Support for people with Depression

sal-ad_daze

Grrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

My ds is on Incapacity benefit (or whatever it's called now) as the Dr says he just can't work at the moment. He sees the doc every month to monitor his progress and he signs his sicknote at the appointments.
The DSS in their wisdom have put my ds forward for a medical which was scheduled for today.
We turned up at the JobCentre with ds already worried and stressed out ( and, very quietly, me too!) to be greeted by a young woman kicking off in full flow in the middle of the busy main road! We were escorted by the security guard (!!) to the waiting room where four people were sitting waiting. After sitting staring at the wall for half an hour we found out that the other people had been waiting for at least an hour:eek:
Ds then panics as he needs help to go to the loo and hadn't brought anything with him so, there he is, already stressed sitting in a tatty waiting room- right next to the water machine hoping against hope he didn't need the loo!!! I manage to quietly calm him down, thankfully he didn't explode (as he could have done so no one else realised how stressed he was).
3/4 hour later, the poor security guard (the receptionist never came out of the back room) who was all of 60 yrs old and smaller (in height) than me came into the doorway and said they had a problem. One of the dr's had done his quota and gone home and the other was up to his quota so one of us would have to go home and have another appointment!:mad: The bloke who'd been there first said he was going nowhere, he'd been there over an hour and a half and was staying! We immediatley said fair enough we'll have another appointment sooo we have to go through it all again in 2 weeks time!!!!
It's the unkown that's making it stressful, what questions will they ask, how can he prove he's unfit for work? If he says the wrong thing then they'll revoke his benefit and I don't know what we'll do then!
Oh, !!!!!!:mad:

Miroslav

I've had a bad day. I will reply to you all, but right now Flatmate is being a pain.

Uniscots97

Hugs Miroslav. my OH is treating the house more like he's a lodger! Its really upsetting me, rows over bills (I'm expected to pay all council tax go figure), really upsetting day today. I burst into tears 4 times. I'm totally fed up everything from work to home life is getting me down. i just want some 'me' time but can't seem to get it. I was supposed to be getting peace and quiet to do some job applications and OH keeps coming in every few minutes. I feel like screaming. he's starting rows over nothing. I'm expected to be the strong one, my reflux is really playing up (bad chest pains from lots of acid) and my skin is breaking out. Just feel so alone yet can't get any peace for 'me' if that makes sense.

Louise22

Anyone else experience this?

I have had a really good couple of weeks, now the past couple of days I have felt really hopeless and teary and very very low. How can my moods change like this?

Bronnie

Not at all wanting to diminish any problems you are experiencing with depression, but I think a lot of us experience the feelings and mood swings you describe, Louise.

I wouldn't say I was depressed but I also notice that my ability to cope and my reaction to different situations can vary depending on mood. So something that I can brush off one day, can affect me more deeply on another occasion. I try to deal with it by consciously reminding myself of that fact!

I think there will be lots of people on here, with and without depression, who will identify with what you say .

It might be a little more heartening to you to discover that a degree of what you are experiencing, is "normal" to many women for a variety of reasons and not exclusively because of depression.

Interesting thread to start, I think.

Louise22

Bronnie wrote: »

Not at all wanting to diminish any problems you are experiencing with depression, but I think a lot of us experience the feelings and mood swings you describe, Louise.

I wouldn't say I was depressed but I also notice that my ability to cope and my reaction to different situations can vary depending on mood. So something that I can brush off one day, can affect me more deeply on another occasion. I try to deal with it by consciously reminding myself of that fact!

I think there will be lots of people on here, with and without depression, who will identify with what you say .

It might be a little more heartening to you to discover that a degree of what you are experiencing, is "normal" to many women for a variety of reasons and not exclusively because of depression.

Interesting thread to start, I think.

Yeah I agree entirely although I think because of my depression I always assume any changes in mood is due to that. I keep telling myself that everyone has off days

They just scare me because they make me think I am returning to my dark days.

sal-ad_daze

I'm writing this here in the hope that it will make me feel better! I don't really expect a reply, it's just a 'release' really.
PMS and depression don't really mix well together so atm I am feeling as though I'm sitting here waiting for a body blow that I know is coming but I don't know where from IYKWIM. I feel as though I could burst into tears any moment and my insides are so tense. There's nothing really that has sparked this off, I'm worried abut ds, he has been diagnosed with severe depression and has a medical soon for the new version of Incapacity Benefit ( I just can't remember it's name), I'm his main support at the moment, he just can't cope with every day life and his dad just doesn't seem to 'get it'. I miss my dd terribly, she got married recently and has moved to another country that I can't afford to visit. I have stuff I'm involved in (voluntary stuff) that I really should be working on but I just can't seem to get there.
I'll get thtough this ( I always do) but I just wish I could shake this ruddy depression off forever and enjoy my life!

sock-knitter

sal-ad daze, i know exactly how your feeling right now,(((big hugs))) i have pms too, and am already in tears tonight.
for those that dont know me or cant reme,mber me, i used to post here regularly a while ago, i have twins sons mwith special needs, they are 15 now and even harder to cope with, i get no support, and am rock bottom, BUT everynight, i pray to god, and each day somehow i get thru another day
shaz xxx

Indie_Kid

Hi, now been in here for a bit. I could do with some advice please:
In March, I became very depressed and my response to this (much to the frustration of a friend) was to run away. I also became very clingy and obsessive towards him - to the stage where he threatened to take out an injunction against me.

Over the last week, I've started feeling this way again. How do I avoid a repeat of what happened in March?

sock-knitter

sh1305 wrote: »

Hi, now been in here for a bit. I could do with some advice please:
In March, I became very depressed and my response to this (much to the frustration of a friend) was to run away. I also became very clingy and obsessive towards him - to the stage where he threatened to take out an injunction against me.

Over the last week, I've started feeling this way again. How do I avoid a repeat of what happened in March?

seriosly think what would happen if he took out an injunction, would you be able to stay away then, or would you risk being arrested. if you could stay away from him with an injunction, then you can stay away from him now, cos you know what might happen
sorry i cant offer much useful advice