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Would you and kids go on hoilday without partner

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  • My partner has only been on dialysis for 3 months, we was told he would be on dialysis last year so we cancel last year hoilday(2008) so the last hoilday we have had for in august 2007.
    my partner is aware that you can have kidney dialysis while on hoilday as the renal clinic have told us, but like he says he dont want to pay all that money for a hoilday in uk or abroad and spend most of the time stuck in a hoisptal and after the kidney dialysis he is tired so after 4 hours being machine he goes to sleep so like he says that whole day would be wasted for everyone.....
    he says he aint got a problem if some one else like my parents take my kids on a hoilday so they dont miss out, but like ive told him i cant ask my parents to take my kids on hoilday as thats my duty in life as they are my kids, my kids dont have any concact with there dad side of family so no joy there ......
    i suggest going away for new years eve for 4 days 30th dec to jan 2nd
    but as wedensday 30th falls on his dialysis day he said he would be to tired to travel to butlins then his next day for dialysis would be on new years day (friday) said by going on dialysis that day he would be tired for rest of day then we would be going home next day jan 2nd, like he said waste of money ....
    what do i do.......
  • nessquic80
    nessquic80 Posts: 328 Forumite
    I work in a renal unit and there is loads of place you can go on holiday all over the world, even if you want to stay in this county too, skegg has got its own holiday unit, think of it this way, its for approx 3.5 hrs dialysis on the designated days, so you could all still enjoy your holiday together as a family. Ask your other half to enquire at his unit and they will provide you will info! HTH
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  • nessquic80
    nessquic80 Posts: 328 Forumite
    oh sorry you beat me to it christmaspud!!
    always on the lookout for a bargin always better when its free!!:T

  • onetomany
    onetomany Posts: 2,170 Forumite
    i would go hun and puit my kids first sorry if this seems harsh tbh i think hes beening childish
  • Errata
    Errata Posts: 38,230 Forumite
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    Dyalisis three times a week means this family are living with exceptional circumstances. It's not the kids fault that these circumstances exist, nor should they be made to suffer because they do. If finances permit, it will do the kids the world of good to see something of the world - even if it's from a caravan at Southend.
    It's unfortunate that the emotional blackmail card is being played, but this may say more about the state of the relationship than the fact of a holiday.

    OP - you are only in the wrong if you allow yourself to be put in that position by someone. In this case - don't.
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  • tiff
    tiff Posts: 6,608 Forumite
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    Dialysis sounds like a permanent thing, unless he gets a transplant? So do you and the kids go nowhere without him for ever? I would put my foot down and book a holiday. Your kids want memories with you, not with whoever you can get to take them on holiday (as you said yourself).

    My FIL had a stroke many years ago when he was 42, my MIL has been on many holidays without him and also with him too. He is disabled but is able to manage on his own without her. She gets a break and he gets to appreciate everything she does for him!
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  • tarajayne
    tarajayne Posts: 7,081 Forumite
    Me and my kids go every year at least twice without OH. We usually try to do one holiday together but it depends on work. He doesn't mind at all but we usually do short breaks. We are off next weekend for 3 nights. I find the holidays more relaxing as he tends to get a bit uptight with them in small accomodation.
    Too many children, too little time!!!
    :p
  • fsdss
    fsdss Posts: 1,429 Forumite
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    one of my closest friends has a husband who has dialysis 3 times a week (they now have a set up at home where he doesn't traipse to hospital every other day)
    they go on holiday once or twice a year and always organise it through their hospital.

    last year they went to crete where he had dialysis at the hospital infront of a huge window where he enjoyed watching the kids in the pool outside.
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  • itzmee
    itzmee Posts: 401 Forumite
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    My mum used to take us kids away without our dad every summer and we had a great time. Dad would get a break from us, and we would have a better time without dad giving us a hard time!

    I don't see why you can't take the family away for a short break with or without your OH. Butlins/Pontins do short breaks which would be fun for the kids - why should they miss out because your partner is ill? If he really loved you then he would want you all to be happy and not miss out because of his illness.
  • amersall
    amersall Posts: 17,031 Forumite
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    it'smeinit wrote: »
    I think he's being a little selfish for not wanting children to have a.. holiday!
    It's not their falt that he's unwell. There life should not be put on hold!!
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