The depressively optimistic moneysaving thread

absolutebounder

whitevanwoman wrote: »

By the way, AB, I listened to one of those MP3 downloads today, well most of it, the one about the mask.... lots of food for thought....

Im glad you find it food for thought. i think actually all people with depression (make that just all people) should listen to it even though it is not really directed at all people.
Understanding the damage that trying to please others can do is a great step forward into personal awareness. I might one day record my own version of that so that I dont tread on other peoples toes with regard to copyright. Let us know what you think when you have listened to it all.

absolutebounder

whitevanwoman wrote: »

I need to listen to it all again, as I start listening and then it provokes thoughts and my thoughts start wandering and I realise I've missed about 10 mins. I know that I have probably taken in subconsciously what I've missed whilst my thoughts are wandering, but it is a bit annoying.

That is perfectly normal. It is good that it provokes thoughts and yes you may miss bits but you will get there in the end

One thing that does spring to mind though is how do you know which is the ego and which is the self? I don't know which one is the real me - the capable, seemingly confident, chatty, friendly person (who actually thinks everyone dislikes her and is Miss No Friends and is a thoroughly nasty person) or the depressed, miserable, lonely person who sits at home crying hating herself and hating the world. Somehow the 2 persona have become so intertwined that I don't actually know who I am anymore. But I do understand how we become what we project and I think that I have spent the best part of my life practicising so hard at becoming something I'm not, that I've lost my real identity and don't actually know how to be or how to find the real me.

He does answer this but very basicaly when you find yourself shying away from something it is the ego being challenged.
im sure as he says that the real you is far nicer than anything you have contrived. this is the silly thing. we behave in a certain way to make others happy but because we dont have the resources inside us to be that person cracks appear and the ego is challenged which makes us shy away from challenge and we find many people like us less or take advantage of us.

Space_donkey

whitevanwoman wrote: »

Sorry, but can't resist showing you these - they've definitely got the "Ahhh!" factor too...

Ha ha whitevanwoiman I used to have a labrador that was as stupid as that. The only time she wasnt stupid was when food was involved:rotfl:
shes dead now which is a pity because she was always there wagging her tail and looking happy. I used to really miss her and to an extent I still do but now I am happier in myself and have you people here to thank for that as I have learnt so much from MSE about depression that I have been able to think things through and realise life is great even if I havent heard about my job yet:mad:

absolutebounder

whitevanwoman wrote: »

good luck Space Donkey, all fingers and paws crossed here for you.

ps - I think the dog is 1/4 lab (his mother was a staffy cross labrador I think) but he might as well be full labrador where food is concerned. He is in disgrace today for raiding the tub of mouldy bread, rotten fruit and spud peelings which were going to go in the compost bin. He left the fruit and spud peelings but ate half a loaf of mouldy bread. He's currently hiding outside in my yard, he knows he's in disgrace and so he is keeping out of the way!

pps - my old collie died at xmas and I still miss him terribly and still get upset thinking about him. I'm really glad though, that you are happier in yourself nowadays.

I like staffys and labs so you have probably got a pretty good mut there but lock up the food:rotfl:Dogs are great because they need exercise and if you go out walking or jogging with the dog you get the exercise too and exercise raises the right brain chemicals and is known to help combat depression.

absolutebounder

Please help adopt pinky the cat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dR_LHlFwlhk

Space_donkey

whitevanwoman wrote: »

good luck Space Donkey, all fingers and paws crossed here for you.

Hey Guys I got it :j. The delay in telling me was caused by the recruitment lady being off sick. Hope it wasnt swine flu :rotfl:.
Just shows what positive thinking can do. A year ago I doubt I would have got out of my front door let alone thought about work. Thank you all guys:j:j:j:j

whitevanwoman

Brilliant news. All hands and paws clapping here for you :T

Very well done.

Now go out and buy yourself something new to wear on your first day so you look and feel great.

Lita_Ford

Well done Donkey. Looking back over your posts you have done well and shown us all what can happen when you really want to beat depression and get working again. Keep up the good work. Now you might be inspiration for others.:T

absolutebounder

Space_donkey wrote: »

Hey Guys I got it :j. The delay in telling me was caused by the recruitment lady being off sick. Hope it wasnt swine flu :rotfl:.
Just shows what positive thinking can do. A year ago I doubt I would have got out of my front door let alone thought about work. Thank you all guys:j:j:j:j

Great news Girl. Hope you really enjoy it.:beer:

absolutebounder

Since I put moneysaving into the title of this thread its about time I gave you the opportunity to save a bit.
Im thinking of recording a few MP3s to help people with various aspects of life including some things that are commonly associated with depression. I have been talking to clients and people in general and it seems fear of rejection is a big problem holding people back from doing things and meeting people. So If I recorded a MP3 on this subject would you like it free of charge?