit that she wants a girl, not the benefit of the child(ren).

dolally_2

If you want a girl marry a pilot!! Seriously, I am a raf brat and all the pilots wives had girls :rotfl:

I actually tried the "scientific approach" with my second and did get a girl but that could have just been fluke.

PolishBigSpender

milliebear00001 wrote: »

The only way to up your chances of a boy/girl semi-scientifically, is through timing the conception. Eggs live for about 48 hours, and sperm can last up to 8 days ish. There is some evidence to suggest that XX sperm is heavier and swims more slowly, but lives longer than XY sperm, which is lighter and faster, but doesn't live as long. Sooo, if you are able to time conception so that the longer living XX sperm are greater in number than the XY's (which should have died off in greater numbers by days 5-8) then you can up your chances of having a girl.

The method is clearly inexact, but might be worth a go!

It's all fine, except that sperm can only be "X" or "Y" (a haploid cell) After the fusion with an egg (which is always "X") we get either XX for a girl, or XY for a boy.

It's nor very reliable, but good luck anyway!:o

milliebear00001

OrkneyStar wrote: »

Speculating is different than actively trying for a particular sex.
I do wish the OP well, I just think it is for her benefit that she wants a girl, not the benefit of the child(ren).

Nobody ever has children for the benefit of the children - after all, they don't exist when we decide to have them! Having children is a choice people make because they think it will in some way enhance their own lives - otherwise, everyone would adopt - that really would benefit millions of children. Plenty of people get the children they didn't expect/prefer to have - doesn't mean they love them any less when they are here. Preferences are just a part of life.

OrkneyStar

milliebear00001 wrote: »

Plenty of people get the children they didn't expect/prefer to have - doesn't mean they love them any less when they are here. Preferences are just a part of life.

I did not say OP would not love the child, I just question why she wants a girl so much ? Why would a girl be better than another boy ?
I love my DS but would have loved a DS or DD the same and would never try to produce one or the other.
Nothing wrong with wanting a baby but a specific type of baby is a different story imho.