MSE Pregnancy Club VIII

Fitzio

Just catching up before going to bed.

Welcome Tigsteroonie/Gemmas5677.
Hugs to Nickabella. Thinking of you and keeping fingers crossed. x
Congrats to Fairydawn on joining team blue! There are an awful lot of boys on this forum!

Sami – hugs to you. You will probably know if your OH is capable of actual physical violence. Everyone gets angry sometimes, but if you think it could get worse and you aren’t happy in your situation, do something about it whilst you are still young. It’s not ideal with 2 kids, but you obviously have a good relationship with your family so at least you have support. If it were me, I would talk to your OH tomorrow and get him to explain why he thinks that’s acceptable behaviour, especially in front of your child. Hope things seem better in the morning.

Night all. x

astonsmummy

Tigsteroonie wrote: »

Hello people, time for me to stop lurking and crawl officially into the forum ....

I'm pregnant!!!! Wooohooo!!! This is kinda an unofficial "MSE baby", as both myself & Marleyboy (the proud dad) are regular posters in various other places on this site - I normally live in the Arms, he's a crusader in the consumer rights area.

I guess that means somebody had better add me to the list of expectant Mums ... edd is 1st November, though I have a sneaky suspicion this babe will appear on Hallowe'en like a gruesome thing :rotfl:

Ooh hello, congrats! :j

astonsmummy

Nikabella wrote: »

Thank you for the hugs.

Just got back from the doctors, the doctor has said that if it's a miscarriage there's nothing they can do so doing a scan tomorrow is pointless as then I might need another one. He has made me another appointment for tomorrow evening & has said that if the bleeding has stopped then we'll make a decision on that & if it hasn't then he'll refer me to the EPU tomorrow night. I wish he had referred me straight away as i don't know how I'm going to face going to work tomorrow not knowing either way.

I'm presuming if the bleeding eases off he won't send me for a scan but I don't think that I'll be able to sleep at night so I will pay for a private one. I'm praying the bleeding stops, it doesn't look like it will. He said I should rest & avoid heavy lifting - easier said than done when DD (who's 2) likes to be cuddled & carried a lot. Everytime I lift her the bleeding gets worse.

A.x

((((((((hugs hun)))))))))))

astonsmummy

feelinggood wrote: »

Oh, I know what all the pain I felt yesterday was, and why the bumpy motorway trip was very painful - the baby is now engaged! No idea how much, they don't tell you here.

Ooh yay! not long now chuck :j
You still cant have your bairn before mine though :rotfl:

slscarborough

Krystaltips wrote: »

I won't tell you lot that my hubby earns less than £15k a year then... And we can still afford for me to be a sahm... Although we don't have luxurious things like a car.. Or holidays... But then I grew up in a family where both parents worked full time, we were fobbed off with childcare and summer schools... And still never had luxuries and holidays... I'd of rather had a parent at home...

Hubby's got the day off work tomorrow, he's coming with me to antenatal and will get to hear baby's heartbeat... And Aimee will be there because no school too!

My OH earns less than £17k a year and I too plan to be a SAHM. I know we will manage - it isnt as hard as you think. We do have a car but as OH is a mechanic we only have fuel/tax/insurance to pay on it. When I had DS2 I went back to work and OH stayed at home as I was the higher earner but I hated every minute of it which is why we agreed to switch when I was pregnant this time around.

With DS1 I was a single mum and worked full time and I do feel he missed out on alot always being at holiday clubs etc. At the time though I didnt really have a choice.

astonsmummy

gemmas5677 wrote: »

Astonsmummy - have you got SPD too? I have been so uncomfortable in this pregnancy - have had what feels like constant BH since 20 wks which make me double over & leave me unable to move. But the SPD is something else - taking Cocodamol too but hate being dosed up.

Yes I suffer with SPD, but the pain isnt SPD pain, if only it was at least then I'd know why it hurts so much!
Good luck hun x

astonsmummy

Sami_Bee wrote: »

My day was rubbish!!
OH got up to take his van back to work and he was walking to his mum's from there and she brought him back here so she could see chris too.
Then OH took Chris with him to drop dyson off to be fixed, I said I'd saty here and have a shower (don't like having shower while I'm alone with Chris as he makes a mess and also now scared he'll fall down the stairs again and I wouldn't be able to get to him as quick) I was catching up on here 1st tho and still was when he got home, Chris went in the kitchen and ignored our calls for him to come back so OH just flew into a rage like the hulk or summat, stomped in the kitchen screamed at and smacked Chris then came in here and literally snatched webby off me ripping the plug n mouse out and screaming (Chris understandably was screaming crying while this was going on)
When I told him to stop be ridiculous and give me back my webby he told me to f-off so I grabbed Chris, 'ran' upstairs and calmed him (while trying to not cry coz I seriously thought if I tried to do anything like snatch webby back he would have hit me) so I just got Chris calm shoved some clothes on and squirted some deo on then went out in the car. I headed for mum's as its close and she has everything needed to look after Chris but she was out so we dognapped my Meg and went to a local walk thing http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=89718&id=541141775&l=1f00278e31
We had a lovely time but Im not speaking to OH and don't know what to do:(
He doesn't get proper angry often but when he does he gets a real red mist and the last 2 times he's lost it I have seriously been scared and both times Chris was there screaming in tears, I don't want to bring up my children with a dad like that but I just feel 'stuck' at the moment, I love OH but I can't live with someone who can't control their anger and most certainly will not allow my babies to grow up witnessing that!! sorry I know you lot can't do anything but I don't really have anyone to talk to

Oh dear sami, doesnt sound like a nice situation to be in, and i've been there as a child and an adult.
Hope you and little man are ok hun xx

wildfrog

I had "morning" sickness the whole way through my pregnancy until 2 weeks before I gave birth, my doctor prescribed me anti-emetics because I was getting dehydrated. I was also offered acupuncture. My advice would be to keep in touch with your doctor, and keep them updated. I struggled with this as I kept thinking "i'm only pregnant I should be able to handle this" Eat what you want, even if it isn't healthy, better unhealthy food you can keep down than healthy food you can't .
Good luck with it, hopefully it will ease in a few weeks and you will be in the blossoming stage!


WF

astonsmummy

Morning all, It's took me ages to catch up!
I'm ok today, asked my neighbour to get MW to call but she didn't call, she did tell my neighbour to tell me to go hospital but it wasnt really practical as OH was ill and I had noone to watch Aston.
I'm not in as much pain as yesterday but it's still sore, so I will see if I can see someone after my growth scan which is at 12pm.
Also I think I've had my show this morning! :eek:

slscarborough

AM - it is starting to look like you might beat me too it!!