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Hi there.
first timeposter on this thread, never quite knew what to say before but as I'm soon to be attending therapy sessions I thought I maight give venting a try here first if thats OK.
Background: I suffer from chronic Neuropathic pain in my knee. My orthopaedic consultant has given upon me and signed me out of his clinic. the Physio's have suggested I no longer attend as the physio is doing nothing but causing more pain, the pain clinic have basically said, get used to it and try some different drugs, I've had to go back to work after 4 months as my sick pay has run out but I'm in more pain now than I was when I went off. I fell 4 times last week, i'm so tired and have not slept for 3 nights, but when I do get some sleepit's no more than 2-3 hours broken sleep.
I enjoy my job but I keep asking myself if it's actally worth it when I come home and feel like carp and in pain. I'm permenantly wound uplike a spring. I feels sorry for my wife and kids as I'm always wound up and snappy.
I don't drink, don't smoke (anymore) although the idea of smoking cannabis in the hope of getting some pain relief has become more and more appealing recently.
I do try and get out of the house at least once a day to 'walk' althouigh this is difficult as I have to stop to catch my breath veery 5 minutes or so. But I need to do it to have some sanity, even if it's just taking the dog to the end of the street.
I've tried various anti- depressants but never seem to last more than 3 months on them before I give themup as I hate how they make me feel.
I'm sat here in tears almost as I have to go to work tomorrow, i've had no sleep, I don't know if I'll get any tonight, and I know that in less than 12 hours I have to put myself through a considerable amount of pain to get into work.
I'm ashamed to say i've thought of calling it a day, but it's not fair on my family for me to do that.
I've applied for DLA in the hope I can get it and reduce the number of days I have to go in work so I'm not in so much pain and have more time to seek therapy/relief for my condition.
Can't think of anyting else to say.[SIZE=-1]To equate judgement and wisdom with occupation is at best . . . insulting.
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hi dori2o, sorry to hear that u are in so much pain, i can sympathise with how you feel, as physio made my knee pain worse too, and i too was told by pain clinic to live with it, after seeing a surgeon, who said i needed a knee replacement, but i'm too young to have it now, so i have to wait, mines caused by arthritis by the way, not the same as yours, and obviously not as painful as yours
you have a family, so dont give up on life, they need u too.
wouldnt recommend the cannabis either, heard it can cause a lot of mental problems too.
if it were me, i would try the dla route, also if i working made the pain worse, i would cut the hours.
sory cant be more helpful, and i hope you feel better now its daytime, somehow the night makes things so much worse
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Thanks sock-knitter,
I've had a bit o a better day today. The pain is still as bad as always but I got a call from a counsellor that work are arranging for me so thats good news I suppose.
I still have not had the letter I was promiosed from the pain clinic for me to get my Morphine tablets so that was a little frustrating, but I'm going to phone the doctors secretary and see whats happening.
I have a meeting at work tomorrow to discuss 'options' with regards to my sickness absence (366 days sick in 4 years), hopefully we can start the ball rolling on my potentialmove to a department closer to home with more suitable hours.
One bit of good news however is that my wife has been reccomended for promotion at work. It will be a full timeposition instead of part time, but it's more money and may mean I am able to cut some of my hours.
Another day chalked off, lets see what tomorrow brings.[SIZE=-1]To equate judgement and wisdom with occupation is at best . . . insulting.
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Feeling between a rock and a hard place
Been looking for somewhere else to live but choices are limited for the price we want to pay.An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T:rotfl: :rotfl:
:eek::mad: :beer:
I am no expert in property but have lived in many types of homes, in many locations and can only talk from experience.0 -
Feeling carp tonight.
Everytime I think I'm getting somewhere I get kicked in the teeth.
I have a number of reasonable adjustments made at work to help facilitate my being their due to my disability, one of these is that i have to sit as close aspossible to the amenities (kitchen/toilets) in the office. The desk I am in now is the closest possible to these.
I am moving to another part of the office next week as part of a reshuffle of the whole floor that we work on. I went to check out where I am going and I'm not even close to the toilets or kitchen. Spoke to my manager and they have said that 'it's about the same distance as where you sit now and all the seating has been arranged so just deal with it' But the seat is not 'about the same as i am in now. I told the manager I want to move to the closest possible seat and was basically told no.
Going to see the Union tomorrow but I'm fighting a losing battle all the time.
The OHA was supposed to write to my GP in February to get a detailed report on my condition and the likely prognosis so he can further advise my employer. they sent me a letter on 4th February to say this had been sent. I've not heard anything so I called my GP who confirmed they have had nothing.
Just so sick and tired of thinking I'm getting somewhere then being knocked down a coupleof pegs.[SIZE=-1]To equate judgement and wisdom with occupation is at best . . . insulting.
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Feeling carp tonight.
sorry couldn't resist it
I'm yet another depressive. Stuck in the trap between being too ill to be employable (been fired twice due to it!) and too well to be 'too ill to work'. Too overqualified for anything I could do and too impaired to do anything i'm qualified for. Too tired to retrain and not quite tired enough to give up.0 -
same crap different day for me.
hope things are looking up or will look up soon.
work seems to be a !!!!!! it seems, my company seems to have the slogan 'it for the good of the company' with the tripe that going on. i even turned round and basically said what about for the good of the staff? look after us as much as the company and everything should be hunkey dory.
trouble seems to be that the pressure on managers is increasing and making it then harder still for everyone else?0 -
Hi all, it's been a long time since I posted here ...my marriage broke down, I moved a few hundred miles away for a new start and have found that it doesn't matter where I am, the depression comes with me.
Only thing that's different now is I feel even more isolated than before. I moved to the city thinking I'd find it easier to meet people when in reality it's much harder. I know I'm the only person who can help myself, but at the moment I feel like I've shot myself in the foot by making this move away from all my family and friends.
I wasn't going to post here, I don't need sympathy, just wanted to get it off my chest really. I hope everyone is doing ok, take care all. Alison xxBetween two evils, I always pick the one I never tried before0 -
hi all, hope alls well and getting thier.
im so cross with myself as ive been comfort eatind and in the cycle of spending money im saving for clothes and so on on crap.
it a bad habit i got into and kinda relatied to depression. i dont feel to bad in myself, im stressed as a bit cos of work bieng pants plus of a possible going out with someone but i gotta snap out of bad habits.0 -
Me too UnluckyPlease forgive me if my comments seem abrupt or my questions have obvious answers, I have a mental health condition which affects my ability to see things as others might.0
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