how old were you when you had your first baby?

feelinggood_2

lil_lady wrote: »

i was 20 when i had mine concieved on my 20th apprently! thinking back i know i was too young .
i was diagnosed with a few hip problems and i was left crawling to bed after a full days work doctors told me if i was older it would be much worse so now i have to think now or never for any more . my plan was to have first baby at 25-27 and i do tell young couples i know not to even think about it!
oh and i wanted twins to get it all over and done with!

The Midwife mentioned that to me, how hip and pelvic problems are worse once you get to 24 or 25. I've suffered quite badly at 22, so I'm hoping it won't be that much worse next time round (not sure if I want to go through this again though or if OH will let me!).

louisehj

I was married at 20 and on a break for our first wedding anniversary we decided to start trying for a baby as my husband found out his job had been made permanent. I got pregnant within 3 months and had our first son at 22. When my son turned 2 we decided to try again for another baby and fortunatley fell pregnant within 2 months and I had our second son aged 25.

No more babies for us, DH had a vasectomy in december. I would have liked another but cannot do it financially unless we win the lottery and the chances of that are not good!!!

thebaileys

I had my son the day after my 26th birthday,for me this was the ideal time. I had enjoyed many holidays with the girls and my partner,had wild nights out and felt ready to settle down.I have a good job, as does my partner and we have a lot of time for my little boy.I never ever feel I am missing out, as I have been there and got the t shirt! Everyone is different but If I had my son at a young age I don't think I would have been ready.

smileykylie_2

38 and still have not had my first - not from lack of trying. Also did not meet my DH until 33 so off to a late start anyway!!!

fingers crossed it will happen but you never know - took my mum 9 years but she started much younger!!!!

thebaileys

ah good luck smileykylie x x x Im sure you will be fab parents x

Turtle

I am 34, partner 36, been together 13 years. No children. Always assumed I would when I was younger, but neither of us want them at the moment. Would never say never, but I really do not like the thought of it. Does anyone else feel like this? It feels to me that although it's more common now to not have children, people (women) still seem to think you're a bit odd if you don't want them.

frankie55

I was engaged at 18, married at 19 and had first baby at 20, this was all reasonably normal in the late sixties, I had my second at just 23. I can remember at arond 25/6 wishing that I had had sone free time to get more education. but my parents made it clear that I had to leave school at 16, they thought they had done enough for me letting me take O Levels as I could have left school at 15. I had a choice of jobs on leaving school and had four or five in my first year of working life. I settled for working in a bank and was able to contiue working part time after my second child until she went to school when I went full time. I was ambitious and was adirector in my own company by the time I was 32. Reccession meant the company failed and I went to university in my mid thirties and forged another career, It all seemd so easy compared with the stress young school leavers have now and the graduates having to lower their expectations. Sadly, I had to retire at 50 due to ill health which messed up our plans for a comforable retirement. However, we are good friends still with our children and their families and are still regarded as 'cool' by our 17 yr old GS, he regularly raids our music collection and regards our critiques of his own singer/songwriter efforts as still relevent and listens to our advice. Music is very important in our family. It's worked for us to have had our family at a very young age, our DS also had family at a young age, but DD waited until she was 28 for her only one who is now 10 and abit of a handful. There are two sides to the 'when should you have a family' debate. We had jobs and homes available in the 60's and no 'student debt' holding us back, we also started out with much less in our homes, home phone lines were a luxury as were cars and fitted carpets and fancy washing machines etc. Perceptions were different then and we didn't worry so much about what others had, I also had much more energy to cope with the children and we had caravan/camping holidays which were huge fun but didn't cost a fortune.

mickey54

debtfreein4years wrote: »

im 23, heading for 24 and am thinking in a year or so would be a good time to start a family. just wondering what ages everyone else started?

gxx

19 when I had my first...27 the last...and then, I was considered an 'old mother'....in the
mat ernity unit with 'children' of 15/16.

thebaileys

I don't think anyone who decides to not have kids is odd,I have friends and family that have chosen not too have kids.Not everyone wants children,and if you do decide its not for you no one should judge you. x

lil_lady_2

feelinggood wrote: »

The Midwife mentioned that to me, how hip and pelvic problems are worse once you get to 24 or 25. I've suffered quite badly at 22, so I'm hoping it won't be that much worse next time round (not sure if I want to go through this again though or if OH will let me!).

your the first person iv come across with the same issue. iv heard loads people do suffer but not after pregnancy .