Support for people with Depression

Bennifred

Oh Hannah - sorry you are feeling this way

You are doing what so many do, with the putting on of the brave face for everyone. I did the same thing for a long, long time. You don't need to feel this way, though - honestly! Do another brave thing. Please make an appointment to see your GP and tell him/her what you have told us. They won't judge you, and it can be an enormous relief just to tell someone how you are feeling.

If you find it difficult to do for yourself - do it for your children. You may think they aren't aware that there is anything amiss, but they'll surely notice the difference when you start to feel better!:j

hannah-j_3

Thank you so much for your kind posts i've followed the link and hopefully posted a brief post in the correct place. I feel quite for being so random and asking for some direction, but I just know I can't go on like this anymore. xx thank you xx

Bennifred

I'm hoping you'll post tomorrow and let us know that you've made that appointment with your GP!

You absolutely are not wasting his time, and he definitely won't tell you to go away! (GPs are there to care for you - and you're paying their salary, ultimately)

geminilady

hannah-j wrote: »

Hi, i've had a link to this thread from another thread i posted asking for some advice, i hope thats ok? and this is the right place to post?

Hi Hannah and welcome.This is the depression support forum.I have read through your other thread and you recieved some very good advice.There is no need to feel embaressed going to your gp just tell him how you have been feeling or copy out your first post on the other thread to give to him.From what you have said it does sound like you ould be suffering from depression the loss of motivation,not feeling like getting washed and dressed are common symptoms but it is best for a doctor to diagnose.Have you been fealing like this for a while?

diable

As McNeff posted, go to your GP and ask to be referred to a Wellbeing Practitioner as they will use low intensity therapy so it will be a good start.

josephine82

Hannah

Definitely go and see your GP. Don't put it off a minute longer!
Speaking from experience - at least 3 or 4 episodes of moderate depression- if you can attack it properly with medication and talking therapy then you stand a good chance of being fine and feeling much better.

I can say, wholeheartedly that I wish i had taken up the counselling they offered the first time i suffered from depression. I might not have carried on feeling blue for 8 years and spending of fortune on private therapy :eek:

Anyway, there is light at the end of the tunnel and the help is there, I promise.

feel free to PM me if you want to talk to someone who has experienced it.

ziggles50

While you wait for the GP appointmrnt or CPN assessment. Take a look at www.livinglifetothefull.com. If the waiting lists are bad then you can at least get some tips etc. The site was given to me by my CPN and it is NHS supported.
Good luck

sassyblue

aah Hannah bless you, l get like this at times (in fact l asked for a book recommendation recently), it's nothing to be ashamed of and you really should see your doctor. If he/she tells you you're wasting their time they want a slap round the head with a wet fish, the first doctor l saw told me l'd feel better if the 'sun came out for a few days' !! l struggled on for months then found out he didn't believe in depression so l tried another doctor and was given medication that gotme back on track.

Good luck, they say depression is a sign you've been too strong alone for too long.

Fiddlestick

hannah-j wrote: »

I seem on the outside (when I venture out) well dressed and 'with it' but in truth on the days im not working i find it so hard to get dressed and make any kind of effort to do anything, i literally have to force myself, yet at night all i feel is lonely and sad and hate going to bed because i know i wont sleep until 4/5 am :-(

Sounds like classic symptoms of depression.

It's treatable and there is help out there, but the first step is asking for it.

Go and talk to your GP - they deal with depression every day and will be able to help you

Best of luck and don't let it get you down - it IS beatable!

Louise22

hannah-j wrote: »

Thank you so much for your kind posts i've followed the link and hopefully posted a brief post in the correct place. I feel quite for being so random and asking for some direction, but I just know I can't go on like this anymore. xx thank you xx

Bless you Hannah, that sounded exactly like me. Here is my story - hopefully it make you feel a tiny bit better and reassured that you are not going nuts or are alone, even although you feel like you are....

Although thinking back I think I have had some issues for a while, things reached a head about 4 months ago when I had a panic attack at my work. It hit me like a tons of bricks, and I seemed to spiral into a state of being more down and more lost as time went on. It reached its lowest point in July when I was on holiday with my bf in Rome - all I wanted to do was stay in my bed, which confused me and scared me in equal measure as I was in such an amazing place!

After I came home, I went back to work for 2 days but then called in sick for a week as I could just not face it for some reason. To cut a long story short, as the week went on, I lost it. Constantly felt anxious, constant hysterical crying and feeling, for some reason, that everything was lost. I can honestly say I was terrified I was losing my mind. I am lucky that I have a lot of support but in my mind I felt so lonely, so abnormal as everyone else seemed to plod along life and cope but I couldn't. I couldn't stop the overwhelming sadness and feeling of loss. I can honestly say I was terrified.

I made the decision to go to the doctor, and I can honestly, 100% say that although it was embarrassing to an extent breaking down infront of the doctor (I was so, so upset) it has been one of the mst important things I have done. He was utterly supportive, utterly fantastic with me. He reassured me that things would be ok in time, and that I was not losing it or going mental like I thought. Although I felt so alien, so isolated, he explained to me just how common it was. This did not make me feel better, although now it does a tiny teeny bit.

He asked what I wanted him to do - this felt like an odd question to me as I had no idea, so I just mumbled 'make me normal' (as i felt so abnormal and alone). I asked what he would recommend and he said anti-depressants and counselling Now, you would never meet someone who previously was so against medication for depression, but something told me to trust him, and I knew that trying these would be better than how I was feeling. It was definately not an easy decision, but I cannot describe to you the difference they have made. The doc signed me off my work for 2 weeks to give me some chill-out time. I wont lie, the first few days on the tablets were not easy. I felt ashamed that i had to take a little pill to function, annoyed with myself as i felt it was my fault that I had become like this. The days got easier though.

I have been on them 8 weeks now and I can honestly say that the tablets, along with the counselling i have had so far has had a fantastic effect on me. I still have my off days, and they are not easy to cope with when they come but they are less frequent now. i still worry about the future, what effect the tablets will have on me when I come off them and things like that. Overall, though, I am doing ok My bad days/moments are nowhere near as bad as they once were

The main thing is, at the moment, I feel more alive inside. Please, please go to the doctor. There is nothing to be ashamed of, and i promise they will help you. Keep posting here too - its a fantastic support and although you feel alone and maybe scared of what is happening, I promise you that you are not alone. MASSIVE HUGS XXXX


(Sorry for the long post)